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My little boy turned 10 months yesterday. He was colicky for his first 5 months, but then suddenly got over it. However, he still cries constantly, but it is more of a whiny cry. He is perfectly healthy according to the nurse, doctor, and dietician. It seems like he is cry-whining for attention, but when you give him attention he doesn't want it. This occurs despite being fed, given milk, having a clean diaper, being at an appropriate temperature, and given toys. He squirms out of my arms if I hold him, he screams if I put him on the floor, he screams if I give him toys, he screams if I put on a child show for him, and he screams if I get on the floor to play with him. My boyfriend works 4pm to 1am every evening, so I get to bed about 1:30, and then my son is up again by 7, often waking in the night. The sleep deprivation and general annoyance is causing me to lose sanity. I don't want to resent my child, but NOTHING that I do makes him happy and I don't know how much longer I can deal with it. I don't even eat or drink as often as I should because I am so stressed by his constant screaming that I choke down my food while he screams to get back to trying something else to calm him even though it's futile and I make myself sick. I thought I would have gotten used to it by now, but I can't. Even though it makes sense to put him to bed later so he'll sleep later, I am so crazy by the time that 8pm rolls around that I just put him in the crib so I can have a break. My mother takes him overnight once a week and I find myself looking forward to that day all week, and then when she has him I miss him like crazy. I love him more than anything, but I just wish he could be a happy baby. At least some of the time. But he's always screaming. The only thing I have found that even remotely calms him is a new situation. If I take him somewhere he has NEVER been before, he will be calm for about ten minutes. I live in a small town and I am out of ideas. Even if I take him to the same place more than once (such as the park or the pool) he hates it the second time. This has resulted in my boyfriend and I spending much of our time traveling by car to new places for him, but there aren't many options around here. New toys only work for the initial ten minutes as well. Now he has a zillion toys that he doesn't touch. I can't afford the money or time to keep cycling them or traveling at this rate. HELP!