Need Help!!!!!!!! 7yr old with adhd/odd

Lisa - posted on 01/25/2011

Christian....i feel for u....my son has adhd with a 2 year mental delay and cognitive behaviour he was diagnosed at the age of 8, he is now 14 years old. Children with adhd are hard to handle but yet sometimes it is so hard to see what they go through, my son was teased, bullied and humiliated by the kids he went to school with as well as some teachers because he had so much energy and was not able to sit for more then 30 seconds literaly at a time so they felt he was a shit disturber and defient and disruptive, that's when his behaviour started to get bad. He started to chew on everything pencils, paper, cups etc. i would discipline him and he would kick, hit, bite and throw things at me as well as call me names, i would put him in his room so i could get some peace and he would poop on the floor of his room then smear it all over his walls, i nearly lost my mind. We tried multiple medications from ridiline to aderall and dexidrine these none worked then finally one day i was so angry with him when he hit me on one of my existing bruises and told me to go f myself that i lost my temper i went to the fridge took out the hot sauce chased him and pinned him down and poured hot sauce down his mouth and told him that this was going to happen everytime he swore, it happened a couple more times until he realized that the drink of water i would give him after made it worse and the burning when he went poop the day after was not worth it....as for his hitting and kicking i would put him in front of a wall, the digital alarm clock on the table beside him, he had to keep his nose on the wall and his hands at his sides, if he moved his nose or his hands i tacked on 1 min, we started the time outs at a min, he put many holes in the wall the most time that was tacked on at one time was 20 min.......after 12 or 13 times of being on the wall and me not budging, as well as him looking at the time go by slowly with the corner of his eye....his behaviour settle down alot all i had to do was remind him of the wall....
pay attention to how ur son is being treated at school and let him see u support him if he is being treated unfairly. My son is now on a medication called concerta time release which seems to work for him for now until his immune system gets use to the drugs and the doctor has to up the dosage.
i also found that certain foods and dyes affected my sons behaviour drastically such as when he eats hotdogs his hyperactivity increased by 50 percent, red juice or freezies made his eyes go black and he would become extremely violent such as destroying his brother's things for no apparent reason.
My advice to u is to monitor what certain foods do to him and stick to ur guns on what u say, remember when u give an arm they take both arms and both legs. if acts out at a store tell him to stop or u guys are going home, if he does it again the leave everything right there and go home he will start to see that u mean everything u say, also remind him that if he keeps treating u like that u won't be talking to him until he says he is sorry he will not like the silent treatment from the one person that loves him the most....
be patient in regards to the medication if one doesn't work try another until u do find the one that works for him.....
good luck!!!!!!!!

Rachel - posted on 08/26/2010

my son is sevn as well with the same sysptoms when the school baker acted him for his behavior he was diagnosed with ied- intermediate explosive disorder meaning they snap and become very violent they destroy things and they dnt care about consequences it was such a relief to have answers plus my son has adhd so he has this energy that wont quit just hang in there because its a long road you need to be strong for self and your child and pray you'll get through it