Only read this if u dont judge and please have an open mind..................

Tanya - posted on 04/13/2010 ( 160 moms have responded )

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Hi there Ladies,



Im going to ask all of you what your thoughts and opinions are about "abortions".



Before you do though, i have to share my personal story with you.



Last year i became pregnant with my 3rd baby, but after having such a lot of trouble and sickness with my second sons birth, my husband and i had to consider our options.



At first when i found out i became pregnant again (#3) i didnt have the reaction as i did with my other 2. i was actually pissed off and felt nothing for this one. and because of how sick i was the last birth i really didnt want to go through it again.

so i wet to my doctor and told her everything i felt and she knew what i had been through the last time, and the best option for me and my husband was to consider having a "termination" as i prefer to call them.



In september last year, i went and had the termination, and today, neither myself or my hubby regret our choice. it was the right thing to do at that point in time.



prior to my experience, i used to be dead against abortions, but going through it all, i now have an understaning of why people do have them. if its for medical reasons like me, or if its from another traumatic reason or experience women have been through.



so please ladies, i want to hear your thoughts on this subject and i dont want any judgemental comments from anybody.



thanks ladies,

Tanya Major (comm. administrator)

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Tanya - posted on 04/20/2010

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I am very much against abortion. When I found out I was pregnant with my third child my husband, who is twice my age, was adamant about not having a baby. Number one, he was diagnosed with terminal cancer five days before we found out about the pregnancy, number two, his youngest child is a year older than me. That being said, I told him I would have the baby with or without him. Alannah is an absolute joy in our lives, beautiful, healthy, and the light of her daddy's life. I had a lot of problems while I was pregnant with her. I was sick a lot, I had shingles, I had to quit work in my third month. When I gave birth, she got stuck because she was 10 pounds 14 ounces, was injured (brachial plexus), broke my tailbone and bruised my bladder. The doctor warned me against having any more children. But you know what? If I became pregnant again, I would go through with it. I am sorry to sound judgemental, and I am not in your shoes, but you can't post a story like that and expect everyone to back you up. It sounds like you are looking for validation of your abortion. I have read how abortions are performed and it makes me cry. I could never do it. I hope you take better precautions next time. And termination is just a sugar coated word for the killing of your unborn child. I can't post anything good to say about it. I'm sorry. I do however, wish you Gods bless and happiness to your family.

Angela - posted on 04/20/2010

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I don't get it, ya'll are saying, you wouldn't be able to give the child up for adoption ( the hope of a good life) but felt no "connection" to them, and willingly terminated there chance of any life. If there is no love between you and your embryo, then why couldn't you put em up for adoption... I don't get it. I do understand it when your life is involved, not very many people would be willing to risk their life for anything. but if you don't want to be a mom, or a mom again.....I don't get how ending it is better than giving it life.

Dj - posted on 04/26/2010

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I'm sorry but what exactly is "how sick I was"? Did you believe this baby was going to kill you? Please don't say you killed your child because you didn't want to put up with morning sickness and back pain.

Sorry if that sounds harsh but my personal belief is that no reason other than impending death of the mother is reason enough to "terminate" an unborn child's life.

I was in a lot of pain daily with my last pregnancy. I couldn't walk across the room without trying not to cry. I don't want to do it again. I reluctantly had my tubes tied but before I did I knew that if I were to get pregnant again I'd deal with it.

I hope your other children are healthy and happy and that you and your husband can live peacefully with your choice.

Angela - posted on 04/20/2010

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Keep in mind, my view point is that of a mother of 1 boy, who has been trying for more, for 5 years. When I was a little girl, I always said I wanted 100 children, because I had enough love for that. As I grew I changed it to "as many as I can". I have one son, absolutely adored by his father and I. I would never say "Hell, NO!" to a blessing from God.

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Missy - posted on 06/29/2013

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I believe there's no reason to carry out an arbotions jus bcos uv been feelin physically sik durin pregnancy.. I had a baby hu had a very rare heart disease hplhs, I went thru wid th pregnancy knowin things cud tak a turn for th worst at any point.. My baby boy made it thru to 9months and died following 2cardiac arrest.. Bt nw I'm pregnant again, again knwin th same thing cud happen again hasn't made me consider arbotions... Unless its LIFE threatening to urself or baby I think there's no need..

