I need some advice!!!

Cassie - posted on 04/20/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I have an 11 year old son who was diganosed with ADD when he was five and recently diagnosed with OCPD! Teachers have always been understanding with the exception of his kindergarden teacher. Last summer we moved to a diffrent state and this is the first year in this school. It has been a rough year all the way around and I thought he was dealing with the move fine his behavior at home has not changed. In school he is very well behaved just as a real hard time focusing and remembering supplies. We see the OCPD in sistuations where showing work in required or full sentences are needed or other things like that. His teacher is highly unorganized and has said this herself. I have talked to her on the phone many times and she always says she thinks he is doing okay and that she can work with him. I also requested a weekly report on how he is doing but have only seen one all year. on time on the phone she had said" for the past six weeks he has been socialy with drawn" that was the first I herd of it. Also he was getting a b in math at mid term when report cards came home he was failing, I never herd anything. Now today my son came home and told me he couldnt do his math homework because he wasn't allowed to sit in his desk today and get his book because he got in trouble yesterday for not looking at the teacher when she was talking and that he didnt mean too, but other kids were talking and it distracted them. How can she expect him to focus on her when there are major distraction? Hello this is the problem. Not to mention she assigns them assignment that arent ever collected or looked at, then when he doesnt have an assignment that was ment to be turned in she doesnt understand why. I have been very clear with her on things that help him work better and she has tried none of them. I dont know how to make it any more clear to her!!!! What should I do to get her to understand that this year she is part of the problem???

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Anne - posted on 07/20/2010

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I agree with Regina. Even when a child doesn't have special needs they sometimes do not 'mesh' well with the teacher. The school should understand that and allow you to switch classrooms. I start out the year explaining to the new teacher about my daughter and her concentration problems and her need for structure and predictability. I also tell them that if they do not think that they are the teacher to provide that (ie because they are disorganized etc.) then it is okay and we could find a different teacher more suited to her needs. Most teachers we have had to deal with have been understanding and helpful. We had an awful one last year and that is an experience that I will NOT repeat!

Regina - posted on 07/05/2010

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How did things go the rest of the school year?

Regina - posted on 04/21/2010

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Just a thought, you might see if you can change his classrooms. I had to do that with mine. Also schedule a meeting with the prinicipal and teacher and counselor if he sees one in the school. If she can't follow what is needed for him it may be time to change the class. I don't know why some teachers ask for your help in teaching them but then don't listen when you do tell them how to do it. Been thru that twice before I just removed mine to home school him.