at just a month old how do you get him to sleep all night, i'd reallyu like to know???

Valerie - posted on 08/07/2009 ( 104 moms have responded )

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how do i get my 1 month old to sleep all night??

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Kelli - posted on 08/13/2009

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Hello.. Peyton's 10 months old now and has been sleeping through the night since almost 2 months old. This may sound horrible to some but I actually started laying him on his tummy at night in his bassinet. I have heart monitor which is excellent to detect their every move and breathing so in the event of any disturbance during the night, it will beep. He slept great on his belly and still does. I know doctors and many people will go back and forth saying tummy is best then back is best.. But i believe as a mother, you know which your child likes best. Try putting your baby down for a nap on his belly close by you. Their natural instinct will be to lay their head sideways and not directly down. Good Luck

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Angela - posted on 08/08/2009

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you can't get him to sleep all night, his stomach is very small right now about the size of a quarter so he has to get up to eat. If he doesn't eat then he can get low blood sugar which is VERY dangerous for newborns, they can get seizures etc.
So my advice to you is to sleep in the same room as him so that you can hear him stirring so that you can feed him right away so that he doesn't have to cry. It really gets better from here so just go with the flow. They really wake up every two hours for their own survival.

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Roseanne - posted on 05/03/2011

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LOL.....sorry. My son still does not sleep all night and he is 8 months old! 4 weeks is way too early, at that age they are growing and need to eat frequently......mine was eating every 2-3 hours at that age. I was a walking zombie until 3 months when he started sleeping around 5 hours straight. Otherwise swaddle and get a sound machine......it is a start.

Carly - posted on 04/28/2011

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If you are expecting your 1 month old baby to sleep through the night you are being absolutely unrealistic. True, this does happen, but it is deinitely not common. babies this young need regular feeds as they don't generally have BIG feeds so they need to keep up their calorie intake. Slow down and take things as they come for a bit longer.

Johnetta - posted on 08/25/2009

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i would put a half a teaspoon of cereal w/ his formula or breastmilk n he/she should be fine. My daughter been having cereal in her formula since the day she came home from the hospital, it'll keep the tummy fuller longer. i got at least 4 extra hrs of sleep the first week

Amie - posted on 08/25/2009

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I know you've had lots of 'advice' so i'll just tell you my experience. My baby fed FOR 1 hour EVERY 2 hours from birth till about 2 weeks old (and yep through the night!) it was then determined he was a terrible feeder so had to express. then he started working out day and night (with the help of night time day time routines - not strict) and so fed every 2 hours in the day and every 4 at night... by 6 weeks he was every 3 hours in the day, going to bed at 7pm and waking only 1ce in night and waking up at 7-8am... then by 3 1/2 months he started sleeping right through himself. he did it 1ce on his own, so after that, i knew he could so if ever he did wake a bit earlier, i'd get him back to sleep without feeding. he generally only wakes earlier when he's sick. but i've gathered from all these stories on here that ultimately the baby will do it when he/she is ready to. For some lucky mum's thats as early as 5 weeks, and for others they are older. I have read many a website on sleeping though and its generally encouraged to start trying to pro-long their sleep without feeding from 3 months old as from that age most babies don't need food in the night. but again, all babies are different. all the best :-)

Toni - posted on 08/15/2009

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wake up with her , its important she eats like everyone else has said, its important to answer her needs because it helps to strengthhen your bond and her trust in you and the world. To give you some hope- my son is almost 3 months and he is sleeping about 6 hrs now, which is beautiful compared to waking ever 2 hrs like when he first came home. It will come, but its a bit away in the future.

Alesha - posted on 08/14/2009

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My daughter is 5 weeks today and wakes once at night. She goes down about 7pm and wakes around 1pm then 5.30. If she is hungry she would wake up more. Why would you wake a sleeping baby??!! Its lke waking a sleeping lion!! I agree if they are jaundice etc then yes, but not once they are past that stage and drinking properly. My daughter hardly naps during the day but sleeps really good at night. Im hopeing she will start sleeping thru in a couple of weeks, if not by herself, then I will start other methods.I swaddle her, sleep her on her side, offer her dummy if she wakes before 5.30am. Im ebf and she is putting on good weight Was born 8lb 6o and is now 10 1/2lb and 5 weeks. It is up to the baby tho i think, all you can do is try!!! Good luck!!