Bo - posted on 06/10/2013

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Why did you feel the need to share about all the reasons why you and your husband felt the need to abort your baby? why do you want to hear other womens stories?

Katie Yahs - posted on 06/08/2013

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Gods against it, I should be, but the stress of this world and all the wickedness going on I wouldn't want to keep having kids they will only suffer unless your billionaire, , I guess to each its own!

Elizabeth - posted on 01/09/2013

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I never like to get into the middle of these types of conversations but recently I have been thinking about this topic a lot. I am 10 weeks pregnant with my third and I have been so sick that I had to stop working one job and I am having hard time taking care of my 2 kids and just doing every day things. I am not contemplating an abortion, but I am thinking about my options to not become pregnant again because I do not know if I could physically do it again. And I wonder what I would do if my future birth control failed. I would not have an abortion personally ever, but I think this experience has made me more compassionate to those who choose to do so for certain reasons other then using it as a birth control option. However, I would never want a government agency to take the option away because it falls under a right of freedom for woman and although it is personally not my choice, it is not something I would ever feel comfortable telling another person to do/or not do. I am pro adoption as I am an adoptee myself. I would one day love to adopt children myself.

Jes - posted on 08/04/2012

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You must choose what is right for yourself. It is your body and your decision. If you don't feel you can handle it/afford it/whatever, that's your business. If you feel OK about your choice, then you made the right choice for you. Period. Don't let anyone ever tell you how you should decide on anything; they aren't in your shoes and it's not their life. Good luck to you!

Tammy - posted on 08/03/2012

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Illness is one of the justified reasons for abortion, so perhaps you were in the right there.
But maybe you should have considered this when your second child was born and had your tubes tide right then an there.

Annie Matilda - posted on 08/02/2012

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I believe to be a person who is very good at seeing both sides of the story and in this case I do. I am personally against abortion but it's not a standing I took as a 13 year old just wanting to belive something but through experience.
My husband and I got married, when I was 20 years old and thought we would be blessed with a little one that following year. Little did we know, that wasn't happening. We have through the years went through miscarriages and given birth to our 3 girls Isabella, Lucy and Aurora who didn't make it, 2 years later our beautiful son Noah was born but only made it 3 weeks. We've been through so much trying to have the one thing we wanted, a baby.
Then we had this wonderful miracle of life, our daughter Emma. She is 5 months and I don't know what I would do without her.
That's where I find it hard to see people willingly having abortions, when I've had to say goodbye to my babies very unwillingly.

On the other hand, I don't see this being the case. People suggest adoption but obviously that isn't the issue. I think I know, if you hadn't had all of these complications with your 2nd, you would be more than blessed to welcome your 3rd baby but that's not how it went.
You went through a tough time and saw how your life could change and be at danger, if you carried your third. It is not a selfish decision to choose your own life for your husband and sons!
I wish you the very best and if the only abortions in life were these, many more people would be blessed with daughters and sons adopted from those, who simply didn't want a baby

Annabelle - posted on 07/31/2012

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Personally, I couldn't do it. I got pregnant at 15 and I never even considered it as an option. One of my sisters had an abortion about a year after my son was born and told me it was because she didn't want to "put my parents through what I did" (however she was 20 and in college so I believe that to be a total cop out) and while they weren't thrilled at first my parents supported me and my son and have never been anything but loving to us both. I believe if you play you should pay however with rape, illnesses, etc. sometime carrying a pregnancy to term isn't the best choice for you and/or your family. A single mom friend I have has 2 kids w/ same dad who is a deadbeat. She got pregnant a 3rd time and intended to have the pregnancy terminated which I thought was TOTALLY irresponsible because this wasn't her first rodeo obviously. She did miscarry unfortunately and now may not be able to conceive/carry again so it's almost a catch 22. The Lord works in mysterious ways I guess. But at the end of the day it isn't anyone's place to judge anyone else. :)

Lindsay - posted on 07/30/2012

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I am not judging, only God can do that. I think your husband should get a vasectomy for sure. That is an easy surgery and hardly any recovery time. If that won't work they have an out patient procedure that they offer women that requires no surgery. An implant goes in and over the course of a few months it blocks everything. Good Luck.

