after having a baby, do you ever feel the same about your body again?

Amanda - posted on 12/09/2009 ( 43 moms have responded )

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after having a baby, whether its a c-section or vaginal birth, do u feel like ur body ever gets back to normal again?

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Shawna - posted on 12/12/2009

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Quoting Kelsey:

Im only 10 pounds away from my pre-pregnancy body and I was pretty skinny before. I dont feel at all as skinny as I used to. My body just totally changed. When you get pregnant you belly stretches so far that you abs actually rip anddont really fuse back together again. The stretch marks on my theighs dont help either. And breastfeeding really took a toll on my once perky boobies. Now they are a size bigger and much saggier. :( Its so sad! But Im getting to the point where I just accept it. It was worth it.



this is all very true for me too :) 

Lydia - posted on 12/09/2009

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I have had two babies my daughter just turned two and i was 19 when I had her and I hated my body after I had her I would wear my hsbands shirts and my big hoodies so you could not see my chunk.With her I gained 40lbs and 20 of it never went away. I just had my son 2 weeks ago and I gained 29lbs with him and have lost 24 of it so I am almost back down to my pre pregnancy weight but I still have that mommy giggle in the front and I hate it, but to answer your question I guess if you worked really hard at it you could but who has time with a new born baby, you just learn to deal with what you got.

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Amy - posted on 01/29/2014

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You're body will never be the same. But if you work really hard you can have a fit body again.

Lucy - posted on 01/11/2014

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stretch marks aren't something to be ashamed of I just had my second child and I turned 20 a few months back its hard to accept the changes in your body but one thing I love is my stretch marks they tell a story of there own its your journey threw pregnancy but as the weight goes im struggling with that im almost at my post pregnancy weight and my daughter is gonna b 2 months in a few days

Alicia - posted on 10/14/2012

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for me no. but everyone is different. I feel fat and flabby even though i weigh the same as i did if not a bit less, my clothes all fit me again, but I feel fat.

Maureen - posted on 10/11/2012

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I am 4 1/2 months postpartum and I am afraid my body will never be "normal" again. I had him vaginally (9lbs 4oz ouch) with 2nd degree tears and on top of the gross kangaroo fat pouch that hangs over my underwear ( I gained 50lbs with him and lost 30 in the first month but am currently 13 lbs more than what I weighed when I got pregnant) and disgusting strech marks, my husband and I haven't been able to make love since before he was born because the scar tissue from the stiches cause me so much pain. (not to mention I feel so disgusting, not sexy at all) Oh and I still suffer from hemorrhoids. I feel like my body is destroyed, that it's ruined and will never be the same. I see other moms with babies his age who are wearing bikinis at the pool andlook like they've never had a baby, flat tummies and no strech marks! This is the worst, it makes me feel so bad about myself. I know everyone is different, but it's hard not to compare. It makes me so sad, but a little smile from my baby boy makes it all worth it.

Kaitlyn - posted on 10/10/2012

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I had my daughter July 23rd 2012, a normal vaginal birth. I was 110lbs when I got pregnant, 152lbs the day I had her, and it is now October 10th and I am 123lbs. I was 16 years old when I had Lily. I turned 17 on October 8th this year. I have some pretty bad stretch marks despite all the lotion and oil and cocoa butter I rubbed into my belly, breasts and thighs. I've even had some friends say that they would hate it if their belly looked like mine. I'm so grateful to have a healthy little one, but sometimes I feel like a totally different person. Lily's father has been there for me, and been my boyfriend through the whole pregnancy, and after. He's a sweet, supportive guy. His family, my family, and all our friends are very supportive and helpful. I struggled with depression before pregnancy, and it only got worse. I've had several nights where I just see myself in the mirror and cry. I try not to let anyone see, because I don't want anyone to think I'm not a good mother. All these horrible feelings just make me feel worthless, until I see Lily smiling and gurgling at me. I'm a proud mother, and I breastfeed even though I've definitely noticed some sagging. You probably won't feel the same about your body, but you'll always feel the same amazing love for your baby.

Brooke - posted on 12/28/2009

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I feel better about my body now then what I did before. Since having my daughter I have worn a bikini in public and loved it! I was 51kg (112lb) before I fell pregnant, 61kg (134lb) at the end of my pregnancy and 4 days after giving birth went back to 52kg (114lb), Now 1 year later I am between 48kg (105lb) and 52kg (114lb). I have two tiny stretch marks and I have gotten a bit curvier but I absolutely love the way I am.

