4 girls and oh, the DRAMA!!!

Emily - posted on 12/10/2009

I grew up as the oldest of 7 children... and the first 4 were all girls (the last three were all boys too...). Honestly, there was a lot of drama and bickering for most of our childhood, but we were still close as a family and my sisters and I are all really close now. I'm now 26 and my sisters are 25, 23 & 21. We're all married, but I'm the only one with kids. We were all living near each other (but several states away from our parents) until this summer when jobs moved two of my sisters really far away (I'm in Utah, one sister is in Arizona, another is in Ohio). We're actually all having a hard time with the moves because we really miss each other.

So, even with the constant bickering, as long as you keep up the "Treat everyone with kindness and respect", and be good examples of that love... your kids should grow up still loving each other. :)

Nikki - posted on 11/24/2009

i wish i new hun my 4 girls are onstantly arguin from the moment they wake till the moment thy sleep mine r 7,7,5,3 an would love sum peace n quiet lol

Jaimee - posted on 10/28/2009

I have 5 girls..please let me know if you find the answer!

Dorian - posted on 07/28/2009

I also have 4 girls who are 8 6 3 and 4 ..the 2 youngest are very close but the 3 yr old tries to bully the 4 yr old .My 8 yr old teases my 6 yr old...At this point i have learned that it is fine to let them resolve thiere own arguments,however they are children and as the parent you should intervene when it escalates.They have to be guided and who better to do it than mom.

April - posted on 07/16/2009

I am a mom of 5 kids: 4 girls 12,9,8,and almost 3 plus one 18 yr old boy. The girls are constantly picking at each other back & forth. Sometimes they are best friends and sometimes it is TIME TO INTERVENE. We wouldn't let two kids at school beat each other up or swear at each other and that's the line at which my kids don't cross. They cannot treat anyone at home worse than they would at school or there is a severe consequence such as: take away tv/computer/phone/pool/park/playtime w/a friend/dessert/toy they fought over....the key is to find something they care about! I LOVE the book by Dr. Gary Chapman called "The 5 Love Languages of Children" where it helps me discover how to help each one FEEL loved and it works! Best of luck!

Chris - posted on 06/11/2009

I have my girls alternate nights they shower...two one night and then the other two the next. Maybe this will help.

Christine - posted on 06/11/2009

I have 4 girls also 2 are my step-daughter that live with us, one is mine from previous marriage and we have one together. the oldest is 12, two are 10 and the baby is 11 months. talk about drama. that was my friend first, the line to bathroom is awful at night for showers and you spend to much time with the baby, any one else have this problem? oh real mom doesn't help matters either, being the 12 and 10yr old now live with us.

Evelyn - posted on 05/15/2009

hi im a mom of four boys aged 7,9,10 and 11...and i hear your plight....im forever trying to sort out squabbles and my boys can become quite physical towards each other,ive been tempted to walk away....let them sort it out...but when my stool or chair becomes involved i quickly intervene,you are so lucky to have four beautiful girls as i am to have the boys.....my advice...survive and keep your cool...and know for the hard times theres always double or more good times to cherish,when you have each other it always pulls you through....love your fridge saying might use that one...xx

Leah - posted on 04/29/2009

im also a mum of 4 girls they are 4, 2.5, 1.5 and 7 months old. they already fight like crazy and drive me insane.

Kim - posted on 04/08/2009

I am also a mom 0f 4 girls (even though mine are younger), but I am glad to hear that this is normal!

Barbara - posted on 03/28/2009

Remember that most of us are kinder to complete strangers than we are to those we live with!  I have 3 girls and 3 boys, and they seem to be mean to each other because they know deep down, that the love between them is unconditional.  "I can yell at you, because I know in the end, you'll love me anyway", kind of mentality.  When you think about it, it makes sense.  I can unload on my husband because I know he'll still love me after I've been a raving shrew!  Our children really are no different, they just haven't learned to verbalize it yet.  Best of luck, and KNOW that you are a great mom!

Chris - posted on 03/27/2009

I have four girls also...12, 9, 9, & 8. This is definitely a 'girl' thing with the bickering. I will tell them that I don't like the way they're talking or treating each other. This way I'm not telling them what to do, but they have a choice to stop. I've also told them on occasion that I believe they're capable of working things out in a kind way. I try not to intervene unless things get really heated, but it's not always easy...hang in there!

Suzanne - posted on 03/23/2009

i'm also an only child myself now i'v 3 daughters and a son my girls are 3.5 , 12 and 14 they all share a rooom and constintly blame each other on everything!!!! the 2 older girls can say horrible things to each other but still wen i give out to 1 of them the other will stick up for her sommestimes i feel like i just cant win!!!! on the plus side both of there teachers say they have very good debating skills!!!!! when mine start i send them to there room wit ni music or t.v and they usully end up being friends again fairly quick!!!

Sherry - posted on 03/23/2009

I have 4 girls also.  Two 12 year old.  1 is mine and the other is my husbands but they have been together since they were 2 1/2 and I am the only Mom she has ever really had.  Her "real" mom is a total waste of fresh air!!  My other girls are 4 and 3 and I also have a 1 yr old little boy.   The 2 oldest used to get into horrible fights and I would try to just sit back and stay out of it because I knew in 10 minutes they would be best friends again but it was really hard at time.  Them 2 are the best of friends now.   They grew up knowing no different than being sisters and to see them now just blows my mind.  The two younger girls are going through the fighting stage now.   I don't know how I survived the 1st time honestly.   I just keep praying that eventually this stage will end and hopefully they will grow into being the best of friends.  It is rough!!   Now with the two older girls there is just so much drama in their 6th grade lives that I just can't keep up with anymore.   They tell me what's going on and I just smile.    I never imagined myself having 5 children ever but I would not change a thing!   My baby boy is gonna have it rough.   My big joke is that with all of these sisters he will really know how to treat a woman...or just be a woman.   My husband does not like that little commit at all but it's just a funny.   I do feel sorry for the poor little guy!   Have fun with your girls.   They grow way too fast and then they don't even want you around. 

Jeanny - posted on 03/23/2009

Oh hun I wish I knew what to tell you since my 2 are constantly bouncing back and forth between love and hate. But Greg is on to something when he says they need to battle it out sometimes. Hang tight and get some earplugs on the bad days cuz you are an amazing mommy and your girls are some of the most precious little ppl I know because of that! They will get past the stage eventually (or so I'm told).