Lena - posted on 07/29/2012

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I am a new member here and I Just read a few replies. I had two beautiful sons, who grew into wonderful adults. They have given me 3 beautiful grand children. I had my first son when i was 15 yrs old and my second when i was 17 yrs old. Yes, I was married to a very cruel man who not only slapped me around for his play time. But also, tried to kill my first son. God Blessed me in getting this man out of our lives. He went away for a very long time. I raised my children alone with no help from family. I worked two jobs to provide for them. I never knew a teenager's life. I would not change the fact that I had my children, we grew up together. We had more fun than parents who wated later in life to have children. I now have a 13 yr old granddaughter and if she became with child. I would strongly encourage her to have an abortion. In your case, you did what you had to do. That was your choice and i'm sure it was a very hard one for you to make. I can tell it still eats away at you and you wonder what if? other wise, I don't think you would have posted this. Abortion has been something people grabbed onto and can't let it go. A woman has a right to choose. It is her body, her child and it is between her and God. People should not judge, politicians should not have the right to tell a woman what she can and can't do with her body.

Allie - posted on 07/26/2012

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You know what? I have lost both my mom and my dad within the last year but my mom and my dad helped me because they knew that my babies were my world. I'm so grateful to have such wonderful parents because without them during my time of need I DON'T KNOW WHAT I WOULD HAVE DONE... I told my mom that I didn't fight so hard to come back to her and my dad, I FOUGHT SO HARD BECAUSE I KNEW THAT MY BABIES NEEDED ME AND THAT IS THE MAIN REASON THAT I FOUGHT SO HARD TO COME BACK TO MY BABIES BECAUSE THEY NEEDED ME AND I NEEDED THEM... NO MATTER WHAT THE CIRCUMSTANCES ARE MY BABIES NEEDED ME AND I NEEDED THEM ... I'M SO BLESSED TO HAVE THEM... THE GOOD LORD ABOVE BLESSED ME WITH SUCH A BIG FAMILY AND I'M SO GRATEFUL FOR THAT BUT EVERYONE ELSE NEEDS TO HAVE FAITH IN THE GOOD LORD ABOVE BECAUSE YOU HAVE TO REALIZE THAT WITHOUT HIM YOU WOULD NOT HAVE WHAT YOU HAVE TODAY... I LOVE MY FAMILY BUT I ALSO LOVE THE GOOD LORD JESUS CHRIST ABOVE. WITHOUT HIM WE WOULD NOT HAVE WHAT WE HAVE TODAY... YOU HAD BETTER THANK HIM FOR EVERYTHING... I LOVE MY BABIES AND THE GOOD LORD JESUS CHRIST ABOVE.

Karen - posted on 07/26/2012

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No one should be judging atall untill theyve walked a mile in your shoes ? Goodluck :-)

Allie - posted on 07/26/2012

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I'M NOT GONNA JUDGE YOU because that is not who I am and it's not my spot to judge anyone. It was your choice and you did what you thought was necessary after thinking everything through. I just wanted to tell you my story.I have 5 babies and I had Medical problems after I had my 2nd baby girl (#2). I had eclampsia which resulted in me having 12 tonic clonic seizures and multiple strokes in the same day. I ended up on life support for a week and a half. When I finally woke up once again on life support I had to relearn how to walk, talk, feed myself, sit on the side of the bed, raise my head, I WAS LIKE A NEWBORN BABY MYSELF. The doctor told me that if I had anymore children that my child/myself/or both could die but I wasn't of age to have my tubes tied. I was told at 19 years old that I was once again pregnant with my third and fourth babies which are twin girls, I WAS RAPED and yeah abortion crossed my mind but I would NEVER DO THAT no matter the circumstances because I'm against abortion. To me having a pregnancy no matter how it happened, when it happened, or whose baby it is... THAT IS A BLESSING FROM JESUS CHRIST (the good lord above). I love my babies and I am very blessed to have them.

