ADHD mom teaching ADHD child how to organize

Penny - posted on 11/18/2008 ( 4 moms have responded )

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How on earth do you do it? Do you struggle with showing your ADHD child how and what to do; but not being able to do it yourself? Teaching them to be organized and on time; but not being able to do it yourself? Do you give them more allowances because they are like you?

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Luann - posted on 11/19/2008

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I am dealing with the same problem! I have been taking the time to organize myself and then teach him what I know. So you're not just focusing them or yourself but "lets work together as a family". Ex, I start planning my day the night before. So I teach my son to get his backpack and clothes together for the AM. But also create a space for him to put these things in one place. I hate looking for clothes so on the weekend we hang his clothes by outfits (pants and a shirt together). I am using a planner now for my appointment and my bills. So I work with him to use a planner for his homework. (school provides an assignment book so I use that). I am in school so I have to come home and do homework, so I give him 15 min to unwind and have him study when I do. Or, he can do his homework while you balance your checkbook or cook dinner. That way you're there to help but he can do what he can on his own too. I cleaned and organized my bedroom and the house, and helped him organize his. I bought inexpensive storage units and shelves for him to use. I created a place for paper, pencils and sharpeners and keep abundance of supplies handy. For chores, I listed who has what chore, then made a list of what each chore entails. THat way the kids can check who has what job and what you do to accomplish it. I keep it where they can see. On the fridge, I keep paper handy where they can write down what food they would like me to buy or what we are running out of. I try to teach them about saving money and tell them the mistakes I make and how those mistakes hurt me. So they can see how being irresponsible with money has affected my life. Maybe get him a notebook to keep track of his money or a check register to record savings just like you do now. I do things like leave 15 minutes earlier than necessary so when Im late Im still on time, and setting my cell phone alarm helps a lot. A lot of planning ahead. Hope this helps, I just find that I try to improve myself and have my children do it too. I can be more supportive and a better, visible example that way and we all improve on the same areas together. And they can see that they are not the only one or no one's perfect, but no matter how old or young we are we all can find ways to self improve.

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Luann - posted on 11/25/2008

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Your welcome, hope it goes well. If you want to touch base once in awhile for support and exchanging ideas, that would be great. Like I said, I am learning too and am on this website to meet others like me. Good luck and happy thanksgiving too!

Penny - posted on 11/19/2008

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It seems the older I get the harder it is for me. My doc says it is usually the opposite...the older we get, the better it gets. I can't seem to be on time for ANYTHING! I set my alarms early and still am late!! I can't remember anything so I am a list maker! I just want so badly for them to not suffer like I have. I want them to do better. Thanks for the tips. Some I do, and some I am going to try!!

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