Mikayla - posted on 12/23/2009

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i dont feel the same, i still look 4/5months pregnant, my breast are bigger but saggy, i have stretch marks down my legs. i had my son 6 months ago, and i still dont feel the same 'down there' people have told me it does get better, but i dont really care as i have a wonderful son and my partner loves me how i am and is proud of what i went thru to give him a son. i may have changed physically but it hasnt changed me.

Kathy - posted on 12/21/2009

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I sure hope so... its only been 3 months, but I only have till the end of May to look good in a wedding dress, and right now I look yucky :(

Amber - posted on 12/21/2009

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I still don't feel the same about my body. I am 7lbs away from pre pregnancy weight but I have horrible stretch marks on my belly, thighs, hips, & butt. I was really little & I has a 9lbs 8.5oz baby girl. She tore my body up. I still have the poochy jiggly stomach even though I only have 7lbs to lose. I don't feel as attractive as I did before I had my daughter. My husband tells me he thinks I'm more beautiful now than I was before but I still feel unhappy about my body.

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It took a month or so to get rid of the empty feeling I had, but I think I look better after having my son! Even though I'm still more than my pre-pregnancy weight, I feel better about my body, now, than before. Though I have huge stretch marks, and still feel pudgy, I'm more active and have more energy than I did before.

Megan - posted on 12/13/2009

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in some ways, but i wouldnt change it because im proud of my body its the body of a woman

Samantha - posted on 12/12/2009

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honestly its how you see your self the odds of ever being the same arent that great but if you work really hard at it you could look the same or better but if you change how u see yourself in the mirror and just like who you are its different because think about it you gave birth to a beautiful baby and you will probably always have stretch marks faded for life but it was worth it in the end wasnt it?

Taneshia - posted on 12/12/2009

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I had some nice perky breasts too, but i dont care because i used them for what they are for...it is what it is and im learning to really love me for me

Taneshia - posted on 12/12/2009

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Well I dont think so because you are not the same anymore! Having a baby changes us in so many ways that we arent the women we were before. After I had my 1st son I got back skinny but that was because I was malnourished so it was a sickly looking skinny. Now since I just had a c section I have a small pudge and my hips are still wide. Im a little self conscience but my hubby does a good job of making me feel better about myself. I started back working out 3 weeks ago but taking it light since Im still breastfeeding. Now I was blessed not to get any stretch marks after 3 babies so that helps me not feel as bad. My stomach was flat as a pancake b4 my children and I dont think it will ever be that way again. i just want to be fully comfortable which is hard since my breast are humongous from breastfeeding, my arms look big to me, and as I mentioned my stomach is pudgy and i have hips for days. But im learning to love me for me and just take it one day at a time.

Kerri - posted on 12/11/2009

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I don't think that your body is ever going to be exactly 100% the same as it was before pregnancy but it does get pretty close. I had my second baby 17 months ago and even though i lost all of my pregnancy weight (and then some) and only got some minor stretchmarks on my stomach i do still get self conscious at times. My abs never fused back together and my boobs are really tiny due to breastfeeding and losing weight but the way i see it is that these things are all part of my life story and remind me everyday of the wonderful sacrifice i made to get my two precious boys.

Siri - posted on 12/11/2009

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My baby is 8 months old. When she was almost 2 months I could fit back in my old pants. I also had lost all my baby weight. I now weigh about15-20lbs less than I did before I was pregnante. Now my body doesn't look like it though. None of my clothes fit right either. I feel your pain.

Kristin - posted on 12/11/2009

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I had my baby a month ago, and though I don't feel the same about my body, I definitely feel better than I did! I just got the clearance from my doctor to start working out again, and I've just started using a skin-firming moisturizer, both of which seem to be helping my figure along quite nicely! I got REALLY bad stretch marks on my tummy, hips, and thighs. Tanning helped my sister's to fade a bit, so as soon as i can get a sitter, I'm hitting the tanning bed!

Sarah - posted on 12/11/2009

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Im about a stone heavier than I was pre pregnancy, but have been a complete chocoholic since having my little one 9 months ago. I dont feel it would take too much effort to shape up, but it just doesnt feel that important to me right at the moment. I have some stretch marks across my belly which have faded fairely well, although I wouldnt wear a midriff showing top, I dont find them ugly. In some ways I feel more womanly & proud of my body than before my pregnancy, as any changes are a reminder of the journey my body went through to to give us a beautiful baby.