Lynn - posted on 07/26/2012

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I think that eveyone should be able to make what is an individual, case-by-case basis. When I was 18, and living with my 27 year old boyfriend (we later married, and divorced) I found out I was pregnant. We were both working, but I didn't have a car or a license yet, and we were renting a very small guest house. We were not financially prepared to take care of a child. He had been married before, and had a 9 year old son he rarely saw, and wasn't paying child support for.

I decided that since I wasn't ready to raise a child yet, and he already wasn't a great father, it would be better if I had an abortion. It was a very tough decision, since I work with kids. He didn't want me to do it, but I knew it was the right choice for me, and I've never once regretted it. I married him two years later, and three years after that, divorced him, and I've never seen him since. Which just empahsizes how alone I would have been, if I had kept that child.

Seven years later, I met my DH, we got married, and have two wonderful children. I know I am raising them well. We are financially stable, own a home, and wanted these children. I know that I am a better mother than I would have if I had become a mother 13 years earlier!

I think that people have the right to make thier own choices, and od what is right for them.

However, abortion should never be used in place of birth control! I went on the pill after mine, so there were no more surprises! After I had my second child, I had my tubes tied.

Shelly - posted on 07/24/2012

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I would recommend just getting your tubes tied or your husband getting a vasectomy.

Shelly - posted on 07/24/2012

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The only question I would have is have you or your husband gotten "fixed". I completely understand that it is each persons decision to have an abortion. But I also feel if a person knows they don't want anymore children or none at all, they should take those extra steps to prevent it. Not saying that you didn't because I don't know you or your situation. But I would recommend that if someone is pretty sure they don't want more it is a very good idea to get tubes tied or vasectomy. After having my second son I was not sure if I wanted anymore so I got the Marena, an IUD. It was a great option for us. I had it in for 5 years never got pregnant. After 5 years we did decide to have another. So it was a good idea for me not to go ahead and get "fixed". Not judging just think it's a good idea to try and avoid having to make that decision in the first place. Glad to hear that you and your family are at terms with it. That is in fact all that matters.

Quennie - posted on 07/24/2012

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Lily Harris, just do what I do. Select the ones from Circle of Moms that states they are responses (if you don't want to read them), and hit DELETE. If I actually do want to read the posts, all I have to do is leave one email from Circle of Moms stating it's a response, and I can read all the posts. Otherwise, I think responding to a post means that you know you will be getting emails letting you know of other people's responses. I don't know if the poster can pull/delete this post if she doesn't want any more responses, but that is up to her.

Lily - posted on 07/24/2012

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please! stop posting in this letter! I have now a year receiving all your postings all the time! jesus!

Quennie - posted on 07/24/2012

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I know you said to "Only Read This If U Don't Judge ...", but I was just wondering ... are you having some kind of moral issues for what happened? Is that why you wrote the post? I'm not judging; I'm just wondering. Are you trying to get some kind of validation or justification for what happened? I'm curious. Also, if you knew you didn't want another child after your second, why didn't you or your husband get "fixed"?



You got different opinions from different people, but the only ones who matter are you and your family. It is wonderful that you don't want to leave your children motherless; however, I do imagine that little "future baby" in heaven, being sad thinking, "My mommy was pissed when she got pregnant with me. She said she didn't feel anything for me." I'm sorry, but that's just how my mind works. Like I don't mind dissecting humans because they're already dead (we don't kill them, so we can dissect them), but we actually KILL the animals before their time is up and use them for dissection.