Jessoliver87 - posted on 08/14/2009

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I don't believe there is any actual way to get your baby to sleep through, they just do when they are ready. My son began sleeping right through when he was 3 months old. He set his own routine from day 1 where he wanted feeding every 4 hours. I followed his routine and then added things into it like a warm bath before putting him down for the night. He gradually weaned himself off nighttime bottles and now he sleeps about 13-14hrs a night (hes 7 and a half months old now). Don't stress, I know its hard when you're sleep deprived. All I can recommend is have a good solid routine set up (if you don't already) and try to get a nap in during the day when your baby is asleep. It will happen when he is ready to do so. Good luck!

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I consider this one almost impossible. Everyone kept trying to give me advice on what to do to help my son sleep, and asked me questions about why he wasn't sleeping through the night yet. But, go with the old advice of sleeping when your baby sleeps--it'll really help you to get through, even if it is a little chaotic. Don't worry--your baby will start sleeping through at his or her own pace, and that will be soon enough. :)

Kristin - posted on 08/13/2009

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My daughter who is 3 months started sleeping 10pm to 6am at 8 weeks. That is also when I switched to formula too. My son who is 2 was the same. I am back at work now and last night she slept 730pm to about 8am.

Leah - posted on 08/13/2009

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my daughter was feeding every 4 hours up until about 6 or 7 weeks, then started going for around 6 or 7 hours but from 3 months she sleeps from 7-7, i'm so lucky

Lauren - posted on 08/13/2009

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my daughter litterally slept thru the night everysingle night when she was 3 weeks old and now shes 5 months and it has never changed. like they do when babies are first born i swaddle her in a blanket that you can buy at babies r us that keeps them from starteling themselves in their sleep which makes them sleep longer. at 5 months she is still swaddled and i even asked doctors about it and theres nothing wrong with doing it so i would say its deffanitely worth a try!

Kendall - posted on 08/13/2009

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i read babywise on the recommendation of some friends and used that method to get a routine down for my 11 week old and she was sleeping through the night by 7 weeks only waking once before then. it helped me get her on a daytime schedule as well which helped her anticipate naps and bedtime. she sleeps 10 hours now at night and logs 3 naps a day around the same time..my girlfriends swear by it for even there toddlers to go to bed without a fuss.

Jane - posted on 08/13/2009

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both mine started sleepin thru the night at bout 8wks. i agree with the others at a month old they need alot of feeds. x

Kelly - posted on 08/13/2009

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hiya my son sleeps through the night and what i did is i gave him a bottle of milk before bed and then when he woke up i just put his dummy in a few times and is that didnt work i gave him cooled boiled water! it worked after about 3 days of trying. they r clever they wake up during the night because they know they get milk but if they realise they only get thier dummy or water they soon get bored of waking up :) good luck x

Jodie - posted on 08/13/2009

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try giving him a warm bath then feed him, maybe that will work it works with my 2 month old he sleeps about four hours during the night.

Katarzyna - posted on 08/13/2009

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There is no way that your baby will sleep through the night at such a young age.. The longest that they might be able to sleep is 4 hours.. Each baby is different, my little one sleps from 8pm to 7am (since she was 3 or 4 months) but my neighbors little one (9 months) wakes up every 4 hours every night..

Susanne - posted on 08/12/2009

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one of my buddies gave me a great tip, put one of your shirts in the baby's bed while theyre sleeping... the baby will smell you and feel safe and sleep!!!! My baby was sleeping through the night 6-7hr sessions at 3 weeks old. I think I gpt lucky, but this time goes by soooooo fast. pretty soon he'll be sleeping through the night!!!

