Paula - posted on 06/22/2010 ( 14 moms have responded )
Hi there, just looking for some advice regarding how to deal with tricky questions as an adoptive mother. This is mainly regarding new aquaintances. There have been two instances lately where I have been at a gathering and been in general conversation with a mother and establishing a new friendship when they have remarked on a personal trait of my son. Myself and my husband have very straight hair and our son has very curly hair. They have said "where does he get his curly hair from?" Sounds silly to write it down but both times it has taken me completely off-guard as obviously as a mother you dont continuously think about the fact youve adopted him .. he's just yours!. The first time someone asked this I just said "umm, I dont know, we're all different arent we" (cringe at recalling that one) and today when the same question arose I said "Well, he's adopted but nanny has curly hair" (cringe again as that makes the person asking it feel awkward and I dont really want to be sharing such personal info so readily) No doubt many more things like this will arise in the future so it will be also great to hear of your expereinces and how you have dealt with them, together with some good replies I can give re hair etc. Thank you kindly x.