Rebecca - posted on 07/24/2012

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I was raised Catholic so of course when I chose to have an abortion, I knew that my decision not only effected my unborn child but my mortal soul as well. That was 15 years ago & if I had to chose again, I would still have the abortion. Only you can possibly know what is best for u & your family & you will always have thoughts of what might have been but don't guilt yourself or your decision b/c the reasons for doing it r still there so what "might have been" may not have been so happy

Tina - posted on 07/23/2012

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I am personally against abortion ! It is terminating a life in which the baby had no choice in. But, I wonder why you didn't use some form of birth control to prevent if you didn't want to 'go through it again'? No one can tell you what to do with your body, but those are my beliefs. There is only ONE judge and it's not me.

Heather - posted on 07/22/2012

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I personally am against it. But I do understand certain situations call for it. A girl who is raped and becomes pregnant. A girl who is abused by a family member and becomes pregnant. Your story to me sounds like a reasonable cause. If it really made you that sick and you felt nothing for that child, that I'm sure it was the right thing for you to do.

Another thing I don't agree with is teens who fool around and end up pregnant then freak out about being a teen parent and immediately jump to abortion. I don't think that's right. There is always adoption for those cases. If you don't want to be responsible for the consequences of your actions you shouldn't have done the deed in the first place.

Again your story sounds to me like you did what was right for you and your family, I feel you did what was right for you and your family. My heart goes out to you and I'm glad you found peace and that you feel better and feel good about your choice. Best of luck to you in the future.

Quennie - posted on 07/22/2012

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If a woman was raped, or for medical reasons, etc. Really, I was never one who judged people (there is only one who can do the judging), especially when I haven't been in the same situation. Like the saying says, "Walk a mile in their shoes before you start judging them."

Rachel - posted on 07/22/2012

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Hi,
I really feel for you and the decision you had to make.
I must say that I have always been against abortion for myself. I would not judge anyone for going through one, because we all have different lives and different reasons for making certain decisions, but I don't think I could cope emotionally with having one myself. However, I have never been in the situation, thankfully, as both my pregnancies were planned. Feel strength in the knowledge that your decision was the right one for you.
Rachel x

Danielle - posted on 07/22/2012

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Tanya..I think abortion is wrong.... FOR ME. We all need to do what is best for our own individual lives, so you have no need to feel any guilt or fear of judgement. Although abortion would not be the right choice for me, I would never even consider judging someone else for making a decision that was the right one for them. I see this the same way with the whole spanking debate. I have never spanked my own kids, but unless they are abusing their children, I also do not judge parents who chose this option, because they are making their own individual decisions according to their own situations. There is so much judgement in our society, it's actually quite sad. The choice you made, is just that, a CHOICE that YOU had to make, and obviously it was not an easy one. Unfortunately, you will always find people who will judge you on SOMETHING. Just know that it never matters what someone else thinks, because in order to be entitled to judge someone, you have to know every single detail of why they made the decision they made, and we, do NOT have the ability to know all that. I wish the very best to you and your family.

Lori - posted on 07/22/2012

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I think you and your husband did what was best for your family, PERIOD!!! No one should b judge you for what did. I my self have had abortions. I did what was best for me at time and not the man because it is my body and my life end of story. I believe every woman has the right to make her choices.

Jane - posted on 07/22/2012

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To the person whose mother did NOT have an abortion and she is wondering who would be the mother of her child, the answer is her child would not exist. And thats ok. We are all here for a short while. There have been humans for thousands of years, hopefully that will continue, but not all sperm find eggs (thank god!!!!!!!) and not all pregnancies work out. There is a world of bad people out there that kill and rape and cheat and steal. Some come from good families, some were born insane, some have mental disorders that go undetected, some were raised in mind bendingly horrific ways...well, it would be better if they hadn't been born. You are grateful to your mom for having you. I b there are moms that wish they hadn't had their kid. Not on this forum, where those moms wouldn't be writing, but not all parents are proud of their kid not all are happy they had kids, not are all good parents.

