Newborn adoption and a friendly hello

Crystal - posted on 04/05/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )

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The last two weeks have been quite a ride...... let me start by first introducing my self since I am new here.

My names Crystal, I'm 25 years old happily married for the last 6 years to the sweetest man I've ever met Steven who is 33. We have two beautiful biological children Alexis age 5 and Connor age 4. They are 12 months apart. After my son I had a bout of cervical cancer and the doctor told us it would be very risky to have anymore children. So my husband had a vesectomy to avoid any future pregnancies after we weighed out the risks. We always talked about adoption and figured the time would come someday when we could. We just never thought it would happen quite the way it has.

A week and a half ago I got a phone call while at my shop (we own a small Antique shop in Central Maine) that has officially changed our lives forever. My aunt had this young woman living with her for awhile and she got into some trouble after becoming pregnant in CA (where the father of the child is now serving a lengthy sentence in Prison) She has spent her entire pregnancy in Jail. 2 weeks ago she got extradited back to Maine because of probation here. She is taking a plea to serve 22 months in prison for her crime. The entire situation came as quite a shock to our systems. We thought about it for 2 days weighing out pro's and con's. Finally making a decision due to the situation she was due a week ago and still holding steady we had to make a decision fast.

The State child protective agency got involved because she is incarcerated, so we had a emergency home study done and background checks. We were approved and the case was closed immediately so we could handle this as a private adoption. We have a lawyer who has been wonderful in aiding us but we have so many questions that nobody seems to have the answer too.

We are planning an open adoption, we agreed to keep the name she has chosen Xariah (zah-re-ah) Jane and also agreed to send pictures on a regular basis. We hope that once the birth mother get's her life straight we will all be able to meet and establish a life long relationship.

Here's what I know
Xariah is now a week over due, she goes back to see the doctor in the morning. They are likely going to plan an induction for later this week. My lawyer has suggested that the birth mother sign over temp guardianship (but must write with pending legal guadianship, pending adoption) and than we can go for full guardianship and adoption. We are kind of lost in this process.

Has anyone else been in a similar situation??

Crystal

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Crystal - posted on 04/10/2010

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Thank you Beth, our beautiful baby girl was born yesterday at 11:20 am and we are now home with our gorgeous healthy little baby girl. She weighed 8 lbs 14 oz 21" long. The hospital was fabulous, gave us our own room and made us feel quite welcome. The process was a bit easier than I had imagined and we've had many of our questions answered by the social worker there and the social worker who did our home study everyone has been super through this process. I will post a longer response later off to enjoy our precious little bundle of joy.

Beth - posted on 04/09/2010

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Crystal -

Yes & no. We were in an identified adoption scenario which sounds like what yours is but we used an adoption agency versus a lawyer. We live in OH so state law may be different. Once we were background checked & homestudy approved, we waited for the baby to arrive. After our son was born, the birth mother (BM) had 72 hours before she signed the parental release forms - which she did. Once that was done, she had no legal recourse. However we were able to bring our son home from the hospital. The birth father was not in the pic until 2 months later after the agency had gone through the putative father registery which caused some delay (long story!) but at 6 1/2 months our adoption was finalized. We did not have to do any temp guardianship paperwork or at least that is not what OH calls it - we did have to fill out paperwork with the agency since we were considered "Foster to Adopt".
If you have specific questions I'd be glad to share more - we are in an open adoption situation as well.
I would also encourage you to find resources in your state to help answer specific process questions. Maybe the social worker that did your HS could answer some questions.

Congratulations!

Crystal - posted on 04/07/2010

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Hi Christy, thank you so much for the well wishes. Our birth mom is being induced tomorrow or Friday at the latest. She's 9 days over due as of today. They estimated our little girl to be almost 9 lbs. we are so excited to meet her and can't wait to begin our lives with her. Our entire family is ecstatic. Were praying for no troubles and a beautiful healthy baby. Will post again when we have our precious daughter in our arms.

Christy - posted on 04/07/2010

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Hi Crystal,

Welcome to the group. I'm sorry that I don't have any information. Thinking of you and prayers that the transition is as smooth as possible. Good luck!

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