10 month old is constantly crying. Help!?

Kimberly - posted on 08/05/2012 ( 7 moms have responded )




My little boy turned 10 months yesterday. He was colicky for his first 5 months, but then suddenly got over it. However, he still cries constantly, but it is more of a whiny cry. He is perfectly healthy according to the nurse, doctor, and dietician. It seems like he is cry-whining for attention, but when you give him attention he doesn't want it. This occurs despite being fed, given milk, having a clean diaper, being at an appropriate temperature, and given toys. He squirms out of my arms if I hold him, he screams if I put him on the floor, he screams if I give him toys, he screams if I put on a child show for him, and he screams if I get on the floor to play with him. My boyfriend works 4pm to 1am every evening, so I get to bed about 1:30, and then my son is up again by 7, often waking in the night. The sleep deprivation and general annoyance is causing me to lose sanity. I don't want to resent my child, but NOTHING that I do makes him happy and I don't know how much longer I can deal with it. I don't even eat or drink as often as I should because I am so stressed by his constant screaming that I choke down my food while he screams to get back to trying something else to calm him even though it's futile and I make myself sick. I thought I would have gotten used to it by now, but I can't. Even though it makes sense to put him to bed later so he'll sleep later, I am so crazy by the time that 8pm rolls around that I just put him in the crib so I can have a break. My mother takes him overnight once a week and I find myself looking forward to that day all week, and then when she has him I miss him like crazy. I love him more than anything, but I just wish he could be a happy baby. At least some of the time. But he's always screaming. The only thing I have found that even remotely calms him is a new situation. If I take him somewhere he has NEVER been before, he will be calm for about ten minutes. I live in a small town and I am out of ideas. Even if I take him to the same place more than once (such as the park or the pool) he hates it the second time. This has resulted in my boyfriend and I spending much of our time traveling by car to new places for him, but there aren't many options around here. New toys only work for the initial ten minutes as well. Now he has a zillion toys that he doesn't touch. I can't afford the money or time to keep cycling them or traveling at this rate. HELP!


Anna - posted on 08/06/2012




Hmmm, that's a toughy. Have you looked into food allergies? A possible gluten senstivity could be making him miserable. You could fiddle with his diet for a few days, subtracting one food item and see what happens and go through all different kinds of food, keeping a journal the whole time. It may help you find something there.
There have been times when my babies seem fussy for no reason and nothing seems to help. I give them a dose of Tylenol on the off chance that something hurts. A lot of the time this works. It could be anything from teething to growing pain or even a headache.
The consistency with which he cries and is fussy makes me think that his tummy hurts him. Have him evaluated from stomach or intestinal issues, at least to rule it out. Colicky babies are usually that way because of stomach issues. Most kids grow out of it, but in some kids, it means a real food allergy or food sensitivity. I hope you find something to help the poor kid. And remember, as miserable as you are with his fussiness, if he really is in pain most of the time, then he is way more miserable than you.

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Amanda - posted on 08/12/2012




My son had gastric reflux from the start i was told he had colic,it wasn't .The only thing that settled him was a electric swing.It could be food intolerances,We had rast test done.Been tested for coeliacs,lactose etc barium meals he is now 7 and suffers from ibs too.Its awful when they cry constantly,i really feel for you.I rember pushing my son in his pushchair at 2 am in the morning to get him to sleep i was desperate,have you tried proping the end of his cot up.He could have silent reflux were there not actually sick but it rises up there throat,you might need infant gaviscon.Hope he gets sorted soon.

Tara - posted on 08/07/2012




My little guy was like this when he was teething. The only thing that helped was to take him outside and play and then he would calm down. For about a month straight he cried and whined the whole time. He then got 4 teeth at the same time. Could you try baby tylenol or a pain reliever to see if it helps? Is he drooling lots and playing with his mouth? If you don't want to give him medication, there are also some homeopathic things for teething. I know how frustrating the constant crying and whining is! Good luck!

Amy - posted on 08/05/2012




Is there a reason you are waiting up till your boyfriend gets home from work? My only suggestion is to go to bed an hour or two after your little one does so that you aren't annoyed or losing your sanity. My husband worked till 2 am when my kids were babies, there was no way I was waiting up for him to get home. Also since he does this all the time, make sure you are taking time to yourself, If you need 10 minutes to yourself do it it's only going to make you more patient.

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