Has anyone dealt with a teenager with ADD and ODD that keeps having problems?
Michelle - posted on 04/27/2009
I have a 16y/o son that has ADHD and ODD and i am at my whits end. The schools that he attends do not understand his illness and they continue to repermand him.He is currently in a disaplinary school, and they offer no services. I NEED HELP on finding groups or even doctors that will help US.
Jackie - posted on 04/19/2009
ADD but not ODD - find yourself a good counselor and psychiaitrist that you trust. The ODD is the hardest because there is a fine line with how you have to react with him/her. I work with teenager in an alternative school setting.
But you have to get control now otherwise the ODD will lead to severe problems - and court invovlement.
Darlynn - posted on 04/16/2009
Well, these kids need a lot of follow through! Tell them everyday that you love them, give them a lot of guidlines and then follow through (a lot of work on our part). The most important thing I think is how their minds work. You have to remember that these kids think in the short term. We think in the long term. All punishments should be short. I like to use TEASPOT ~ Take Everything Away, Short Period Of Time. This works really well with my 16 year old. If he doesn't follow one of our rules (grades, curfew, etc) we take ALL his favorite things away( ipod, Xbox, TV, cell phone, etc.) for 2 or 3 days. This hurts enough to make them not want the punishment again without feeling like it'll never end. I learned recently that we don't and can't control our kids but we do and should control their things. The name of that class I liked too was Parent Project in Temecula. It's put on by Safe, check into it and good luck!
Patricia - posted on 04/15/2009
It is very hard, but the important thing is not to address your frustruation against the child. I found out that setting rules and boundering together and following up on them helped. The other thing is to understant what is ADD and that it is not that the child want who wants to act like that. I remember that my child was tested for allegies and the artificial coloring was a fact in his behavior. I hope this help and belonging to a group of mom with the same problem really helps. Maybe there is a group that mets every month in your area. Good luck.
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