Bethany - posted on 08/12/2009

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whoooaw hold on a minute lol if you got your child to sleep all night at 1 month old i wauld b amazed they are far too young to be sleeping right threw my daughter is 4 monthes old and has just started to sleep from 7.30pm until 6.30am dont rush things they wil do it in their own time x

Rachelle - posted on 08/12/2009

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Quoting Ashney:

 We have her in a night time routine. we give her a bath, put on lotion (johnsons bedtime lotion) pj's on, feeding, and she drifts off to sleep.

the johnson lotion is clinically proven to help babies sleep better and it really does. Hope this helps and good luck!



I also have a night time routine that involves Johnson's Bedtime Bathtime, you put it in the water of a nice arm bath and it helps them sleep

Amanda - posted on 08/12/2009

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It took my soon about 6 weeks to sleep through the night. It was always a chore to get him to wake up at night to eat. He gained enough weight and his doctor told us that we could change to a feed on demand schedule. He has been sleeping through the night in his own crib every since. He will normally go down for the night between 11 and 11:30 and sleep until 7:30 or 8.

Tasha - posted on 08/12/2009

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By a month my daughter was sleeping all night, i found that routine helped alot, she also wouldnt sleep if she wasn't really warm, it got me worried at first because i was scared that she would be too hot but now shes nearly 7 months and it's just how she is, a snuggle can help and the dummy was a saviour for me, it wont last forever dont worry!! most babies dont sleep all night though :) x

Tiffany - posted on 08/12/2009

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no my little man sleep thru the night after like 2 weeks.. b/c he was waking up ever 3 hrs or so.. But i put on baby night time music, and it works like a charm!!!

Amy - posted on 08/12/2009

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My trick was to follow a scedule all day set just for baby. This meant giving my kids optimal quiet time for naps, and gently waking them when enough time had passed. From sun-up to sun-down I kept everything on loose schedule(e.g. feedings, naps, baths, playtime). Of course new babies aren't very playful, but they can still be stimulated, which encourages more brain activity, this is especially helpful before bedtime. Five hours is a good night, then gently feed & rock to sleep so you can sleep more, too!

Also, when baby wakes up at night keep it 'night'. Keep lights dim, voices soft & to a minimum, & feed baby with the least amount of stimulation possible so that he or she remain sleepy.

Ashney - posted on 08/12/2009

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My 2 month old has slept all night long sense the first day she came home. We have her in a night time routine. we give her a bath, put on lotion (johnsons bedtime lotion) pj's on, feeding, and she drifts off to sleep.



the johnson lotion is clinically proven to help babies sleep better and it really does. Hope this helps and good luck!

Rachelle - posted on 08/11/2009

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i have a 3.5 wk old daughter and luckily she goes to bed at around 830-9 and has 1 feed during the night... sometimes 2 depending when she decides its get out of bed time. the faster you get her out without crying and feed her the less likely she is to wake up completely and will go back to sleep quicker allowing you to as well. unfortunatly this is a welcome to your new world kind of situation.

Hanna - posted on 08/11/2009

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Quoting Kim:

Valerie, mine is just over three months and still wakes up every 2-3 hours to nurse! I got over asking myself that question and learned to live with it and sometimes actually enjoy nighttime parenting. I also started co-sleeping with him at two weeks because it was so much easier to know when he was waking and to get to feed him more quickly. The great thing is, even though he wakes up to eat, he goes right back to sleep, so no biggie! Now I love being with him at night! Crazy, I know...but you play the hand you're delt, right? Also, I'm still breastfeeding, but I think formula-fed babies sleep longer, earlier. Either way, I think a month is too early to expect your baby to sleep through, even just five hours. Keep in mind, this is temporary. Eventually your baby will sleep, even if right now it doesn't seem like it. (wait... who am I trying to convince...you or me?! LOL!)


i think it has to do with bottle feeding rather than formula. i pump and give and my son started sleeping at night for 5-6 hrs at about 10 weeks and for the past 2 months (he is just a bit over 5 months old now), he's been sleeping for 10-11 hrs and he is a BIG baby ( 30" long and over 24lbs) who eats like a crocodile. but because he was big, he refused to latch on so i had to pump and give. and i think what did the trick was the fact that my husband didn't take him out of the crib in the middle of the night so he'd wake up, eat and go back to sleep. we kept the room dark & didn't try to play wiht him or stimulate him in any way, so he realized that he had to go back to sleep and as he got bigger, we added an extra feeding before bedtime (he had 3 feedings instead of 2 in the last 3 hrs before bed) and then relaxing bath and bottle and he pretty much fell asleep on his own.



