Are unique names too outrageous these days?

Ashlee - posted on 06/03/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )

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I have a four year old daughter named Aunesti Skylar (its pronounced honesty) and currently I am pregnant with my second. It's a boy and I plan on naming him Aidan Samier. I dont want my children to have common or typical names but alot of friends and other people I associate with tell me I go to far in naming my children. I just like to be different and they say Aidan is a 'white' name. I didnt know that names had color....does anyone see anything wrong with my childrens names?

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Clara - posted on 02/02/2010

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I belive that it is important to give a child a name that has a good meaning. It's okay to want the child to have a unique name, but I believe that with time and research both can be accomplished. I have seen people say, name them whatever you want, but I have to disagree with that. Yes, it's the parent's choice, however, the child is the one that will have to live with the name day in and day out until they are old enought to have it legally changed. There is no guarantee that they will like even a simple name, but naming them something that is obviously crazy, does not help anything.

Bri - posted on 01/31/2010

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Honestly, although I love the was you did your daughters name, the creative names and spellings DO get a bit out of control...I believe you can be creative and still name within good taste. You don't want your child hating it later. Its almost like looking at a picture from 20 yrs ago and thinking, " What the hell was i wearing?! And why did I do that to my hair?!" Lol! You don't want your child growing up hating their names or them constantly have to hear remarks about it. The resume thing is a GIVEN!

Erika - posted on 01/05/2010

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I know what you mean! I struggled with naming my daughter too. I do believe some people over do it in the name department. I think that women (and men) need to think about their children's futures in the job world before they name them. I know that even as a Black woman, I would have a hard time hiring someone named Boomshaquita!

Christine - posted on 06/08/2009

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I think you should name your children whatever makes you joyful. But one caveat - MIT did a study in which they sent resumes out with "black" sounding names and "white" sounding names. The resumes were nearly identical in every other way in terms of work history and education.



The white resumes got significantly more requests for interviews than the ethnic ones. So I would suggest that when naming a child, find a "root" for it. For instance base it on something tangible (like an African name that has a meaning attached to it.)



I can also tell you that there will be problems down the road with pronunciation and spelling. I go to events and often have people ask for autographed books for their nieces, nephews, grandchildren, etc. Then have trouble remembering how to spell the name.



So ask yourself - does the name you give your child have meaning and significance? Or is it kind of a personal whim that may handicap them long term?

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Monica - posted on 01/17/2010

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Christine, I've heard of that study also. But I feel if they want to discriminate, they will. They can just as easily discriminate after they see you as they could beforehand.

Monica - posted on 01/17/2010

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I see you've already made your decision :)

My daughter's name is Amariah (pronounced Uh-mar-E-uh). I don't think there's anything wrong in giving your child a name that you like whether it has meaning to it or not. My daughter's name means Gift from God, but honestly, that wasn't why I chose it.

Vette - posted on 12/31/2009

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I think some people go too far with naming kids with unique names. Going through my kids elementary school yearbook made me laugh...names like shachronic...come on now. But I think people put too much emphasis on only Black people doing this. White people also do this. But as long as your child's name isn't PilotInspecktor or named after a drug then honey their names are fine. Hope I didn't offend anyone.

Erica - posted on 06/21/2009

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no i actually like the name aunesti it is truly different and a beautiful name, but the only thing i can say when it comes to namng children is to make sure you give them a name that has some meaning, that they can live up to, and that looks good on job applictions. Aiden is not a white name....my baby's name is Rhydell....like the high school on grease.

Sarah - posted on 06/11/2009

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I believe the quality and character of the children you raise are of more importance than their name. So, name your child whatever you wish. I just hope you and and your child have the patience to deal with everyone in society who has a double take at the name and inquire about it's pronunciation and for those many more that will make incorrect attempts at pronunciation.Just look at it as your way of teaching people and people teaching you :-)

However, I have to agree that Aidan is a "white name" due to the following:

The meaning of the name Aidan is Little Fire
The origin of the name Aidan is Irish
Alternate spellings: Ayden, Aydan, Aydin, Aedan, Aidyn

http://www.babynames.com/Names/name_disp...

And since the name derived from Irish speaking people it is not "ethnic" in any fashion. Nonetheless, I do not discourage you in name your baby Aidan...I just encourage you to understand the meaning and origin of any name you choice so you can share that legacy with your child.

Regina - posted on 06/10/2009

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I think u should name your child whatever you feel comfortable in naming them, I got it as soon as I saw Aunesti, its unique and pretty without being "ghetto". I think Aidan is a wonderful name and I don't think any ethnic group has a lock on certain names. Christine is right in mentioning the resume study. I thought about that when naming my daughter that I wouldn't want anyone not to even give her a chance to get a wonderful job just from what her name sounds like, so I took the safe route and named her Camille which I think is very pretty and sounds ladylike. I think that's what is actually means as well. Good luck.

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