I Think My Son Has Adhd But The Doctor's Won't Admit It?

Samantha - posted on 10/03/2012

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My son is 4 years old. He will be 5 in March... He has been kicked out of 4 preschools. His behavior started to seem abnormal when he was about 3 years old. He has never had anything traumatic, or different that made his behavior become this way. He is now 4 yrs old 43 lbs, and 43 inches. He is 100% fit, he just is a big boy. He is skinny though. When He is throwing a fit, it becomes very hard to lift him. Academically he is a very smart boy, and has been tested above his level. He was offered to go to Kindergarten a yr early, but his behavior is not age level. He has a IEP for his behavior for his school. I am trying to get all the help I can before the Real school begins. I have been through psychologists, behavioral therapy, 3 different pediatricians. They all say He has major signs of ADHD and ODD but he is too young to diagnose him. I think they are pretty much too young for medication. Great, I do not want him on medication right now. He is 4. I was on the phone with 50 different people today trying to get help. My son almost died today, and he did not learn at all why. Today I visited my sister who lives near a high school. It was around 2:30 and during this time it is a very busy street. For 10 minutes we were talking when my son out of no where ran out of the parking lot * I of course ran as fast as I could* and everyone around me as well to grab him, but I am thanking the lord right now no car was coming at the time. This street always has cars.... He would of been killed if there was at that moment. After explaining to him what could of happens, and asking him why, and other reasons why i told him he scared me and blah blah blah. literally 3 minutes later he does it again and laughs. My child is the brightest kindest kid I know at times, but he does not learn from the choices he makes. He cannot ever shut up... ( I love my child, but I do not know where to turn because of the stupid Doctors around here). He honestly has became so angry, and difficult.. I have a lot of phone calls to make again tomorrow. I have about 10 appointments a week for my son to get help. I have a 2 yr old little girl as well, and he is very mean to her. He can be kind, but my eyes have to be on him non stop. I just want my boy back...

Kirby - posted on 09/11/2009

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Hi there my son is 3 and ive been trying for the last year to find out what was up with him he is out of control, i am constantly getting told he is just a normal boy and to get over it but today when i was at my gp for an appointment for myself he witnessed first hand what i have been talking about and how hard it is to control him i finally got told he has got add and may also have adhd if need be id suggest changing doctors thats what i did and finaly got a positive result

Angela - posted on 05/29/2009

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Hi... My son just turned 7 a few weeks ago and was also diagnosed with adhd 2 days before his 7th birthday, which his father and i had assumed for a while but really didnt want to medicate him as we thought he could grow out of it. It wasnt until we had a parent/teacher conference in May that his teacher was suggesting to get him tested because he wasnt doing well in school and she wanted to have him repeat 1st grade again! She suggested that we contact his pediatrician and request what they call a " Conners Report" or a "Vanderbuilt Report" there are many names depending on where you live. We requested this and filled out our section and the teacher fills out their section and then the pediatrician scores it! Well my son was almost off the charts!! So his Ped. decided to treat him right away. He is being treated with Adderall time release capsules.( so that he only has to take it once a day) What a difference i see in my son. He was always loving and caring but he just seemed to have "ants in his pants" he couldnt concentrate,sit still,etc. He has only been on this medication for about 3 weeks and myself my husband and his teacher have seen such a remarkable change in him. His teacher actually contacted me today to let me know she was going to send him to the 2nd grade,as his grades had turned around drastically! He now tells me that he doesnt worry about what any of the other kids in his class are doing,that he is just learning and feel confident in himself now!

If you feel that your child needs help and your childs pediatrician wont help you,try to also talk to his teachers for a referral,etc as they are the ones that see most of the behavior. Your child is the one suffering in the situation not the doctors nor anyone else, I hope he can find relief. ADHD is a very common disease these days,not like 10-15 years ago when not to much was known about it.

Im very greatful for my childrens pediatrician,he is so wonderful. He was also my Pediatrician, I guess thats why i chose him.

I wish you luck! Also to your son. If he has it and is treated with the right medication,he will be of much relief!! Again, GOOD LUCK on your search!!

Nikki - posted on 05/28/2009

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research as much as you can... http://kidshealth.org is a good site for parents as well as Webmd.com. Follow your heart.. you know what's best for your child.. but the more info that you have on the subject the better, I feel...

Kristen - posted on 05/08/2009

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I am afraid my son has ADHD. He is 4 years old and is so active. He does not listen (he actually does the opposite of what you tell him, can't sit still, talks almost non stop and loudly, and cannot play quietly. This all started when he was almost 4. I also have a 6 month old who is great with but don't know if all this is caused from the new baby or not. He is driving me absolutely crazy. I am afraid to talk to the doctor because I don't want to put him on meds if he really doesn't need it. Any suggestions ??

Tiffany - posted on 03/24/2009

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I found out that a mother of two kids should not feel so drained as I was feeling. My doctor told me to take him to a psychologist and within minutes I was sighing in relief. We finally found someone to help and found out that it was treatable. The cardinal rule is that they don't test kids until they are six years old. But when the teachers at school said something, they were also helping me out to get it under control. They too can help you with forms or what channels you have to go through to get some help.