 



i had to start him on solids at 4.5 months because he's a size of a 9-12 month old and has an APPETITE on him, so 38-40oz milk a day was not enough for him and my choice was to supplement with formula or start him on regular food. i'm a bit of a natural freak when it comes to my baby, so i figured the latter one would be more favorable. so now he eats all the yellow & green veggies (except for leeks, those are next on the list), apples, bananas, about to try pears (i figured i'd wait since it's heavier than apple and hence harder to digest). and he seems to love it, which is my main goal -- to get him to love veggies and variety of food & cuisines. but the important thing is that he does sleep through the night. although, i have to say that it comes with a price tag of him not napping for longer than 30 minutes during the day unless he's in a car or a stroller and we're walking around, but hey, at least i can get a bit of rest at night.



 



 



 



 

Hanna - posted on 08/11/2009

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Quoting Greisy:

Well this is what I did to my kids....first add cereal on the milk...I used the babies rice cereal or oatmeal one....try to give the last bottle maybe like after 9:00 or 10:00 and if they wake up in the middle of the night then don't feed just put the pinkie on and try to calm them down but do not feed and little by little you'll see the results....it worked for me......


unless there's a medical need (i,e, bad case of acid reflux), it's really not good to add cereal to baby's food before the baby is at least 3-4 months old. especially without consulting a physician -- baby's stomach is way too sensitive to digest it. however, later on, you're absolutely right, a bit of cereal works miracles! i started giving my son cereal at 4.5 months and he loves it!

Hanna - posted on 08/11/2009

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unfortunately, he/she is still too young to sleep through the night (he/she will be hungry every 3-4 hours). however, do start getting him/her on your schedule (whatever it may be -- if you like to stay up late & sleep in, 9pm -6 am may not be the best schedule for you and if your child isn't going to daycare, there really isn't a need for him to go to bed at 8-9pm this early), my husband and i both work in restaurants, so we don't go to bed before 1-2am & don't wake up before 10, so our son gets his bath & bottle at 12am and sleeps until about 9:30-10:30 and we've had him on that 'schedule" pretty much since he was born. of course in the beginning, he used to wake up 2-4 times a night to eat, but dark room & lack of play did get him/her to realize that night time means sleep time.



also, right now your baby is on 'pregnancy' schedule -- when you were pregnant, he was most active at night because during the day, your daily movements rocked him/her to sleep. now you do need to break that cycle. they say every child has a period of 4-6 hrs when he is asleep, so you need to figure out how to make sure that it's during the time when you normally sleep.



the way i did it was for a few weeks, i made sure that i woke him up if he slept longer than 1 hour and try to keep him up the last 4 hours before 'bed time" then relaxing bath, bottle and sleep. and also, at night, don't change his/her diaper unless it's number 2, and if you're bottle feeding, then feed the baby in the crib, then burp and lights back out and going to bed. try to pick the child up as little as possible -- you can give comfort and love and swaddle/soothe your baby, just try not do that while in the crib (stroke the head/tummy, sing, hum or whatever you do) to stimulate him/her to soothe him/herself to sleep rather than constantly relying on you carrying him/her around. it didn't work overnight, but it did work quicker than you might expect. also, once he/she gets the hang of going to bed at the right time, but will wake up to eat in the middle of the night, by 3 months or so, you can start adding an extra feeding in the last 3 hrs before bedtime so that he/she is 'filled up' before bedtime and is less likely to wake up because of hunger.



read the book called 'baby whisperer', not everything there needs to be followed down to a T, but it's a good reading material to put a few things in perspective and give you a few techniques to try. some of them will work for you, some of them probably won't, but either way it's good sound advice. good luck to you!



p.s. sorry for him/her, i'm not sure if you had a boy or a girl, so i didn't want to offend you.

