Middle Child Syndrome?

Cindy - posted on 12/02/2008 ( 9 moms have responded )




My 2001 "baby" is our middle child. He presents more challenges than my other two! I can't decide if it's his birth order or just his personality that gives me such fits.He is an amazing little spirit, and I love him intensely, but no matter the situation I am always having to correct him or call him down. I want so much for him to be able to grow up successfully, but he pushes every situation to not be pleasant and I end up fussing at him so much more than his brother and sister! At school he does fine, not outstanding, but good. At home it's just constant irritation to every other member of the family! Any thoughts?


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Katie - posted on 06/09/2009




I have the same problem...My 2001 baby is a middle child also, but ....he's my only boy, and so he is very clingy....I can't do a thing without him always right on my heels. He has also started being very angrey and very mean towards me too? He used to be a very sweet and happy boy. He still is, only when he gets his way.....I hope that this is just a phase that he's going through, if not, I am going to need some major help with this problem!!!

Debbie - posted on 03/10/2009




My 2001 little girl just became a middle child and has been acting out a bit it seems. She went from being an only child for 5 years to being the youngest when I got remarried and then we just had a baby about a year ago. AND it seems that she may have ADHD. I'm having her evaluated at the end of the month, so I'm not sure what the cause of her attitude has been lately. There could just be so many things - ADHD, middle child, just her age, and such like that.

Tina - posted on 03/03/2009




My 2001 daughter acts just the same and she's a middle child too. However, there are 5 years between her and the baby and she was this way from the get go, so I think a lot of it is just her personality. My newest thing which is working so far is rewarding her positive behavior. I gave each child a jar and when they do something good like finishing their chores, being kind to others, following directions, etc. I say "You just earned a bean!" Then I put a bean in their jar. When the jar is full they have the choice to get a dollar, pick a small prize or do something like go to the park or to McDonal for an ice cream. When my 2001 child starts acting up I just say " you could have earned a bean but you "chose" to do ..." I am trying to get her to see that she is making bad choices and it's not just mommy being mean when she gets in trouble. She definitely thinks that I pick on her, but her behavior is so much more extreme than her siblings that I can't igore it most of the time.

Crystal - posted on 02/04/2009




Well i really can't give you any help, but I understand. My 2001 child is also the middle child and he is the one that we actually have to give more attention to because he is always upset with his brother and sister and most of the time is the instigator. But he is my thinker and I LOVE to just sit and watch him play or figure things out. So along with you I am unsure if it is the middle child syndrom or what. I just thought that I would let you know that you are not alone.

Danielle - posted on 01/28/2009




well my 2001 baby is my oldest, but my middle child sounds just like this. I did a project in college about birth orders and you can look a lot up online. Middle children tend to be the most independent, and a lot of times that leads to trouble making or what not. Also a study was done and like 80% or so as adults said they felt left out being the middle child, even though we spend a lot of time with them, they know the oldest was first, and the baby is the baby, they dont have a "place" i would research middle child syndrom and look at what suggestions come up

Adele - posted on 01/27/2009




I have 5 children my 2nd child sounds just like this he was also born 2001 maybe it is just 2001 babys :0)

my 1st and 3rd children are great dont no i have them but my 4th omg shes following the footsteps off her brother then the younger one is only a baby.

but they do say the middle /2nd born is always the one you will have problems with everyone i no who has more than 1 child there 2nd born is a handful its just total madness :0)

Celena - posted on 01/26/2009




My 2001er (hehe) just became the middle child, She has an older brother by 2 years, And now a baby sister. She loves her to pieces, but oh my goodness is she getting overbearing. But I dont want her to feel left out or get any less attention. I think my son is having more of an issue with the baby. He is 9 and is amazing with her ( I wish I had a big bro like him) but just yesterday he told me he feels like I dont care about him anymore... After he went to bed I just broke down... :(

Erin - posted on 12/24/2008




I have 5 children, and kind of have 2 middle children. My kids are 13, 11, 9, 7 and 4.

My 9yo is my only girl, so she kinda misses middle child by having a special identity, then of course there is the oldest and youngest. My 11yo and 7yo seem to be the ones who need more attention, and not in a good way KWIM?

Kristin - posted on 12/05/2008




He sounds just like my middle child as well,who is also a 2001 baby. I feel awful always repremanding him. Seems like I do it more often with him than his sister and brother.He is such a delightful little guy but he is certainly a button pusher. My husband and I have both noticed how much more smoothly the household works when he is off with a friend or just in his room doing his own thing. I really think it has alot to do with the pecking order around here. I am glad to know I am not alone! I was starting to think it was just me!!!!

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