7 year old attitude!

Kristin - posted on 03/30/2009 ( 16 moms have responded )

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I have a 7 year old daughter and she drives me crazy just about every day. She just has such an attitude all the time. I've tried teaching her that it isn't polite to talk to adults while rolling her eyes and waiving her hands around like a princess, but it doesn't ever seem to stop her. She also has developed a habit of telling me all of the things she is "going to do" and I have to remind her that she can't just "do" she has to ask. And then lately she's been lying to me. Nothing ever major - just little white lies and I can't get her to stop. What can I do?
I punish her by taking things away that she treasures and she's so stubborn she just tells me to "keep it then". I've never thought highly of spanking, but the thought crosses my head every day. If anyone has any insight, please help with some ideas.

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Debbie - posted on 04/01/2009

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Hi,  my son is 7 and sounds just like your daughter. His attitude is like a teenage girls at the moment. He has an answer for just about everything. When i ask him to help me out with anything he rolls his eyes and asks why should he do it. If i ask him to get me something he does the same. Somedays i feel at the end of my tether with him. My son also tells little white lies sometimes and i always know when he is telling one because he has a large smirk up his face. He his fine whenever he goes round to friends houses and their parents always say to me and my husband "what a sweet little boy".



I think it a thing every 7 year old goes through because some of my friends children are the same but i might be wrong. Hope things get better soon.

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Bridgette - posted on 10/18/2009

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My son is exactly the same....mouth of a 16 year old, climbs up the highest trees 2 scare me 2 death and constantly defies me, must be a phase i hope, a little more mature way of the terrible two's maybe?

Jennifer - posted on 07/27/2009

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It's great to hear everyone is going through this, but how do we get it to stop. I have twin girls who will be 8 in October, the one twin is sweet as pie, will do anything to please you and yet, the other is totally opposite. Defiant, sassy, totally witchy. I'm at my wits end with her. Today she dropped the kitten on the floor intentionally. I asked her why she would try to hurt him and she shrugs. What do you do? She's grounded but could care less. No toys, no friends, no nothing and it doesn't matter. I really need help with her.

Jennifer - posted on 06/30/2009

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It must just be a 7 yr. old thing. Because I swear my daughter thinks she's 7 going on 17.

Marjo - posted on 06/29/2009

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Oh, great, I'm not alone. :D My daughter is going through the same phase. It feels like she doesn't like anything or anyone these days, and has to be against everything on principle. Today she told me that she doesn't want to come with us on a holiday trip to a spa, animal park and other places. When I got enough hearing of that, I told her that she doesn't have to come if she despises everything so much, we have relatives who can babysit her during that time. She didn't talk to me anything for 30 minutes (blessed silence!) and then she liked everything we had planned again...
And it was just one of many confrontations, lots of similar things happen several times a day. She just drives me crazy and it feels that these two weeks left of my summer holiday are veeery looong, it would be a lot easier to be at work.

Louise - posted on 05/28/2009

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Lol was like reading about my own daughter .... she isnt too bad on saturdays i think she is picking things up at school as her class is amoung the p7's at break time ... i have tried taking things off her but she says thats ok mum i have this or this to play way ... i have started grounding her now which i think helps abit esp now on the longer nights as she see's her pal's out and she cant ....

Marilyn - posted on 05/22/2009

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WOW~ I know what you mean. my 7 year old does that "Ohhh noooooo" if I say something. Noo its always someone else or something else even if I see that she did do it right in my face. Ohhh nooo i was just moving it this way. Unreal. We have to keep it together and not let the little misses win! LOL! ;-)

Pooja - posted on 05/12/2009

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hi this is more of a mom problem than the child's.i can say that because i have a teenage son too,i have gone through this phase with him,this is the hyper energetic phase from 7-11.i guess the key mantra is to keep them thoroughly busy with activities like swimming,etc and at home plz continue with the bed time stories which have morals like good behaviour,mythology,etc.,trust me it works faster than time outs and stuff

Amy - posted on 05/12/2009

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I have the exact same problem with my 7yr old son. If he doesn't want to do something, he will find a way not to do it. He also aggravates his 14 mos. sister, he deliberately does things to make her cry. and laughs about it. Let me know if any of you find a solution to the 7yr old with attitude.

Raquel - posted on 04/13/2009

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omg im going thru the same with my 7yr old.. i think it's a phase or so i hope it's gettin better with the punishments. once she realizes she can't have her way she changes up a little bit at an time hope it fades fast good luck and b consistant

Raewyn - posted on 04/07/2009

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Haha - I find it quite amusing that no matter where we all are in the world, we, as mothers to 7/8 yr olds are going through the same thing!!  I really believe it's up to you how you discipline your child.  But I do think you need to find out what works and use that.  My 7 yr old son has his nintendo ds taken off him, and if that doesn't work (but it usually does), he gets a tap on the bum and that works 100%  BUT I also have a nearly 3 yr old daughter, and time out works 100% for her.  Not to be put in her room where she can play with her toys, but to actually be put on the "naughty spot" and have to stay there for 2 minutes.



Just try lots of things and when you find something that works - stick to it.  All children are different in the way they respond, so it makes sense that what works for one will not always work for another.



Good luck!!  :)

Tracy - posted on 04/07/2009

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My daughters have both gone through this phase too! Taking things away as punishment did not work for me either, my girl friend advised me about "nose to the wall" it's like the new version of being put in the corner. I was amazed at how well it worked with my daughters. They despise having to touch their nose to the wall and stand there for any length of time. It saves me alot of grief, I don't think highly of spanking either so this was a wonderful alternative for me. (and you don't even need a corner :) any part of the wall works)

Danielle - posted on 04/07/2009

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Going through the same thing with my 7 year old son, let me know if anything works, and my thoughts are with you! LOL

Shannon - posted on 04/06/2009

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I know this may sound weird but thank goodness I feel better after reading this knowing that I am not the only one-my 7 year old son sounds just like what you guys are going through. However I did find out that there is a boy in my sons class who has a response for everything and it's rather smart and sassy about it!! I to am hoping that it gets better soon--

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