Jane - posted on 07/22/2012

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Have your husband get a vasectomy, for starters, as it's quick, easy and inexpensive. That way you won't have to struggle with these issues. I've heard people say they were against vasectomies for religous reasons, which makes no sense to me at all. I'd think god would be very, very happy if humans quit over populating his nifty little planet. Maybe that seemed like a good idea when there weren't many people and we were an agrarian society that needed people to till the land and and life expectancy was 40 and child mortality was high and there were no hospitals and neo natal units and medicine. But now, whew, if u have more thn two you re either uneducated, insane, self absorbed, selfish and out of touch, or, entitled, as money people tend to be. Yes, I am well educated, monied and was raised catholic. Yes I'm married with two kids and I live in an affluent area. Most moms I know are highly educated with MA, PhDs, and minimally BAs, they tend to be well travelled, culturally aware and sensitive to the environment, they cross racial and religous barriers, but most are extremely interactive in their communities, the education of their children, and their family lives. And we differ on our views on abortion. So much depends on how you were raised and your religious beliefs. I was raised catholic, ageist abortion. That said, I have had two. My grandmothers sister died of a back street abortion in the 1940s. She was married to a raging, abusive man, she had two kids she could barely support. Suffice to say, it was a bad situation. She die because she could not have a legal abortion. I had an abortion in college. I got pregnant the first time I had sex. I did not want to carry a child for 9 months and put the child up for adoption. I am very glad I had an abortion and grateful I isn't die in the process. Its a choice. An early term abortion is not killing a child, it is aborting n undeveloped fetus. I have seen religous mothers have abortions and although they don't want thir neighbors to know, they are glad they did it. The reasons are varied, but ll are personal and their right

Kristy - posted on 07/22/2012

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You and your husband made the right choice for you. Wish others would make that wise of decisions also. This world is made up of too many people who do not and cannot care for children and should never be mothers ( I am harsh) but get pregnant and then just spiral out of control with the children. Bless you and your beautiful Family.

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I wonder what do you want to prove by this posting if you are happy about your choice. Justify abortion in certain circumstances? Or are you secretly sorry about your choice and seek support?

If a pregnancy geopardises your life, so that the risk of having two orphans could overrule the existance of a newer pregnancy - in case this is known beforehand, there are enough preventive measures to not to get to a pregnancy.

Accidental pregnancy can happen, I admit; you have a right to decide as you wish.

I only know of a couple, after a second child the mother was quite sick for years. A third child was not desired in this configuration and for years they practiced succesfully prevention - then it happened. A baby girl was born 10 years after the second child; they did not take abortion as an option because they considered too risky. Yet - what happened was that the mother got healed after this third birth.

You will never know, each pregnancy and each child is so different.

By the way, that baby is myself. I wonder... if mom would have chosen to abort me. Who would write this? Who would be the mother of my child?

Of course, we will never know.

Stephanie Elizabeth - posted on 07/13/2012

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I personally am against abortions and I would never in a million years be able to have an abortion. However, if someone is in a bad place, or like you said did not enjoy your previous pregnancy, or if you can not support your baby that I understand that. I just guess my biggest problem about abortions is when girls use them as a birth control!

Mindy - posted on 07/12/2012

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I have to say, I'm have always been pro-life and still concider myself pro-life. But I do have to say with my last pregnancy I was VERY sick and in a LOT of pain. I can't tell you if my doctor had come to me and said, you know this is not looking good we can end this if you want, I don't know what I would have said or done. I do know my doctor and I both decided to have my tubes tied right away to prevent any further pregnancies because I almost didn't make it through the last one and he felt I wouldn't make it through another. I think through life we are always given different circumstances...each our own...each having to make our own decisions.

Hiba - posted on 07/10/2012

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I have 2 kids, 6 & 3...neither planned and both born in difficult financial circumstances...both very loved...if my first pregnancy had of been a risk to my life I would have continued...if my second very complicated pregnancy had have been a risk to my life, I would have continued...I hate abortion. BUT...if I fell pregnant now, and that pregnancy jeapordised leaving my two precious children without their mum I cannot honestly say that I would continue...it would be a hard hard choice, and God knows how I would feel if I actually had a little bean inside me, boy am I protective of my pregnancies...but I just don't know. Would I protect my gorgeous babies happiness, or would I protect my baby to be's life...heck writing this makes me feel sick at the choice.
I respect you making a hard choice, I wonder why you are revisiting the past...do you feel guilt? Whatever the reason, let it go, the past is the past and cannot be changed, look to the future and your 2 gorgeous kids, you made a hard choice for your family, so enjoy that family! :) Hugs x
And for the record I am 99.9% certain that my hubby who adores his kids, would say what yours did! I pray noone else has to face your dilemma x

Lillian - posted on 07/06/2012

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You already had the abortion , what do you really want to hear from all of us. You both made a decision on it. Problem solved. You both don't regret it so move on.