Josi - posted on 12/11/2009

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after i ahd my son about 2 yrs ago... i didnt like my body... but then i didnt look at it as just fat... its a right ofm passage and you have a good reason for you body looking different and besides mom always look better!!

Paige - posted on 12/11/2009

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I personally feel that it depends on the person and what happens after they give birth. There are several ways to get your body back to the way it used to be. And people who are upset about stretch marks, they go away/fade over time, and u can use creams and lotions to help fade them. :)

Katie - posted on 12/11/2009

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I had my daughter 11 months ago, and I was very tiny before I got pregnant (116 lbs). I gained about 35 pounds during my pregnancy, but after delivering the baby I immediately lost 12 pounds. And I've been taking her on 20 minute walks every day as well as breastfeeding and I'm only a few pounds heavier than I was before I got pregnant. I think a big help is breastfeeding, I don't know how, but it really does help you lose weight!
So to answer your question, YES! You will feel good about your body again, it just takes time.

Shawna - posted on 12/11/2009

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i got horrable stretch marks but i lost all my baby weight. So people are like wow you look great but at times i dont feel it. I am a zebra lol I guess you body is never exactly the same but u grow use to it again. Plus ur child is worth it

Tracey - posted on 12/11/2009

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Your body will never be the same! I used to have a really cute belly button, but no more. And I'm flabby where I used to be toned. However, I look at all of this as my "war wounds". Look what we went through and what we have as a result of it!

Brittney - posted on 12/10/2009

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Quoting ASHLEY:

well my son is four months and even though I returned to my pre-pregnancy weight in the first few weeks my tummy just doesn't look the same :( my stretch marks are not bad but I feel like loose skin isnt exactly something that responds to exercise so i dont know if ill ever feel the same about that... also my biggest complaint is the stretch marks on my boobs no one else I know got those! but in the end my son was still worth it and my hubby loves me just the same but i wouldnt mind getting into better shape.


I got them on my boobs too! I got em everywhere though. I used all the lotions and creams but I knew I was doomed! Didnt really have any until I hit 34 weeks and they exploded! Yikes! But right now I am too distracted by my beautiful 2 weeks old girl to bother. I am sure once I hit the 6 week mark I will be thinking otherwise...

Lynette - posted on 12/10/2009

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You silly girl...you look great already. Anyhow...give it time and everything fades and your muscles will tighten up again...promise. Good God girl, it's only been 6 weeks!!!

Also, you'll probably appreciate your body more, too ,seeing as it did provide you with a beautiful baby boy.

Kimberly - posted on 12/10/2009

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very much so but everyone is different before my first baby i weighed 155 after her i weighed 145 and after my second baby i weighed 132. so i lost all of the weight and didn't get any stretch marks. I contribute the weight loss to breastfeeding. I feel like all my women parts are the same too even after stitches :)

Amy - posted on 12/10/2009

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i jus gave birth to my daughter almost 4 weeks ago. And i can honestly say that i feel great. I even feel alot better about my body too. prolly bc i lost 32 lbs after i gave birth to her tho, and i am below the weight when i first got pregnant. I thought that i would feel like crap and different about myself after, but i dont.

Lauren - posted on 12/10/2009

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I was very skinny when having my baby I weighed about 105 pounds I lost all my baby weight but now that Winter is here I can't go out and walk like I used to so I am ganing some of the weight back again and I feel like my stomache is so gross and everytime my husband and I have sex it feels like thats all he is staring at even though he tells me he's not I still feel that way! I have stretch marks everywhere and they won't go away! so I know how you are feeling!

Kelsey - posted on 12/10/2009

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Im only 10 pounds away from my pre-pregnancy body and I was pretty skinny before. I dont feel at all as skinny as I used to. My body just totally changed. When you get pregnant you belly stretches so far that you abs actually rip anddont really fuse back together again. The stretch marks on my theighs dont help either. And breastfeeding really took a toll on my once perky boobies. Now they are a size bigger and much saggier. :( Its so sad! But Im getting to the point where I just accept it. It was worth it.

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I just feel the packaging doesn't matter - the contents are WAY more important... and anybody who wants to judge me on my appearance isn't worth my time worrying about!

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For me it's a short answer - yes!
Physically I was lucky in that I got my figure back within a few weeks with both babies, although having breastfed my first until she was nearly three and still breastfeeding my 14 month old I have to share my body... but I'm still me. I always will be!

