Julie - posted on 03/30/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )
Hi! I'm new here. My husband and I adopted our son three years ago (we brought him home at 9 days old). We waited 3 1/2 years to receive the phone call that changed our lives forever. We have more of a closed adoption which is very different than most domestic adoptions these days.
We have the complete social & medical history for both birthmom and birthdad. We have their first names, but no pictures of them. They are not married, but have two daughters together and we have the daughter's names. But at the birthparents request, they didn't want an open adoption. The only thing that they requested were pictures of our son from birth, 3 months, 6 months and 12 months old. That's it. We wrote them a letter, sent pictures (to the agency) of our son's first year and that's it.
Our son knows that he's adopted. I made him his own Lifebook and we read it occasionally to him or whenever he wants to read it or look at pictures. I took the actual words from his birthparents as to why they chose adoption for him, but I don't know how long that will work for him. I'm sure as he gets older, he'll have questions and we won't have the birthparents to turn to for help or what not.
Anyone else in this situation like ours that can offer some advise would be appreciated!