I need advice from other moms

Rabecca - posted on 06/17/2009

Though I knew my son was wild and overly active at 6 months old I already knew he was ADHD but how much and what he we would do about was not in the works for quite awhile but really I wish I did not play that lets wait and see thing because it caused him a lot of undo stress and and we could have been more proactive if I could redo anything thats what it would be .I never had an issue with my sons behavior yes it was fustrating and hard to not be able to say pick up your toys then put you cloths on it was more like pick up your toys like this and have to do it with him and then tell him 30 times to put his shirt on but mostly he has issues with not doing things before he thought of coniquence such as if my ball goes out into the street that not just running after it or opening his car door into other cars anything that just might take a moment to consider would not be considered by him and the child can talk none stop without so much as a pause which is very hard for me cause I like lots of quite and do not like to repeat myself but hey what are you going to do . problems really presemted themselves when he stared school teachers sent him out of the classroom almost everyday because he disrupted other students he got up and walked around at wrong times he would not listen pay attention and was rough and disrespectful to teachers and staff I would get a call everday saying your son did this or that so definatly he has more issues in certain environments and he get s very nervious and scared or mad and things would get out of hand he just could not pull himself out of his outburst it was so hard to waltch him know he messed up because he could tell you till he was blue in the face what he should have done but didnt know how when he was in certain situations

all ADHD kids have different ways they act there are markers some are rough some wander around some have fine motor skill issues most are highly intellgent but may give people that impression because the inattentiveness some may be concidered even needing to be in spec ed because they arent learning usally thats because they cant slow there mind down long enough to process what they are being told some hear it learned it and moved on when the teacher is going over and over it for othe rstudents and they get bored and start causeing trouble because they need more stimulation and some parents think there kids can not be ADHD because they can spend hrs. on things they enjoy well movies video games sports they are seeing or moving as fast as there minds so that can make alot of parents think no my child can sit still and some kids have the hyper part which is where the ADHD comes in but not all do some kids just have the non hyper issues and then they would be considered ADD .Just wanted to add that alot of ADHD kids have combo things going on like depression or bi-polar anxiety .Alot of ADHD kids have sleeping issues too because there minds are going so fast its hard to DX or to get everything that needs adressed and some of those things do not come up till much later

Rachel - posted on 06/14/2009

Time will tell yo a great deal. I have found Dr Daniel Amen's books, and diagnostic tools to be pretty accurate. I know it's exhausting, but hang in there...as he gets a little older, you'll likely get a better sense of what's really going on,. In the mean time, educate yourself all you can, so whenyou hear bad information, it won't send you down the wrong, frustrating path. At this point, you probably aren't going to do your son any harm by waiting a little longer. Follow your instincts, but keep learning all yo can...your instincts will be much better that way. Best of luck

Krista - posted on 05/17/2009

We didn't find out until the end of 2nd grade year that my son is ADD. I wondered about it for a while (my brother had ADHD), but he could focus so much on stuff he loves, like shooting baskets, that my husband wasn't convinced. For the first couple of years in school, he had a hard time. Focus and attention were his main issues. I finally asked the doctor for a referral to a psychologist, for other issues, and thru that we got him attention tests, and she said he's ADD. It made a huge difference this year to explain that to his teachers, and he's doing much better this year.



I would say, wait it out for a few, let him be an active 4 yr old (as long as he's not hurting anyone or anything) and see how he does in school.

Dani - posted on 05/13/2009

We thought Eathen was just being a little boy, and then denied it for almost a year til he started becoming very violent. If you have doubts mama, get a second opinion. Thats what we did.

Sherri - posted on 05/13/2009

At his age it is too hard to say if he is ADD/ADHD, when he gets into grade school you will be more able to notice the signs. My son was told at a youn age he was ADD by the preschool teachers but everytime I spoke to the doctor he would tell me "wait and give him more time to find his personality". Then he started school and kinder was not too bad and 1st grade a little worse and now we are in 2nd grade and it is horrendous so he is now on 5mg of focolin. I would wait and give him more time to find himself and see how he does later.

Amanda - posted on 05/12/2009

Is your son in school yet? If so that would be a huge key if he has it or not. Talk to his teacher and see what he/she says.



In my case i knew from about age 1 that my son was not "average". When giving instructions, does he follow them? If you say go clean your toys, does he? If you have to say go pick up the red car and put it in the bucket, now go get the yellow car and put it away etc... that's usually a good tell tale sign.



If your gut instinc is no he doesn't have it, then he probably doesn't. If you feel that something just isn't quit right, i would go get it look at. Even try a differnt type of parenting course or something and see if that helps change things.



Hope this helps alittle.