babysitter?? how to trust them

Stephanie - posted on 10/20/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )




i never go out b/c i am afraid of somethinng bad happening to my daughter. and it puts stress on my relationship w/ my fiance. any tips on questions i should ask or how to go about getting a sitter?? it's just really hard for me to leave her w/ someone i don't know that well. any advise would be useful. thanks, Stephanie


Kelly - posted on 05/22/2010




i am a mother of three and i too have problems leaving my children with anyone other than family. but if that isnt possible for you. when i was 18 i took on a nanny job and what the mother did was i went to their house every day for 2 weeks, i took care of the baby with her in the home so she could see if i was responsible enough or not. hope it helps. =)


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Joy - posted on 12/30/2011




I know exactly how you feel. I have only trusted my mother with my oldest who is now 6. And now we have a new one is 3 1/2 months. One, I don't have money for a babysitter. Two, I do love taking care of my kids, not saying you don't at all, I just don't know what to do with myself without them around. But my mother moved to another state before I had my second boy a few months ago and have been slowly trying to trust people I know with my oldest. I still am not comfortable with leaving my youngest with anyone. If you need a babysitter, might I recommend seeing if there is a SafeSitter program in your area where you can get referrals? I was part if that program when I was younger and learned so much. Also, have them come over for a while so you can see how they do.

Rebecca - posted on 10/28/2010




i am also very aprehensive about leaving babe with a sitter i use familly, though when i was a child i had endless baby sitters, i was to hyperactive for them to deal with me lol. U can get a house camra that goes in a teddy, so u could watch yr sitter from a camra in a teddy on your lap top in a neoghbours house or cafe round the corner, so u can give the person a couple of trials to se what they are like with your child, and if there is a problem u cam be home quickly, i am thinking about getting one hope this helps :)

Leanne - posted on 09/04/2010




I find it hard leaving my daughter with even family. She is 14 months old and has only been babysat three times. The first time was my mil at my house I had to go in for a preop session at hospital, the 2nd time my sister watched her while I had a LL party that was at night so bub was sleeping and she just had to be here for her in case. Third time was probably the hardest but the one I felt safest with (although still really nervous) and that was a friend that I have only known about 5 months but her and her husband have adopted a little girl about a year ago and absolutely love her to pieces. She is so well looked after and they have child proofed there home. So sometimes its not family who you always feel safer with. In saying that if I had to actually hire a babysitter I would definetly be asking for references, first aid certificate and want to see how she interacts with my daughter first. Im not sure where you are but there are companies that run meet a sitter night.

ALEXIA - posted on 06/13/2010




I have this problem as well! i dont have family in this area. I have one sitter for my kids and she is my daughters previous preschool teacher (who i worked with as well). other than her i don't let people watch them.

Stephanie - posted on 06/05/2010




well reading your posts makes me feel alot better. I had others starting to tell me i'm over-protective. but i just bring myself to leave her with anyone yet. thanks

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The only people I trust to watch my daughter are my parents or my boyfriends parents. Family is a safe bet.

Chloie - posted on 04/05/2010




yeah im the same as kimalee i dont truse anyone with my boys but have got my mother,i dont like to rely on her but. Maybe if u are gonna get a sitter get them to actually come out with u n ur daughter a few times

Kimalee - posted on 11/10/2009




I never used a baby sitter, because just like you, I dont trust anyone with my children, But I do have my mom to babysit them when I need it, so I think that if you can, (if your mom is living close) ask her. If not, make sure to get a background check on all people you may consider as a baby sitter. Hope this helps :)

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