How do you deal with ppl questioning your choice of being a stepmom?

Gina - posted on 08/20/2010

Those people just have to understand the heart wants what the heart wants. Funny thing, I actually didn't know my boyfriend had a son till I found out at our first date. Myh first thought was, do I want to get involved....but when I met his son and spent more time with the two of them, I just fell in love with both of them and I couldn't ever imagine myself without them. Thoes people just don't understand that.

Amanda - posted on 01/30/2010

Honestly, I have a really alternative marriage. I started as the friend that would come over to see the kids and just be out of my apartment. Turned into a few days baby sitting. And then that evolved into a relationship. What's different? Our ages... I'm 24, my husbands 38, my step son is about to be 15, my step daughter is 10 and we just had our own 2 months ago. Friends and family would ask me all the time, why? Why him? and Why a guy with kids? I simply answered "I love him. I can be myself around him. And, he's the only guy I've ever been with that treats me how a girl should be treated."
...Some still didn't understand.

Ashlee - posted on 01/07/2010

I have to disagree a little with the attitude of previous post, but that's only because i'm a different personality type. I was the opposite - not specifically anti-children, but definitely not the least bit eager to be mom-ing it (although willing).

My answer to that tough question they ask? I simply shrug and ask, "What's the alternative? Not being with the man I love, my soul-mate (etc.)? Well that's obviously not an option, so we make do with what we must, and it gets a little easier every week."

Or if you want to keep it really simple, just smile and say "Well, I fell in love." Because it's true, isn't it? That's why we're in this boat in the first place.

Danielle - posted on 11/16/2009

I hear you on that, When people ask me i honestly just say i love it! I really do though, They are great even though there are some rough times and sometimes i do think about well why didnt i just find a single guy? Its hard but they are so many more pluses to it then what other people think, They assume run, I love kids i love my man, I think im just going to jump in. Everyone has baggage, Just everyone elses is a little different then ours. It willl get better and people do eventually stop asking, Especially when they see how happy you are.