Erica - posted on 08/28/2009 ( 18 moms have responded )
Sorry to intrude on your forum! I'm a birthmom but I could really use another point of view. Okay a little background, my daughter is 3 months old. I have an open adoption with weekly emails and pictures whenever the adoptive mom feels like uploading (which she has admitted she's kinda lazy about, she only likes to do it every couple months or so). I asked about a month ago if I could post a couple of the pictures of our daughter on my facebook page (which is private). I asked because I kinda felt like those pictures were their property and didn't want to use them without permission. They told me no they were not comfortable with that. It hurt like hell, not gonna lie, but I understand their point of view and will respect their wishes. That said, they took my daughter to get professional pictures done over 3 weeks ago. They emailed me right afterwards and told me how well it went and how cute she was and how they got copies for all their family and friends and promised to send me an email of them soon. Still haven't gotten them. I am not sure if it's because they are busy or because of the facebook incident. I still get emails in the same amount as before. My adoption agent has asked if I want her to step in and ask about it, but I don't want to go there yet. I think that might be unnecessarily uncomfortable since we communicate on our own normally. So do you guys think I should wait a little longer or ask about them and what should I say? Should I ask or have the agency ask for me?