Kim - posted on 08/11/2009

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Valerie, mine is just over three months and still wakes up every 2-3 hours to nurse! I got over asking myself that question and learned to live with it and sometimes actually enjoy nighttime parenting. I also started co-sleeping with him at two weeks because it was so much easier to know when he was waking and to get to feed him more quickly. The great thing is, even though he wakes up to eat, he goes right back to sleep, so no biggie! Now I love being with him at night! Crazy, I know...but you play the hand you're delt, right? Also, I'm still breastfeeding, but I think formula-fed babies sleep longer, earlier. Either way, I think a month is too early to expect your baby to sleep through, even just five hours. Keep in mind, this is temporary. Eventually your baby will sleep, even if right now it doesn't seem like it. (wait... who am I trying to convince...you or me?! LOL!)

Norma - posted on 08/11/2009

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There really is no way to get them to sleep all night. Each child has there sleeping habbits. Try to nap in the day while the baby is napping. Be patient this doesn't last forever.

Greisy - posted on 08/11/2009

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Well this is what I did to my kids....first add cereal on the milk...I used the babies rice cereal or oatmeal one....try to give the last bottle maybe like after 9:00 or 10:00 and if they wake up in the middle of the night then don't feed just put the pinkie on and try to calm them down but do not feed and little by little you'll see the results....it worked for me......

Claire - posted on 08/11/2009

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my youngest was sleepn all nite fae 3 weeks, hes a wee gem, ma oldest was 7 weeks, r u breast feedn?? i was bathin then feed right after it worked x good luck

Sara - posted on 08/11/2009

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your baby isn't supposed to sleep all night at just one month old. That's why you should sleep when the baby is sleeping during the day. You'll get through it, you just need to remember patience when your baby is up at 4 in the morning. It's going to be a long while before you get a full 8 hours.

Helen - posted on 08/11/2009

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Quoting Valerie:

at just a month old how do you get him to sleep all night, i'd reallyu like to know???

how do i get my 1 month old to sleep all night??


babies don'y usually start sleeping all night till their at least 10 lbs. and still it's up to the babies if they can or not, breastfed babies tend to need to nurse more frequently.  my baby is 13 lbs. she was sleeping thru the night and now she's up again every three hours so it just depends on the baby. hang in there once you get into a routine it does get better i promise!

Nadine - posted on 08/11/2009

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Wow. My six month old still wakes up twice a night. I think at one month old your baby should only be sleeping a max of 5 hours or so.

Lindsey - posted on 08/11/2009

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I would not let all of these post get you discouraged! EVERY baby is different and some babies do sleep all night long at a very early age. My son started sleeping 6-7 hours at about a month. Feed often during the day and pump the belly full right before bed. Also a warm bath right before bed seems to help relax, try offering a pacifier when the baby first starts wiggling. My doctor told me that babies have a natural sucking habit and sometimes that is all they need to be comforted. A baby will wake up and let you know if it is hungry, don't let these people tell you that your baby is not supposed to do anything. Use your mothers instinct it always seems to lead me in the right direction.

Monica - posted on 08/10/2009

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I got very lucky with my baby. but what I think it helped was not letting her get any naps past 7 by 11pm (when I usually go to bed) poor thing was exahusted) and i did not wake her up on the middle of the night (some dr's tell you to do it mine told me not to)unless she woke up so she slept from 11-5 or 6 am good luck!

Pamela - posted on 08/10/2009

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My son was sleeping through the night by 2 months and I was only breast feeding at that time. I used a pacifire to help him get through the night and to help him get use to not eating at night. Once he slept through the night, we got rid of his pacifire.