Richelle - posted on 03/22/2009

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My son has been DX with ADHD. My advice is to skip your doctor and go straight to a Psychologist. They are better trained and equiped to handle these situations. Although I had absolutely no problems with his Primary Doctor, the Doctor himself recommended the Child Psychologist because of the extra baggage that can come along with the diagnosis. Good Luck

Alicia - posted on 03/20/2009

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Take him to a psycologist! Alot of Pediatric doctors don't see your child enough to really know anyways, and they assume that the parent's are over reacting pretty frequently. Most child psycologists can test for it as well, that's the route we had to go with my son, and I can't tell you how glad I am that we did.....I tried to talk to his peditrition about it for years, and he always just brushed us off about it....we've switched peditritions now too.....good luck!! :)

Lisa - posted on 03/08/2009

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GET A NEW DOCTOR.....can you imagine how hard it must be for this poor little boy each day! Tell your doctor you value his opinion but want to see a specialist.

In the end, you'll know and if you get help your lives will be better.

Lisa

Tammy - posted on 02/09/2009

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get him to another doctor. the sooner the better. i resisted my kindergarten teacher's recommendation and refused "to medicate my child to appease the school system" and he spent an extra year and a half suffering in school. keeping the necessary medication from a child who needs it is not fair to the child.

my pediatrician actually quit on me and referred me to the child psycologist becasue i was wanting to make the medicaton right for his needs and the pediatrician couldnt be bothered with fine tuning it to only what he needs but exactly what he needs.

child psychologists are great .. even a family doctor, clinic or emergency room if you have to. also i dont know where you are, but calling a mental health unit can sometimes hook you up with a child psycologist. dont give up. you know you have your child's well being at heart. good luck. keep us posted.

Becki - posted on 02/04/2009

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I took my daughter to a psycologist and he did the testing. Once he completed the testing I took the results to her PCP and we came up with a plan to treat her. I am so glad we did it because she has has done a total 360 in school and at home. We still have some problems however it is not like it was. She now makes the honor role and can sit still long enough to read a book or watch a movie.

Kerry - posted on 02/04/2009

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i have a 12 yr old son tht as got adhd austim @ learning difficuties he tryed killing is self 'set fires in his room. he got sent 2 a peditrition took 1 look at him and said there was nothing w rong it was my fault 4 the way he got brought up same with the school since he was 4 he was on sen register then i went social services 2 ge help they listen @ wrote a letter 2 his docter 2 get him referred 2 westcotes house itsa long hard battle as im a single parent i just take 1 day as it comes with him. he eventelly got dignosed in 2005 which was a reliave

Emma - posted on 02/03/2009

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MY son has just been diagnoised with adhd and tourettes he is also 5, a lot of tests cant be took untill they r 5, ask the school if they will refer u 2 the peditrition - hes the top doc that will make the diagnoses, i found parent classes were good as they can give u useful stratiges, have u spoken to ur health visitor?

Beth - posted on 01/30/2009

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Tell you Ped that you want to do a Vanderbilt Assessment. What it is is a questioneer that you, your husband and your son's teacher fill out. I spent most of last year insisting that my son needed help and the school refused to do anything. I had an assessment done and now he is on Vyvance for ADD. The important thing is keep pushing for answers! YOU are your childs advocate! My son, who is almost 7, told me soon after we started meds that he felt so much better and his brain wasn't "running around" (his words)as much!

Gail - posted on 01/30/2009

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hi . i have the same problem . my son is nine . he cant be still for two mins , he shouts,swears,hits , runs off , never finishes any task , he is about two years behind at school . he will start screaming and shouting for no reason at nobody !! ....my doctor sent him to see a behavier doctor and she said there is nothing wrong with him it is just him being a boy . can somebody tell me more about the double blind study .please as i think my doctor may do this for me . . thanks gail .( he can also be the most loving child i have ever met )

Veronica - posted on 01/30/2009

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good luck i have a son with adhd . go back to your doctor and ask him to test your son say to put your mind at rest and get the school to ask as well if not ask him to refur you to another doctor . hope you get it sorted soon

Veronica - posted on 01/30/2009

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good luck i have a son with adhd . go back to your doctor and ask him to test your son say to put your mind at rest and get the school to ask as well if not ask him to refur you to another doctor . hope you get it sorted soon

Caron - posted on 01/20/2009

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i had the same problem with my son aged 10 now . I went to doctors, school and no 1 wud help me until he was hurting himself and tried to run in front of a bus .

we found out last thursday he has got adhd yet the school still ask me to enquire as they still think he has nt

Karin - posted on 01/20/2009

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I recommend taking him to see a psycologist. They are more trained to recognize the symptoms of ADD/ADHD. From your limited discription it doesn't sound like ADHD to me...but I would trust your instincts more than mine. If your insurance doesn't cover a psycological evaluation...or even if it does you might want to check out a great book "Driven to Distraction" as it discribes in greater detail the symptoms, and also has a test in the back of the book. But, I would still recommend the evaluation of a trained psycologist as your hope for a correct diagnosis.

If your son doesn't have ADD/ADHD you don't want to put him on these meds as I belive most of the side effects come about because they don't blend well with the wrong corrisponding chemical makeup of the person taking them.

Don't give up trying to find answers though. It is a parents persistance that often yields answers...not just a medical professionals wisdom.

Rachel - posted on 01/17/2009

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you can ask your doctor to do a double blind study. thats where the doctor and pharmacist only know if your child is takeing a med or a placibo. You chart for 4 weeks, the response. one week he will have a small dose, the next weeka med dose, and the third week a high dose, and the fourth week a placibo. however you wont know what week is what. after your done you talk it over with the doc. this is a good way to tell if its ADHD/ADD. if your doctor wont agree to do this you might want to think about changing doctors.