9 week old baby cries for hours and I can't console her

Jenni - posted on 08/23/2010

sorry i made a typo! quite common and mistaken for 'colic' and do a google search for 'reflux' :P

Jenni - posted on 08/23/2010

I can relate. Both of my children were collicky. First, i would have your doctor rule out reflux. It's quite common and often mistaken for reflux. Do a google search for symptoms of collic in babies and see if they apply. If you and your doctor have ruled out any other possibilities and it is true collic the best medication is just knowing there is nothing really can do and it's not a reflection on you as a parent. Just do as your doing. Rule out any other possible cause of the crying and if you've done everything humanly possible just put in the headphones and hold her through it. Don't try rocking or consoling in that manner b/c it only makes it last longer. Just darken the room and sit quietly with her. Don't be afraid to put her down in her swing or cot and take a 5 minute break to regroup. When you feel you are going to break down urself just go and do something nice for yourself and use something to drown out the crying. You need to take care of yourself before you can take care of someone else.
I know it doesn't mean much but believe me, it will pass! Both my children suddenly stopped around 3 months.
Here's an article that helped me...
http://www.instinctiveparenting.com/flex...

Line - posted on 08/23/2010

sorry to aks it that way but how's her bowel mouvement is it normal colour or consistency. It could be stomach pain beacuse she's not taking her milk well (unless you breastfeed). She could have reflux. Like everybody seems to say could be colics also. I know it's very hard but keep on going it will pass.

Kimberly - posted on 08/23/2010

Sarah I know hor you feel and before I say anything else just remember IT DOES GET BETTER!!! My daughter was colic and would scream for 8hrs a day almost everyday so there are a few things that I tried and found worked. I used to give her grip water before every feed as it works better to cut down on the gas they get and not let it build up( health nurse told me that) used to feed her sitting up a bit and burped her regularly during the feed, raised her crib mattress so when she slept she was on a little bit of an incline, try puuting her on her tummy in the bath and rub her back a little as the water helps move the gas out, laying her across your arm so her shoulder is in the crock of your arm and patting her back, raising her knees up to her chest genlty, there is massage for colic that you can do and also look at her top lip and if you see a slight blueish color to it it means she has gas( midwife told me that!) also found that when my daughter would really get screaming if I held her really close to me and whispered in her ear very softly that she would start calming down as she was trying to hear my voice. I found anyone of these things could work on any given day and if I got to the end and she was still crying I would start it all over again Hang in there your doing a good job and it does get easier!!

Jenee - posted on 08/23/2010

Do you think it is possible that your baby has reflux? Does your baby screaming during feedings? Arch her back when she is feeding? Scream when you lie her flat? Spit up more then normal? ( though some babies with reflux don't spit up a lot ). If you think it is reflux then it is something that you need to speak to your doctor about.

My son suffered from reflux. He has since he was 4 weeks old. He was on Zantac twice a day and Mylanta twice a day. It got a lot better once he started to sit up on his own ( around 6 months ).

You can also try Gripe Water. It can sometimes help calm down babies.

Kellie - posted on 08/20/2010

my baby girl had colic till she was almost 6 months...I know what your going through. My mom helped us out alot by taking willow on saturdays...the have colic tablets just like teething tablets but for colic and we also used grip water....Wal-mart does not have grip water btw. but Mylicon drops help to i mixed it in with the bottle as well as the grip water. my doctor told me i could use umm maylox as well but just a very little and no more than 3 or 4 times a day. also a hot water bottle wrap in a towel and placed on her tummy...my husbands aunt told me about that...o yeah alot of people also told me to put her in her car seat and put her on top of the dryer while it was going but you need to stay there and watch her duh.

Sarh - posted on 08/20/2010

Sounds to me like she may be colicky. When diagnosing colic there is a rule of three... "A baby that cries for THREE or more hours per day, at least THREE times per week, within a THREE month period".
Try Mylicon drops like Tiffany said. I know I give these to my 10 week old as often as he eats if not more often.
Is her tummy distended (bloated), or hard? If so, she most likely has gas. Put her tummy/chest to yours and pat her back low close to her diaper. You can also massage or rub her back, if you do so, do it in a circular motion and ONLY CLOCK WISE!! If you go in a counter clockwise direction you can push all her BM back up and cause a whole other world of pain for her and yourself. You can also do this with her laying face down across your lap.
Another thing.. My son is not colicy, but very he is very gassy (I nurse and his tummy is sensitive to the cows milk in my diet), but sometimes he cries no matter what I do w/him and I've found that he must get over stimulated because I lay him down in his room or my room (he shares a room w/his big sister) which ever is more quiet and he is fine once he settles down and realizes that its quiet and calm.
You also have to keep yourself calm, if you get worked up just a little bit, baby can sense that and then baby gets worse! Just lay her down in her crib in silence, walk away, take a deep breath, maybe grab something to drink or a quick and small snack, then go back to her and see how she is doing....
Also, check w/your pediatrician, she might have reflux, there is a silent reflux where there are no signs or symptoms like spitting up etc. http://www.webmd.com/heartburn-gerd/lary...


Good luck!! I couldn't imagine having a colicy baby, I know it's hard when they cry because my son will cry for a 1/2 hour I have to hand him to my hubby because I just don't know what to do w/myself any more.

Tiffany - posted on 08/19/2010

my heart goes out to you i know from experience what ur going through my guy was colicky just as your sounds and it was very hard to get past if i remember correctly his crying stop at 3months and then it got easier try mylicon or gas ex for babies it does help better then anything also push needs up to the bottom of her stomach and put a bit of press to release any wind it might help as well . if you need a break and she still cries hand her over for a second to her father so you can have a moment to get yourself together if it gets to you which i know it does. also i bought a swing which help with classical music and i also co-slept on a mattress on the floor and found my guy slept better and his crying didnt last as long cause he got more sleep also i use to swing him in my arms while he was swaddle kinda faster then normal... sorry i know alot of info i wrote but just trying to help