Andrea - posted on 12/10/2009

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I totally dont feel the same about my body, I gained about 35lbs and only have about 4lbs to lose to return to my pre-pregnancy weight...alot of my weight went to my butt which im having a hard time losing and like everybody else i still have that giggly belly which i hate. I only have stretch marks on my hips. Im having a hard time to find time and energy to work out!

Tanya - posted on 12/10/2009

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I've always been small ..after I had each of my 4 children I got back to my pre-pregnancy weight after a month or so. I think I feel better about my body now because my boobs aren't SO big anymore after breastfeeding. I had huge boobs & a little body in high school. I can wear cute little tops without them falling out now! I'm not saying I feel beautiful everyday but I try to have self confidence. I don't think it has anything to do with how far apart you have your kids though because I had my 2nd 2 years after my first, my third 1 year 3 months after that and my fourth 1 year and 4 months after that. It will get back to normal though, hun. I know its harder for some people and sometimes it takes longer ..It really just depends on your body. Pilates works pretty fast, a friend of mine started doing that and her body looks hot! I just don't have the time..4 kids keep me busy!

Shasta - posted on 12/10/2009

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I understand how you feel, wit my first son I was 22 and my body bounced back like elastic and I was even thinner than befor. But now after my 2nd son I look in the mirror and don't know who I'm looking at. At 25
i weighed about 145 I am 29 now and 215 and seeing a fat doctor......so I understand honey. The thing is your young and you thought you looked good at 17, just waite your body isn't even done changeing. The one thing I can proniss you is aslong as you waite a while to have another baby by the time your in your tweeentys your body will be hotter than befor. You also said you were in pretty good shape befor you had the baby, if you were active, you still can be........google working out with your baby and it will give you things you can do to get back to the way you were befor. Its also realy fun. I hope I helped you!

Mattee - posted on 12/10/2009

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Well, My son is 3 weeks old andI was actually surprised at how quickly I bounced back... Though I still have 10 + lbs to loose, I have stretch marks on my boobs and butt, any my lower belly is still a little poochy... I have a mom body now and I'm proud if it! I can't help but look at my son and marvel at the wonderful miracle he is to me, and it just amazes me sometimes that he came from ME! So your body isn't the same after you have a baby, SO WHAT! Be ever so glad that you are even able to concieve :) It helps too that I have a wonderfully supportive husband who loves me no matter what, and he actually likes the way I look, and I had a smokin hot body before. Try to think of all the little quirks you have now as trophies of your accomplishment :) *hugs*

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Quoting Amanda:

I was a pretty fit looking person before i got pregnant, now i have flab and i am only like 5 pounds away from my pre-pregnancy weight. but i dont feel as pretty as i used to. i didnt get any stretch marks on my stomach but like some of you other ladies i got them on my boobs and butt. i dont feel as perky anymore either. i am only 17 and i would give anything to have a 17 year olds body again. it sucks. and on top of all of that i had a c-section. so i am really self concious about my scar. it is really un attractive to me and its not healed up all the way, so it still looks kind of puffy on top of that. :( my son is only a month old, and im already getting anxious about getting back in shape but i dont know if it will ever be the same again.



the good news about the c-section scar is that it will eventually fade and become barely noticeable although that takes time but same thing with the stretch marks they will become less obvious over time :)

Amanda - posted on 12/09/2009

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I was a pretty fit looking person before i got pregnant, now i have flab and i am only like 5 pounds away from my pre-pregnancy weight. but i dont feel as pretty as i used to. i didnt get any stretch marks on my stomach but like some of you other ladies i got them on my boobs and butt. i dont feel as perky anymore either. i am only 17 and i would give anything to have a 17 year olds body again. it sucks. and on top of all of that i had a c-section. so i am really self concious about my scar. it is really un attractive to me and its not healed up all the way, so it still looks kind of puffy on top of that. :( my son is only a month old, and im already getting anxious about getting back in shape but i dont know if it will ever be the same again.

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well my son is four months and even though I returned to my pre-pregnancy weight in the first few weeks my tummy just doesn't look the same :( my stretch marks are not bad but I feel like loose skin isnt exactly something that responds to exercise so i dont know if ill ever feel the same about that... also my biggest complaint is the stretch marks on my boobs no one else I know got those! but in the end my son was still worth it and my hubby loves me just the same but i wouldnt mind getting into better shape.

Nicole - posted on 12/09/2009

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i know i dont.. i use to feel pretty but now i cant stand to look into the mirror.. i was lucky and did not get any strtch marks besides my breast and at the top of my butt, but my hips got wider soo thats a big turn off for me.

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