Friends disapear

Ellie Richardson - posted on 04/18/2012

Same experiance here. Soon as I had my first daughter all my friends disappeared too. An its not like I had her in my teens. I was 21 years old when I had my first kid. I have a few friends but Im always workin an when I have days off I'm more comfortable stayin home an relaxin.Once ur kids are in school and u go back to workin then you'll be able to meet people with simular lifestyles.Your old friends were probably like mine. Associates that we thought were true friends.A true friend will be there for u no matter if ur prego or not or even if u have 10 kids.Once u meet new friends u can to the movies, go out to a resturant, go to a comedy club, go dancin with ur hubby an double date, plenty of stuff. It's not like u gotta go out every weekend. But Once in a while treat ur self to pedicure an manicure , eye brow waxing or what ever your into.

Tracey - posted on 01/27/2009

do not let it get you down try going to play groups meet other mums and you could go to the park together etc and once a fortnight find time to have lunch with your friend that is 4 hours away maybe you caould organise a day to spend together and stick to this day once a month. if your frineds went away when you were pregnent then they were not real friends , i understand that everyone gets busy but it is important that you have poepl to talk to other then your family and your husbands frineds , i know i cant visit but if you want to talk online ill be here .\



trace mum of 7

Jennifer - posted on 01/27/2009

I have lots of friends that are parents of my kid's friends.  I make a huge effort to get out onto the playground or in the parking lots after school and talking with people.  I also get as involved as I can at school to meet other parents.

Now that we have 7 (really since we had 3) we don't get invited over to houses for family dinners or other such activities often as I think most people are just overwhelmed with the idea of so many kids coming.

My suggestions is to go the the park, museums, city pools etc and start talking to people who have kids the same ages.  Make playdates to meet in public places with these new acquaintances. 

If you are religious try to find a local MOMS group.  They have child care and typically a guest speaker or activity once per week.

Katrina - posted on 01/22/2009

Hey I totally understand!  I have 4 also and seems that if it is not the norm then some people shy away.  But then there are those great friends that really appreciate what you have chosen and have the same views and values.  I am a stay at home mom with 4 precious keiki's (children) .  I do not get out much and that has bothered me in the past- not as much now-but there are things that you can do!  Try to find a children and parent club in your area and get involved, find your local homeschool group to do activities with, go out and do community service with the kids,  go to the library ect.  We have gotten involved with a local church and do alot of activities with the parents and children from the church.  It is alot of fun.  And once in a while I will leave the children with someone that I trust  and go out to eat with my husband and some friends.  It is only once in a while but it refreshes me for another while just with them.  Blessings one your beautiful family and your endeaver to meet new friends!  Aloha!