Whats your story?

Amber - posted on 05/06/2013

I got pregnant at 16 , just two and a half months before my 17th birthday . I was at the start of my senior year , and had so many hopes of going to Winthrop University in the fall for Journalism . At the time , me and my child's father weren't together , we had known each other for about two years , and had this relationship type thing but it just wasn't official . I was in love with him at the time , I have to admit , I still am . And I honestly believed that he loved me . I took a test Oct 6 , let him know , and then we had our first fight, because I absolutely refused to get an abortion . There was supposedly another girl pregnant at the time , and supposed to of been a few other kids that were his . They either weren't his or never even existed . He left me , I thought I'd be in it alone , and I remember being okay with that . The 24th , the day my horrible morning sickness started , he told me the girl went and got her depo shot and lost the baby (that never existed). I was told that I could keep mine , and he was "there". He'd constantly get mad at me and pick fights just because he could and wanted to . I don't even remember what they were about . He'd always leave , and come back , and I'd always allow it because I thought my child deserved and needed it's father in his life . He was in a relationship one day , and the next he was trying to be w me .It was crazy ! I got in to one , thinking it'd help me move on , stuff happened , he got mad , and all of a sudden I was the wicked witch of the west just because I did what he had done w like 15 other girls just in the first five months ! He was in and out . Never did a thing for me or my child . Refused to go to classes , appointments or fix my cravings . He'd tell me a week in advance he'd go to the appointment , then turn around and be like "Naw , Ion wanna go bay , I'll go next week". I had to be put on home bound because my morning sickness lasted from 6am-12pm EVERYDAY ! I held my hair back by myself , went to every single doctors appointment alone (unless my mother or sister went w me) , walked around w my face broke out in red dots from the heaving , went through about 20 stress tests , the glucose test , spotting , millions of tears . I literally cried myself to sleep every night we were arguing . Because I was so scared that my child would have to grow up w/o a father like me . I even cried because he wasn't there when I found out I was having a boy . All this because of thirty mins of some bomb ass sex ? I was surprised that he was there at the hospital , it meant a lot that he came and held my hand , although he later complained about it . I underwent a c section and stayed at the hospital by myself . He'd be there for a little while , but he didn't stay like he promised he would . Ashton does not have his last name , and he isn't a junior , because I didn't think he deserved one , he wasn't' worthy of a junior . He has my last name because I felt it was best . We weren't married , and now that I think about it , it would of been like rewarding him for running through 30 different females while I was pregnant . He would of though that he could always do that kind of stuff and I'd always give him whatever he wanted . We never discussed baby names , it was always what he wanted and there was no room for discussion . In the beginning , when I thought we'd work it out , I was all in , but after a while , I changed my mind . Over the course of summer 2012 , he changed , or so everyone thought . At first , he wouldn't get to my house until about 3 am , then he started coming during the day , times varied , if he was playing ball w the boys , it'd be 8 or 9 . We got back together , straightened shit out , he even "dropped his hoes" . In October we moved in together , while I suspect he was messing around w his old hoes while we lived together , maybe never even stopped , when I'd be visiting my mother , I'll never know , I don't think I want to . I found his contacts list having more and more of the old numbers in it , and out of the 25% of the time I ever said something , I was nagging him . I kept my mouth shut the majority of the time , about old numbers popping up , unnecessary texts and even calls at 3 am . But I was the worst person ever when I said something . In January , my son and I were forced to move out , he needed "space". That same night , he brought a female into our home , and yes , it was still out home because me and my son still had (and have) stuff there . He screwed another bitch in our bed ! Since then he calls only to argue , he asks about our child , but that is a brief topic , the convos mainly consist of me being yelled at at cursed out . Our relationship isn't a good one , sometimes I wonder if it ever will be , I wish we could work things out . But , I'm so hostile to him right now because of the way he treats us . He stopped me from going to Cosmetology school when I had to move , and destroyed my family . My son is one , and doesn't have much to do w him . Hasn't since around September , so he was only four months old then . It's going on nine months , and he is scared of him . Every time he sees him , he starts screaming . "C" came in the other day , and tried to say he didn't know him . He hadn't seen him in a month , but he hadn't saw his grandmother or aunt from that side in the same amount of time and went straight to them . And he hadn't seen my niece in nine months , and was all over her . Ashton has a good memory , he can hold a grudge , and he can throw a tantrum , he's definitely going to remember when someone hurt him . Sometimes , I wish I hadn't missed my Senior Prom , Senior Week , parties , and Graduation . I should have walked that stage . Maybe I should have asked if they'd let me skip out on the practice , but I could barely move after that c section , so I missed it all together . I don't wish to take my son away . Ashton made me grow up , I got my shit together , and I grew the eff up . I just wish I would of known it was all going to turn out this way , that way I could of chose better .