Elizabeth - posted on 07/03/2012

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My opinion only... I believe in pro-life. God creates us for a reason. No judgement to you that is not my or anybody else's place. I wish you the best and again that is what I believe, nothing more.

Kimberly D. - posted on 06/21/2012

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Hi Tanya,
I have had unfortunately 5 spontaneous abortion's as all medical personal will document in any woman's medical chart, It was not my choice. I have found out that I have - 2 medical condition's on top of my auto-immune disease that I have had since I was 7 yrs old (Dermatomyositis) so that makes 3 medical condition's I have - Positive Protein S and Lupus anticoagulant (which does not have anything to do with Lupus) the 2 secondary medical condition's mean that I can have trouble carrying a baby to term & I can get a blood clot and I did in 7/2008 from a long drive from San Diego, California to EL Paso, Texas. I am very lucky to be alive because not only did I had get a DVT & PE (Deep vein thrombosis & Pulmonary Embolism). I am so very lucky to be alive and have my family I have 5 wonderful children that are great. It is a very sensitive subject for me. One of the spontaneous abortion was just this past March, There's nothing more painful then being told it doesn't look like a viable pregnancy or get to 16 weeks only to be told there's no heart beat.I had to have a DNC while pushing :(
Well now with that being said.
I am 100% behind what any woman chooses to do simply because who am I to judge, I am not in her shoes & nobody knows the circumstances that has led up to having to make a choice in the first place.
I will say this if a woman is putting herself in the position were she is or has made the choice over and over as a form of birth control - That I do not agree with. Have more respect for yourself
There are several religions that do not allow for birth control...Ladies get to know your cycle so that you can be active when your not ovulating.

Elisha - posted on 06/20/2012

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I consider myself truly pro-choice, and was therefore surprised when an unexpected and, at the time unwelcome, pregnancy came along and the idea of aborting my baby frightened me. I discussed my pregnancy with women I felt I could trust, and was surprised when over half of them had abortion stories to tell me! Some were medical, some were because they didn't want more children or weren't ready, some where because they had no support from the baby's father. Their feelings were varied and all over the place, some were very comfortable in their choices, and at other times they were destroyed thinking of the baby that could have been. In the end, I decided to roll with it and take the knocks, knowing it wasn't always going to be easy to be a mom. I think in the battle of abortion, it's the mother's feelings that guide her - no woman should ever have to feel like she was forced to have a child she didn't want, OR aborting when she didn't feel right doing so. This is the delicate choices we must make as women, but I will not and absolutely don't respect women who do it out of convenience and as a birth control method. I hope one of you got sterilized.

Patricia - posted on 06/20/2012

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for me personally i was sick all the way through with every child and had some bad births and some ok and i have 10 kids

Amy - posted on 06/17/2012

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I think you should have the right to choose for yourself, you made a choice that was right for you, Case closed.

Ana - posted on 06/17/2012

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Hey, I don't recommend abortions. I don't agree with them. What I have found is that most folks (that I know) who have had them, the actual abortion didn't save them from anything. Most were pregnant again within a year and had the baby.

I don't want to judge you, I'm not God, but I always like to be really clear on what someone is asking of me. You asked for opinions.

My opinion is that you got an Abortion because you wanted one, and you feel guilty about it,(you even changed the name to Termination) because they are not as easy as plastic surgery (or some kind of minor thing that the media plays them up to be). They babys spirit stays with you after they have been removed, because of the unnatural way they were removed. It's the death of a family member.

Only true intervention from God and some counseling can help you to cope the correct way.

