Jo - posted on 08/11/2010 ( 10 moms have responded )
Im not sur if im in the right community but here goes........
I had a baby boy 6 months ago. My partner lives at home with his granparents and I live with mine. This is because we cant afford our own place and are saving. Due to his work shifts I stay with him 4 days then go back to mine for 4 days when he works.
His family are really interfearing always disagreeing with my choices when it comes to the baby (even what i dress him in). We have no privacey they always come in and out of our room distubing baby.
Because they disagree with the way i do things for example, they dont agree with the temp of the food i feed my baby and think it should be warmer & there for my baby wont drink his bottle if they try feed him.
The problem is my partner wants me to leave the baby with his mother but i dont want to because i feel that they wont respect my choices and do what THEY think is best and there for wouldnt even be able to feed him while im not there or keep to his routine.
Im comfortable leaving him with my mother because we live with her she knows his routine and helped inforce it. Also i dont feel my partner even know the babys ways so how could his mum? for example we went to the park and my partner got the baby out of the pram because he was crying but after he did the baby began crying even more. I asked my partner if the baby was hurt and he said no he was just playing up. So i checked baby over and he had a bruiz and cut on his thigh from scraping it as my partner got him out of the pram. I knew straight away that it was a hurt cry and my partner didnt. When ever baby cries they dont check to even see if something is wrong and always say its his temper or bellyache, when at times its because he wants food, changing or maybe just his mummy.
I just see how distressed my baby is when they try and inforce what they think is best and dont like the idea he may become that distressed when im not around.
Another thing is when i did leave the baby with his mum in the past she had my partners ex-girlfriend round (as she is friends with her) i know this because she has a picture of her holding our son in an album on show in her livingroom. Which i didnt like one bit!
My partner doesnt understand and thinks im being unfair. I think im just doing what is best for my baby, a safe, known environment with his usual routine.
When i tried to explain how i feel about his family not listening to me about the baby he agrees and says just ignore them.
Thanks for listening I know its a long ramble lol!
But am i wrong? some views would be great. Thanks.