Tiffany - posted on 02/06/2012

Hi i am Tiffany and i am 21 i have a 3 month old baby boy and i am a single parent while i was 3 months pregnant i heard the father of my son got his girlfriend pregnant who is due in a few weeks i cried for days because he told me to get an abortion but was fine with her keeping his child. he has a 4 y/o daughter already from an ex girlfriend. he denied my son from the day i told him i was pregnant never came to any of my appointments and when i told him what i was having he didn't care. Me and the 1st baby mama get along well...me and baby mama #3 are trying to get along but i don't know how it is going to work out because the first baby mama has told me she wants everything to be about her so i don't know and i feel that he doesn't have that much of a connection with my son and i'm affraid he will stop caring about my son when she has her son....it's hard and i've spent nights thinking and crying....i am so hurt as well after i had my son i felt like i couldn't even be happy because i just want him in my son's life and i feel he won't be for much longer....he never was there my whole WHOLE pregnancy i had a stressful pregnancy and when i was in labor he was away so he wasn't there...so i have hate that he will be here to see his other son born but wasn't here for his 1st son's birth...what should i really do?

Alisa - posted on 02/25/2010

Hi my name is Alisa. I am 17 and I have a beautiful 5 month old daughter. I live in Arkansas. I had my daughter about 3 months before I turned 17. The father isn't around much so she really doesn't know him. I live with my mom and dad. I am a jr in high school but I am home schooling so I can take care of my daughter. I plan to go to colleg to be a teacher or a counslor (not sure if I spelled that right). I love my daughter with all my heart. I am currently dating someone but he hasn't meet my daughter yet. He does know I have a daughter cuz we went to public school together. He is my best friend and he supports me so much (unlike my daughters father).

Sian - posted on 01/07/2010

Hey only just joined this thing but heres my story!

Was born and raised in ireland and started going out with my daughters dad when we were 12. Just before i turned 13 i moved to England but would still go to ireland to visit alex and other family. On one of my visits we concieved our daughter :) I was 16 when i fell pregnant and then 17 when she was born. She was borh August 8th 2008....best day of my life! It's really hard for me because her dad lives in a different country and we arnt a couple now but i cope. I love being a mommy......best thing thats ever happened to me! Lola is now 18 months old and is growing fast! On a trip back to ireland a few months ago me and lola'a dad slept together again and i fell pregnant. im now 15 weeks pregnant and loving it!! At the moment im still stuck in ireland because of the snow. was only ment to be over for xmas and new year but not gone to plan!! When i get back to worcester im going to make all the arrangements for me and lola to move back to ireland. It's where i belon and i want my children to be close to thier dad. x

Stephanie - posted on 12/07/2009

im 18 . i got pregnant at 17 and my baby is due in february i cant wait til hes here! i am from missouri and me and my bf(babys dad) have recently broke things off... looking to find more teenage moms to be friedns with

Caryn - posted on 11/15/2009

i had my twins when i justed turned 13 now im about to have a another girl and im still 13 what do i do

Esteena - posted on 11/10/2009

I'm just gettin on this so im months late to repling to this but here is my story.... I was 15 and meet this guy. A few week after i turned 16 I got pregnant. her dad was in and out of jail my whole pregnacy. I have a beautiful baby girl when I was 16 with he dad no where in sight because he got arrested the day before for being dumb. I tried to make us work for my baby girl but 2 yrs later i finally said enough was enough. I rasied my daughter all by myself from birth. Don't get me wrong when her dad was home he was great. he pulled her out of day care to spend all day with her got her everythign she need in more but I spent more time being a single mom then not. Trust you'll have your ups and down the one thing I learned is if somebody offers you help take it. My mom turned her back on me as soon as she found out I was pregnant so I had no close family to help me raise her. but I had friends who loved to take her on car rides so I can take a nap or play aunty and have her spend the night. most people are over protective but i think those are the ones who go nuts faster.. Me and my BF had girls 6 months apart she never let any body take her kid now she is on #2 and doesn't know what to do because she can't take havin #1. me i had my needed break and can't wait to do this all over again!!!

Chelsie - posted on 11/02/2009

my name is chelsie, i am 18 and ihad my son 12 days after i turned 18... he will turn a yr on dec. 18. he is a handdful.... all of the time but i still love him more than anything and wouldnt trade him though sometimes i think that it would have been better to have him when i was alittle lder but things happen for a reason i guess... my babys daddy and i were together for 2 yrs and broke up a wk b4 i found out i was preggo and i was so moody i wouldnt tell him... he ended up getting a girl preggo 15 weeks after ihe got me preggo.. but w/e the 2 boyswere born 5weeks apart because the other mom had her son 10wks premature.. he is in my sons(tristan) life as long as i take him to see him but he dont pay anything and i really dont want anything from him... his other son(eric) he pays for and he is still with his mom... for now at least...thats pretty much our crazy story lol....

