I don't want to watch my 3 year old stepdaughter while my husband goes to work.

Monique - posted on 03/09/2012

why on earth did you marry a man with a kid if you don't want a relationship with the kid. he keeps asking beacuase he wants you to have a relationship with her. also should you want your daughter to be close to her sister?

Jenn - posted on 01/12/2012

I'm going through the same thing with my hubby's kids. I used to love watching them and wanted to have them around all the time since we used to have so much fun. But now, they have begun to grow up and have become miserable kids who only want to play video games 24/7. Lately, whenever they have a day off at school, their BM does nothing to find a sitter for them or even take the day of herself to watch them and since my hubby works 10am-7pm, I am the only person at home so BM figures I'm her personal babysitter. I don't enjoy having them here when their Dad isn't because anything I try to do with them, ends up in a huge argument and crying to their BM on the phone session. They're rude to me, to each other and also to their little brothers. There is never a day that they're happy or satisfied with anything we do or want to do. The most simple thing like going outside results in tears and a call to BM about being forced to play outside. I'm so tired of it. I know exactly how you feel.

Cora - posted on 11/08/2011

I have 3 stepchildren with 2 bio moms, I NEVER had a problem caring for my stepchildren while my husband was working. I have a 15 year old SD, and we have our differences and we get along. I have a year and a half old daughter of my own and a son which is due in a few short weeks, I can find time to spend with each child....the way Isee it is if you got with a man who has children from aprevious relationship (whether you hate or like the ex) it's a packaged deal, you have children to care for as well. Maybe my point of view is biased since I had astepmother who shunned me as a child myself. Having a SP that doesn't want anyting to do with you is hard on a child of any age.

Tasiana - posted on 12/09/2010

i kinda feel the same way with my step daughter and son. I feel my SD is a prime example of her mother and hate her mother. her mother has done somethings to me and my relationship that i dont like and better yet tell her kids not to listen to me which makes it harder bc my BF doesnt believe she does that. We separated for awhile n he still asked me to watch them and i would want to say no but hes the type that makes u feel bad so i would do it anyways. i never would want anything taken me away time from my son but if i want to be with him then i have to take what he is and what comes with him to a certain extent though. but u might want to try to get a relationship with her bc when she gets older and starts to talk smack to ya ur gonna want to have a good arguement bc im sure there will be one

Kirsty - posted on 11/15/2010

y dont u wanna spend time with her. if u dont know her that well now. it will be too late. i got my step son when he was 7 i would have liked it when he was younger he knows different and i think its getting harder for me now that he is 10. with the 3 year old u r teacher her new things. she kinda knows no different. now owuld be a good time tp spend with her. get her to know u u can be a happy family u just have to want it.

Elizabeth - posted on 11/14/2010

I think first you need to find out why you resent your SD, look deep in yourself and figure out why.