Bio mom sending clothes that don't fit and are nasty???

Amber - posted on 04/01/2011 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I am the step mom of a 5yr old lil girl who I love dearly. Why in the world does her mother send her to us in the nastiness clothes and with clothes that are either too small or too big? We have ask if she needs clothes and she says no. I have ask her why there were clothes that were too small and she says "I was in a hurry but you have some clothes for her." Well yeah of course we have some clothes for her but the point is, is she wearing clothes that don't fit ALL the time or is she just purposely sending us the crap? Last weekend she came to our house in a pair of ratty jeans that had a HUGE hole in the knee. I ask her if she wore those jeans to school that day and she said no. Why on earth would she change the kids clothes just to send to us??? And if she's doing it so maybe we will think that's all she has and buy her new ones then why doesn't say she needs clothes when we ask??? I'm so confused...

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Amber - posted on 03/04/2012

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We had ask on SEVERAL occasions if she needed clothes for the child. We were MORE THAN willing to buy her some for her Mother's house. But BM always said no... The child lives with us now. Custody has been changed since I posted this question. She still sends her home in clothes that are too small even though the order specifically states both parents to keep a wardrobe which should be of the appropriate size... Oh well, I just keep documenting and documenting.

Sharlene - posted on 03/03/2012

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I know what your talking about same situtuion were in . The Bio -mum always bring clothes to us that are way to big or way small and they only bring one pair of undies for the three of them would be the only undies bring , We have spend clothes for there birthday's to send home to the Bio mum and there not aloud to wear them over there so we have there clothes left with us and they put back on the clothes they come over in back home . Just tell her if she needs clothes ypou will take the child shopping and take them back to the Bio-mums house , The Bio-mum sounds like she probably embressing and shame . Just keep reminding her that ou and your husband is there for help .Take care

Tammy - posted on 07/12/2011

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She's trying to be controlling & just putting her own bitterness & anger before the best interest of the kids. Neglectful & sad. Just try to be the better parent, she's obviously to self centered. Sad for the kids.

Amber - posted on 04/01/2011

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Well, the problem is that I shouldn't have to change her when she gets to my house, we leave right after she gets here and I shouldn't have to go change her clothes and clean her up. Yes it's good that she didn't wear them to school but why send her to our house in the shit? The child is only 5 and does not pack her own bag so there's no way she will forget to bring it back. Problem is, is that really the kind of clothing she has and does she need new clothes, the child doesn't need to be wearing clothes that are too small or too big for her. She sends her here in shoes that are falling apart and too small. I'm sorry but it's not good for her to wear shoes that too small for her. Surely she has shoes that actually fit??? But when we ask the mother she says she doesn't need anything... hmmmm

Amanda - posted on 04/01/2011

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Maybe shes sending ratty clothing incase the child forgets to bring that outfit back, she doesnt need to worry about it. Im a tad confused though, if you have clothing for this child, what does it matter what clothing she wears to your home? Just change her when she gets to your house. Since the child didnt wear them to school whats the problem. Lifes way to short to sweat the small stuff.

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