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coming clean

Kristy - posted on 07/05/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )

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*Okay, I must come clean. I have been accused of presenting myself under false pre-tenses. I am not an "official" step-mom. As I am not "officially" married to my partner. We have been together for 5 years, lived together for most of that.

-Because of school, money and insurance issues we live as a non-traditional family unit.

"Co-habiting residential partners"

-I cannot spell, have many varied limitations, and no biological children of my own (unless you count Rascal)

*I do have experience, training, education and knowledge to contribute. I have a teaching certificate, certificates in early childhood education, 5 plus years working in daycares, preschool, private pre-k & kindergarten, day-camps, and as a nanny. I also just graduated with my Bachelors’ degree in Social Work.

-I do love my partner and his son. I care for and make sacrifices for this amazing and sometimes challenging young man.

*I think I could contribute and grow from the dynamic exchanges offered here, either as an “almost step-mom” or a “step-monster” or on a contributor, semi-professional and networking status.

-If anyone thinks I should remove myself from this forum please let me know. Questions, comments, whatever.

Thanks,

Kristy

Sorry if anyone feels deceived.

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Kristen - posted on 07/15/2009

You are here for help in parenting. Even if you aren't legally in that post, you have been acting in that roll. No deceit from what you described.

Shannon - posted on 07/13/2009

You don't have to be married or have biological children to feel like a mom...you keep on sharing advice and opinions.

Rabecca - posted on 07/07/2009

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Well I was never offically married to my sons father eaither but that doesnt make him less of the fact that he fatherd my child what does make him less is that he has never lived with raised him all he ever contributed is sperm and we were engaged and lived together for 7 years but once baby came in to play dad was out the door.

4 years later I met the love of my life and he loves my son like his very own he finacillay supports him emtionally supports him and takes care of him in everyway they have such a close bond I cry just to think about how blessed we truly are and now even that we are married it's still like just because my ex created my son that he would have all rights to him if anything ever happend to me he wont give up paerntal rights even though hes only saw him a handful of times and never paid any support .and honestly notyhing would change not his name and not his acess to his son if he wanted it nothing just where he would live if in that situation..

I tell you what nothing makes me more mad than that situation my son feels that his daddy is his step dad and loves him more than you can imagine but because this other guy who means nothing more than a distant uncle is his bio dad people always say well hes his step dad who cares thats his dad and has been from the very first moment we started dateing and that was along time before we actually got married money and insurence were our issues too because my husband makes great money but with the change in econmy it was hard to add that extra expence of insurance till we knew we would make it over that rough time . Parents come in all forms and ways marriage does not make you anymore than that childs parent or step parent I know peopel that are married and in no way consider there spouces child there child I will never understand some people