Amanda - posted on 05/18/2011 ( 2 moms have responded )
Have you experienced an interrupted adoption? Do you know what the term means?
We were set to welcome #5! I flew back and picked up a beautiful little girl and brought her home just before Christmas 2010. I was tired. I was a mom to 5 all 4 and under and found out a few days after returning home that I was miraculously expecting! What! A new baby and pregnancy?
We survived until she started sleeping through the night then things got better. When she was 2.5 months old we were called by our adoption agency and told that a birthfather who is not of this country came forward and does not want the baby but wants the birthmom to raise her. We had no choice. My husband talked to attorneys and the agency and even if we wanted to fight we would lose. So we had to return her. We were heartbroken!
Would you be surprised if I told you it was not our first?
I can say that being "matched" then the birthmom backing out does not count to me because we never met etc. but I flew back one summer expecting to bring home two little girls born a day apart and sisters to our 2 girls we already had! I arrived in time for the birth of one only to be told 7 hours later the birthmom had changed her mind. Not too big of a deal because I wasn't attatched yet...but I took one little girl with me and we had a great 2.9 days together! Bonding and waiting for the time period to leave the state. I got a call that the birthmom had also changed her mind and the agency was coming to get the baby...
We paid for these adoptions and received no monies back, there is no refund to the money paid to a birthmother, or refund for agency fees.
So what did we pay for? Heartache? Slap in the face? Excuses to our children?
What was the hardest to face was our oldest daughter-age 5- now asks if she will have to leave our family because someone could come and take her away...