Ashleigh - posted on 08/10/2009

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when my son was about 2 weeks i started putting a tiny bit of cereal in his bottle because of his reflux but i soon noticed that he slept better afterwards. He is now 7 weeks and i put about a teaspoon of cereal to 4 oz of formula and he sleeps a full 6-7 hours straight through the night. His doctor said it was fine also, so you may want to try that, it keeps them full longer.

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At that age, I started putting cereal in their formula and it helped!
They just never really seemed satisfied after a feeding, and were up through the night.
I did that with all three of my kids.
Hope that helps!!!

Ashley - posted on 08/10/2009

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no baby that young should be sleeping through the night, there stomachs are way to small! My daughter is a little over three months old and wakes up 1-2 times a night!

Bryn - posted on 08/10/2009

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On Becomeing Baby Wise, is a great book to learna bout routines at the ages and stages of your child in regards to eating and sleeping it is very strict though a friendlier version is the baby wisper both books have the same principles and ground rules for helping babies learn to sleep throught the night. The other book I love is Dr. Weisbluth's book Healthy Sleep Habbits Happy Baby. It is great for problem solving sleep with babies into child hood and looks at mulitple sleep stratigies with their pros and cons he is big on what works for the family and is big on the importance of sleep not only for the baby/child but the family as welll. All great books my friends have loved them too and have reccomende them as well.



My peditrician swares by putting them down drowsy (not a sleep) from 2 weeks on- let them cry and fuss for not more then 5 min, if need be sooth them into drowsyness and repeat so the child learns to self sooth, at 6wks babies start having regular sleep wake cycles and if your little one knows how to put him/her self back to sleep he/she will beable to sleep longer and start make up for lost calleries during the day- so start ot offer more during the day- if after 2 months your little one is still not sleeping through (6hrs) start weening back their intake during the night slowly and then they should make up for the missig caleries in the day. requireing less intake at night.



Good Luck your little one will start to sleep longer periods it is so hard to be sleep deprived I am going through it again with my second. It gets easier and better. Enjoy your little one. They do grow so fast

Sarah - posted on 08/10/2009

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to little to sleep through the night should be eating every 3hours maybe 4 if lucky not yet. Soon enough he/she will sleep longer when he/she can eat more and keep more in its little belly.

Kimberly - posted on 08/10/2009

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its not completely unheard of for a baby to choose to sleep all night, if they arent meant to sleep thru the night then my lil one is a freak of nature who slept thru the night at 2 days old, she refuses to eat when woken up and will sleep for 8 to 10 hours a night, be patient it will happen and when it does you will feel better, and she is breastfed, she just eats constantly during the day.

Maggie - posted on 08/10/2009

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Babies at this age need to eat every 2-3 hours otherwise low blood sugar and severe lethargy can occur which is not at all good for him. Be patient. I know it's hard right now becuase you probably haven't even completely covered from the birth, whether it was c-section or vaginal. There will be times when you think you'll never sleep again, but just think that everytime you get up with him and feed him, you're doing the best for him. Use those times to cuddle him and bond with him. If you're super sleep deprived and you are breastfeeding, try pumping a bottle or two worth of milk and get dad to help with night time feedings. Breastfed babies can start taking a bottle at about 4-6 weeks and if he's formula fed, do the same, it'll give dad some extra bonding time as well. 4 hours instead of two hours of sleep at a time will make you feel like a new woman - even if only temporarily.

Adrienne - posted on 08/10/2009

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First of all I agree with everyone on here that your baby is just to young to be sleeping thru the night at 1 month. But once your baby gets past its 5-6 week growth spurt, I would try getting into a steady routine. You have to do the same thing every night at the same time. Like Bath, PJ's, Story, Nurse, then Bed. Establishing routine gets them use to the fact that 'ok, this is what I do befor I go to sleep for the night'.

However, EVERY baby is different. My girlfriends babe sleeps thru the night and my babe doesn't. They are two weeks apart and we do most things the same.

It does get easier tho and you will learn different tricks that work for you! But just when you think you have it figured out, everything changes! Thats the beauty of babies!

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