The decision was made (it seems) out of fear, but you weren't pregnant long enoughto know if this pregnancy was going to be the same way.

And if you don't want any more children, then why haven't you gotten your tubes tied? Why did that baby have to pay the ultimate price?

No harsh judgement, just true thoughts. All people make mistakes, but some real talk comes after.

Just my 2c.

Tobie - posted on 06/16/2012

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I am no one to judge!! However I do hope you have learned and are now 100% sure it can't happen again!!

Tobie - posted on 06/16/2012

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I am no one to judge!! However I do hope you have learned and are now 100% sure it can't happen again!!

Ashley - posted on 06/11/2012

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I am the person totally against abortions. But i will try not to be judgmental. My question to you is why didn't you have your tubes tied if you did not want anymore? Anyways... With my oldest daughter i had severe pre-eclampsia, she was born at only 7 months to the day and i want threw a lot!! My oldest sister was horrified by what had happened to me. As soon as it was over i told my husband i wanted more kids no matter how much pain or hardship it would be. I believe children are an amazing miracle god has blessed us with and who are we to say no. I do not say no to blessings. I begged someone i know not to do it n they did anyway and they regretted it. I would never be able to do that i would spend everyday thinking about that baby. Hope my opinion helped.

Aimee - posted on 06/11/2012

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Where in her post does it say that she was NOT using birth control? Or taking precautions not to get pregnant? Things happen! I believe that every women has a choice. You did what was right for you and your family there should be no judgement there!

Xtina - posted on 06/11/2012

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serious issue here. However, a lot of the comments have had me laughing so hard my sides hurt. I live in the 21st century, although it seems there are many here still stuck in the past. Honestly I had no idea people like this still existed. I am a pediatric nurse, and in this role i get to see the consequences of unwanted babies being born. people have said that adoption is a viable option. Aside from the psychological damage of going through an unwanted pregnancy and then giving that baby away, does anyone realise what a difficult process adoption is, and how many children never get placed? The care system is full to bursting with unwanted children already. Unfortunately i have also had to care for children who are neglected and abused, sometimes to the point of death born to families who didnt want them. My experiences in my career mean that i am unequivocally pro choice, what a woman does with her body is her decision. To all those who are anti-abortion but have stayed respectful to other peoples opinions, I offer you the same respect, and while i dont share your opinion, i totally understand it. However, for all you judgemental harpies who insist on being explicitly judgemental; get your condescending, arrogant backsides off your high horses! who gave you the moral high ground? As I stated, I live in the 21st century, its a little bit late for witch hunts.

Lynn - posted on 06/10/2012

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Well, I find it interesting that you want thoughts and comments but nothing judgmental? You don't elaborate on what "health issues" you encountered and why you prefer to call an abortion a "termination". If you were so sick after your second son and didn't want to go through it again, why not get an IUD or use birth control if you were done having children. It's probably more accurate since you are terminating a life, but it seems that you prefer to call it something else to make it more bearable and appear to be only looking for women to tell you that what you did was ok. From what you stated, it doesn't seem like your life was on the line- if you're looking for approval, you won't get it here. If you didn't regret it and haven't since, not sure why you're even posting this?

Sarah - posted on 06/10/2012

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Your body, your choice. I have an open mind about abortion, although I do lean twoard pro life. I would never ever want the choice taken away. I know a person or two that have used abortion as their birth control methods, and since I am close to those people, I do give them a mouthful.. thereis birthcontrol available. Again though, ONLY you know what you can handle and your body. Thats your decision.

Nikki - posted on 06/10/2012

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jill i have 3 babies and am very aware of what can happen in a pregnancy, and if u are aware of the risks why get pregnant??????? i guess close minded people like me have no clue only a nurse could understand.

Nikki - posted on 06/10/2012

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Well my point of view is that if do not want more babies use birth control, a life is a life and it still has a heart beat. But if it was necessary then fine but i think before ladies get pregnant they should think about the consequences would you not wonder who that child would have been the long term guilt would kill me more then the labor. Just my opinion, and whatever works for your family is what matters in the end we all have opinions but are not in your shoes.

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