Tell me if I'm wrong

Stacy - posted on 01/28/2009 ( 15 moms have responded )

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I have a daughter that is seven. Shes in first grade in a public school. Well my daughter was eating breakfast the other mornig and was telling me that she went to guidence the day before. So I asked what they learned about and she said not talking to strangers. Well I was fine with that untill she went into the teacher read a book to them and the only part that stuck out in my daughters mind was that she read a part that said " and he stuck his hand down her panties" now to me that is to grapic for my seven year old to hear. Now don't get me wrong I've talked to her about that but not in those words. It upset me so bad so I went to the princpal and told her that if thats whats going to be talked about a note should have went home to the parents. Do you think I went overboard.

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Talese - posted on 03/23/2009

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No, not at all! Sometimes private schools take more liberties than public schools with such things, but this is WAY over the line. Our school sent home an "opt out" notification with details about what they would be talking about to the children for the sexual education in health class several weeks before it began and they also said if there were any questions that the teacher and principals would be available for us to contact betweeen now and when the class started.

So, not only is this not age appropriate, they are overstepping the teaching role and worst of all, not giving you the proper warning so that you can prepare your child for what was to be discussed. I would have been irate if this had happened in my daughter's classroom.

Cathy - posted on 03/22/2009

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I would've blown a fuse if that had been my son, way too graphic for that age !!  and so inappropriate for a teacher/guidance counsellor to be discussing without your permission. 

Carrie - posted on 03/02/2009

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I work in a public school...there is no way our guidance counselor would have read this to students without getting permission from admin and giving parents a heads up first...and even at that I am not sure it is appropriate for 7-8 year olds. Sometimes I think the schools feel they have to take the place of conversations that need to happen at home. I would definately talk to the school and would ask to see the book too! Keep up posted!

Karen - posted on 03/02/2009

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Wow! I agree. That's the last thing my 7 year old boy needs to hear. He is not able to process details so graphic. And they are so silly at this age, they just wouldn't understand.

Erica - posted on 02/27/2009

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Quoting Hope:



KIND OF B/C I THINK SHE SHOULD HEAR IT LIKE THAT AND NOT SUGAR COATED. THIS WAY GOD FORBID IT EVER SHOULD HAPPEN TO HER SHE KNOWS THAT'S NOT RIGHT






I don't think it's a problem of anything being sugar coated It's a matter of what is what is right and wrong  for a teacher to read to/ tell students  with out a paretns okay.Something like this should be left up to a PARENT NOT a teacher. And Why would you want your 7 yo hearing that from ANYONE but you?  IMO anyways...

Hope - posted on 02/27/2009

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KIND OF B/C I THINK SHE SHOULD HEAR IT LIKE THAT AND NOT SUGAR COATED. THIS WAY GOD FORBID IT EVER SHOULD HAPPEN TO HER SHE KNOWS THAT'S NOT RIGHT

Erica - posted on 02/26/2009

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have you talked to any of the other parents from the class? I was wondering if their children came home and said anything to them or not?

Erica - posted on 02/26/2009

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OH MY GOODNESS NO!!! There is NO way as a parent of a daughter ( mine is 7 in the 2sd grade) or even my son I would want that read at all! I would be just as upset as you are and I would have gone in to the office and made a HUGE stink about it! I think you should stick with it!

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I agree...you did the right thing! My 7 year old is in 2nd grade in public school, and I'd be very upset if they read something like that without a note home first. My son's school is actually having that "theme" next week, but the school sent home notes and "permission slips" to participate. You should definitely pursue this! Good luck!

Nicole - posted on 02/04/2009

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I don't think you went overboard!! Yes, it's an important topic, but you said you've talked to your daughter about it. I do think that's probably too graphic for a 7 year old, but IF it's discussed like that it should be one-on-one with a parent when the parent thinks the child is ready for that type of information. I'd definitely have a problem with that being read in my son's class.

Tina - posted on 02/03/2009

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I don't feel that you went overboard. I have a 7 year old and she is in second grade and she goes to a public school and I would be very upset if that happend to her too without a note coming home to me first.

Aleesha - posted on 01/29/2009

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Quoting Stacy:



She said that she would talk to the guidence teacher and see if the state approved it or not. And that she would have the teacher call me which she never did. Either way if it was approved it should have been done in a different manner and a note should have went home to the parents telling what was going to be taught. There are thing I want to tell my daughter I don't need the school system telling her things without permission.






Exactly, And even if it is approved its still not something that a 7 year old need's to be hearing because they dont understand all of that right now! This has seriously blown my mind. I am like you there are things that I want to talk with my child about and not the school! I know that there are sex ed classes that they do at school but thats not untill the child is in what like 6th grade and all they talk about is how a girl and boy's body changes and that has to be approved by the parents before they do it. This right here is why I wonder if public school is the best choice for my children or not? I would push this issue!

Stacy - posted on 01/29/2009

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She said that she would talk to the guidence teacher and see if the state approved it or not. And that she would have the teacher call me which she never did. Either way if it was approved it should have been done in a different manner and a note should have went home to the parents telling what was going to be taught. There are thing I want to tell my daughter I don't need the school system telling her things without permission.

Aleesha - posted on 01/29/2009

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absolutly not! My son is also 7 and in the first grade and if he was in your daughter's class you wouldnt have went to the princpal alone I would have been right there beside you that is just un called for and not ok for that age! I would have been very upset too! What did the princpal say when we talked with him/her about it?

Tanya - posted on 01/28/2009

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I am a public school teacher. I have two children in school, one 7 and one 3. That SHOULD NOT be read to children in school WITHOUT parent's permission. I do not know what state you are in but I would pursue it!

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