Hailey - posted on 10/25/2009

I got pregnant at 15 had my son at 16 my boyfriend by my side the whole time...Our lil boy Ayden will be 2 December 22 I am now 18 and 7 months pregnant with a lil girl and am due the 31st of December...My boyfriend was by my side until I started having complications in this pregnancy...2 weeks ago he broke up with me I'm heart broken...We were talking about a wedding and all this stuff then all of the sudden he breaks up with me...I can't seem to let him go...I stopped texting him and all that because his family and my family tell me that if it's meant to be it will be. Even though everything happens for a reason I'm still mortified...

Sabrena - posted on 08/31/2009

I had my daughter, Jailee, a couple months after turning 15. Shes gunna be 3 now in a few weeks and im 18 now. Im pregnant again and hes due Christmas eve, poor guy lol. I definitly think it gets a little harder as they get older and are able to talk back and get attitude lol but its nothing you wont be able to handle. I know with me I had a short phase where I didnt want to be a mom anymore but once I got out of it my daughter and I were closer then before. I love her to death and know that nothing else matters other then my children and their well-being.

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Jessica - posted on 07/16/2009

Do you have a cousin named Morgan Golightly? lol

Jessica - posted on 07/16/2009

How old are you now? How is everything going with you two?

Claire - posted on 07/16/2009

hya i am claire i had my son lyndon when i was 14.

Jessica - posted on 07/08/2009

Lol I have a big family too so I hear alot fo funny stories they are my favorite. Haha that super funny that she didnt remember for a while. Time really does fly!

Tianna - posted on 07/08/2009

aww.. yeah i love the funny stories!

it's funny cuz i have a big family and i would hang out with the kids and their moms a lot.. and my older cousin was over about a week ago. and i reminded her of a funny moment about her son. and she was like wow really!? lol because he is now 10

.lol it took her a while to remember what i was talking about

.. time sure flies !!

Jessica - posted on 07/08/2009

Yea definately! I've learned alot that I never thought I would learn from being a mom lol. So do I! Its so helpful to hear what to expect and how to handle it! And alot of stories are funny or cute which is nice.

Tianna - posted on 06/28/2009

no problem.. all i thougth of was teething rings before i had my son..

funny how much you learn from your own experiences tho eh?

and of course its always nice to talk to other moms/parents to get advice.. i always love hearing new stories and learning new ways of doing things with my son.

Jessica - posted on 06/22/2009

Ok thanks =)

I tried that numbing jelly but it doesnt seem to work very well lol. Really? that might work good idea thanks. Yea he's been teething for like 3 months now and is normally pretty good with it but the last few weeks hes been horrible. thats what im doing tonight with my son hes actually sitting in my lap right now asleep because he cant sleep unless im rocking him. yea I agree but im glad its not only young moms it happens too. no you helped alot with that tip thank you so much.

really? good idea! thanks I'm really not sure what to do for teething so you've really helped alot thanks

Tianna - posted on 06/22/2009

its cool. i dont mind questions at all.

i've never tried it on my son ( just never thought of it) but they have that jelly suff that numbs the baby's gums .. my mom would always say to let the baby suck on a cold wash cloth ..teething does get tough though... every baby is different .. it only happened twice but there would be times when my son was teething where all he would do is cry.. so all i could do was give him tylenol and rock him so he could sleep comfortably .. things do get hard when you have a child. and there will be times when you get frustrated.. but the way i see it thats gunna happen whether your 14 or 40 .. all moms go through it. so just because we are young. feeling like things are hard does not make us any less of a good parent ..

sorry i couldnt give you much tips on teething

.. i just remember my son had a toy that vibrated when he would bite on it.. something like that might help.. or teething rings. most of them say they have sterrilized water in them just in case.. lol i was happy to know that when i bought mine

Jessica - posted on 06/21/2009

Dont worry about it I understand not replying fast lol. I'm glad that you love being a mom still many people decide that they dont want to be parent anymore after a while so it always good to hear that you still love it lol. Yea I already have started to baby proof because he is crawling now and already igetting into things but he know what no means and listens when I say it so its nice lol. Im glad to know that its not as hard as most people say because people keep telling me its really hard and that I cant do it alone lol. Do you know any secrets to helping them when they are teething?My sns teeth are suer close to in and he is horrible at times because they hurt so bad and I dont know what to do for him. Sorry for asking so many questions lol.

Tianna - posted on 06/20/2009

sorry for replying so late

i LOVE being a mom

sure it can be tough at times.. but i think it gets harder if you choose to make it hard.

it gets tougher when they start to walk and get into everything but just make sure you baby-proof thing (im sure you will.lol) but its not as hard as people make it out to be

hmm..

i can't think of much else to say right now..

but feel free to ask any questions about how things are when your little one gets older.. my son is now a year and a half. and i would love to help with any questions you might have

Jessica - posted on 06/17/2009

Really? Is it hard? I have a 5 month old and its not too hard right now but everyone tells me it gets way harder when they are one and up is it true? Do you like being a mom?

Tianna - posted on 06/16/2009

i got pregnant when i was 16 and had my son a month after turning 17

.. i am almost 19 now and my son is a year and a half