a question about adoption

Savannah - posted on 06/17/2009 ( 14 moms have responded )

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Hi, I am getting my tubes tied after this pregnancy but I know that I want more children. I would love to adopt a child because there are so many children out there that need a loving home. How hard is it to adopt a child and what are the guidelines and rules?

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Stacy - posted on 05/04/2010

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Mt husband and I just started the proses.. We are going threw DHS.. We are going to foster to adopt.. We have to do 12 hours of clases, a home study and alot of paper work.. Not very hard, just exhausting.. We are hopeing to have children from ages 0-10, my other kids are in that age catagory..

I am so excited, sure you will be to when you begin your journey..

Schaly - posted on 06/17/2009

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It took us about 6months to be aproved for adoption. You have to have a home study done and aproved first, and then pass background checks, and after those are done depending on your state there are different requirements. However the worst part is the STRESS adoption is not an easy process lol. We just adopted our little girl in March and goll did we go through alot to get her!!!

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Anne - posted on 05/24/2011

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We adopted through a private agency. We got our newborn daughter less than 3 months after we started the process!! We finalized the adoption 8 months later. Our home study had not been processed yet when we already brought her home. We weren't picky about sex or race. Our daughter is biracial. We learned that the darker the child, the faster and easier the adoption. As to the cost, it was a domestic adoption at about $20k (ALL included), but we were able to write $10k off of our taxes over 5 years.

Angie Miller - posted on 05/14/2010

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Just wondering about the foster to adopt program. Does anyone know if it is harder to get smaller children v.s teenagers? I've heard that it is. Also it seems like you have to have one parent that is able to stay home if the children are under 5 yrs. old. during the foster part. I would like to go this route to adopt another baby/child but not sure how it works. I'm not sure how I could come up with another 25,000.00 to adopt through an agency again. It's too expensive.

Angie Miller - posted on 05/12/2010

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The adoption process is not easy but it is very well worth the time and effort. I would say to get in touch with the agency you want to work with and complete all your paperwork, interviews, homestudy etc. as quickly as possible. And things should move quickly. As far as the guidelines and rules you will need to check with your agency/social worker because there are different laws in every state.

Megan - posted on 12/17/2009

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I recommend checking out the foster/adopt agency in your area. My husband and I have had an amazing experience so far. We are currently fostering twin toddlers and will likely adopt them this summer. It is very affordable in comparison to private adoption and there is even some monthly financial support from the state, which has allowed me to be home with the kids. There is also medical coverage until they are 18-yrs-old.

Cara - posted on 11/11/2009

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i am not going to go into the details... but i just have to say I love adoption. It is a gift... to you and to that child. we have adopted one daughter... and are waiting on our second adoption ... it is a long hard heart season...but it is a journey that strengthens the soul.
I wish you the best...and hope your journey results in the joy of recieving a precious gift of another child in your family.

Jennifer - posted on 08/27/2009

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I had to wait 16 months for my son. He was out of country. I didn't want a chance of the bio mom coming back in ten years and demanding her rights and taking my son away. At the time of our adoption that was happenning a lot. It cost 18 g. So, I was lucky with an inheritence. It was worth it. Never doubt that. The child after birth and the pain and trauma-they were worth it. And an adopted child-after the process and stress-they were worth it. I am blessed with one of each.

P - posted on 08/20/2009

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YOu can always license for foster to adopt. You can even state you only want younger or older children and too only children that are adoptable. This too is very rewarding and it's very low in the price of adoption, as the state and private agencies pay for most or all. Lots of Churches even are part of conferences that have their own adoption agency groups too.

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I am in South Africa and we adopted through th National Child Welfare (so not private). I always describe the adoption process as exactly that 'a process'. We had to have marriage counselling, home inspection x 2, clear bill of health, AIDS tests (yes, we had to supply the results which in our law is unconstitutional but we were willing), financial reports had to be supplied, newspaper advertisements advertising for the biological family to come forward (6 weeks worth) and about 4 meetings with the children's court.



All worth it in the end. I have never looked back!

Andi - posted on 07/16/2009

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My adoption process was just as all above .not as costly because in both adoptions it was in family .We adopted my nephew when my sister died ,He was 2 now 17 ..

We adopted our grandchild at her Mother's request and still went though the white glove inspection , paperwork ,background checks , etc. All worth it :-) A Blessing these children have giving to our lives .. Just love adoption I do feel the cost is crazy ..To give A child A home and family should not be about money ..

Debbie - posted on 07/10/2009

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Adoption can be a lengthy and expensive process. The first step is research, research, research. There are numerous ways to go about adoption - fostering first, adopt an older child (toddler, etc.), private adoption, state social service agencies, adoption attorneys, private adoption agencies, etc. We adopted our children through a private agency. In someways the process is somewhat offensive. You are required to fill out paperwork that is so intrusive but necessary. I was particularly offended when the form looked like a baby shopping list - questions about ethnicity, gender, handicaps, etc. that we were "willing to accept." Then there is the "while glove" inspection of your home and questions about your sex life with your spouse. It was all worth it though. My children are now 16 and 19.

Jilla - posted on 06/23/2009

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I agree with what others have said; will add that the cost for private adoption is 15k-20k; there are payment programs though offered through some agencies.

Sarah - posted on 06/18/2009

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A lot is going to depend on what kind of adoption you are looking at doing (open, semi-open, closed), the type of child you want to adopt (age, race, sex, special needs), and the agency you go through. When you get closer at looking into adoption call around to different agencies and get information (many will send out a packet). Also talk to others find out their experiences. Best of luck on your journey.

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