2nd baby showers...

Cheryl - posted on 03/14/2010 ( 15 moms have responded )

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do you think it is ok to have a baby shower for every pregnancy? do you think its ok to have 2 baby showers (1 before and 1 after) for the same pregnancy? these are just questions for curiosity.

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I personally didn't have a baby shower for a few reasons - I couldn't be bothered with the organisation, it's not commonplace to have one here in the UK much more of an American thing, and most of all to me it's a bit cheeky expecting people to come over with presents before the birth when most people would just want to give something when the baby's actually born.

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Dareki - posted on 03/17/2010

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I have six kids from four pregnancies and absolutely, I had a baby shower for all four of them. You can’t say, “because you’re my second born you don’t deserve to be celebrated”, now would you? Each baby is a blessing in their own little way. And I love going to baby showers, shopping for showers and I’ve been hosting baby showers for over 12 years and I even have a book published that’s to be used at your baby shower. So to answer your question, No, there is nothing wrong with having a pre-birth celebration for every single baby. http://dorrance.stores.yahoo.net/bashfun...

Jamie - posted on 03/17/2010

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I had two showers for my first pregnancy. One shower was from the in-laws and girls at work before my DD was born, so everyone helped out in getting the nursery finished which was very helpful. The other shower was a month after my DD born and held by my side of the family. I think it is okay to have two showers ... and these were attended by different people.
Now as to having a shower for every pregnancy ... I am not sure about that. I can't say that I ever really heard of having a shower for the 2 nd baby.

Ivy - posted on 03/16/2010

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Honestly it depends how far apart your pregnancies are to have back to back baby shower you have to use your discernment. I also think that it's greedy to have two shower for the same pregnancy.

Elisa - posted on 03/16/2010

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I think that if you have one of each, then maybe you could pull off having a second shower. I don't think its appropriate to have one after baby is born unless its the christening, etc.. I had two for the same baby because my mom wanted to give me one in Florida for all my family and my friends wanted to have one for me in North Carolina.. so if family suggests I mean TAKE IT it's great way to get good things for baby! But I think its inappropriate for YOU to ask for one!

Jennifer - posted on 03/16/2010

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I had three showers....very hectic 3 saturdays in a row, I was beat. Hubby and I both have divorced parents so everything is always split. Originally it was 4 but I was able to convince my aunt (my dad's sister) to go in on one with my mother-in-law. My mother wanted to throw one and my friends did to. I didn't have the heart to tell them no.

Kelsey - posted on 03/15/2010

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I had two showers. My church members threw me one and then my mom threw me one and invited family. I've heard that its against the "rules" to have a shower for each baby, unless the baby is a different sex. Like my friend had a shower for her first which was a girl and then she had a shower for her second which was a boy, but for her third she didn't have a shower cause she already had a girl. I did get a lot of doubles of stuff by having two showers, but sometimes some of the doubles have come in handy and for the most part people seemed to have ignored my baby registry, so I was getting doubles of stuff at just one shower anyways.

Shalaina - posted on 03/15/2010

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I have never heard of one before and one after....I wouldn't want it like that. Some have two if their families are in different states, etc which makes sense!
It isn't really 'correct' to have another baby shower for the next pregnancy but you can always celebrate with friends, sans presents, or even have a party after the baby is born...a welcome home party just to show off your beautiful new addition!

Cheryl - posted on 03/15/2010

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well thanks for the input. i had 2 for my son only because we had moved and had a small one in our new town but all my old friends wanted me to have 1 back home so we did. it was fun. i always thought it was ok if the pregnancies were very far apart or if you had a bot then a girl or vise versa...i kept everything from my son, just in case!

Rachelle - posted on 03/15/2010

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I love baby showers even if i'm just a guest..i had two but it was different people at each i liked haveing everything ready for the baby so i didn't want a shower after the baby came but people still brought me preasents when they came to visit in the hospital

Sheree - posted on 03/15/2010

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Personally I dont believe in having baby showers at all. I never had one with my daughter and would never have one for any other children I may have.

Erin - posted on 03/15/2010

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I have been wondering the same thing. I have a son so I thought that if the next one is a girl people would understand. But my SIL has 2 boys and had a shower for each one. So I figure that I could ask for the stuff that i have been able to do with out. Or stuff that i have borrowed. I agree with Karen a diaper party would be great. Can always use diapers, wipes, soaps, an all of the little things that you use everyday.

Jess - posted on 03/15/2010

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Usually the second party is done as the naming ceromony, christaning or baptism etc.... I don't think people would appreciate attending 2 baby showers for the same baby, give it a different name, problem solved !

Danielle - posted on 03/14/2010

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what about if you didn't have one for your first is it ok to have one for your second?

Karen - posted on 03/14/2010

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personally i wouldn't want a baby shower for a second baby but if family wanted to have something i would suggest a diaper party instead...for my son (he's my first) between my family and my husbands they threw me 3 surprise showers...it was way too much, i had no idea what to do with the stuff i got...it was all very much appreciated but i got doubles and triples of so many things. and i think having one after baby is a great idea because then everyone gets to see baby, however, it could be overwhelming with a new baby and all kinds of people around.

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