baby sleeping in bed with you

Jessica - posted on 03/31/2010 ( 222 moms have responded )

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Sometimes we have our 6 week old sleep in bed with us. He sleeps about half the time in our bed and the other half in his crib. Is this bad? Does anyone else do this?

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Miranda - posted on 04/01/2010

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Madilyn....
I reserached the topic and found that the American Academy of Pediatrics and the National Institute of Health both urge parents not to co-sleep. Your post doesn't actually indicate that co-sleeping prevents SIDS or that it is safer. It just shows that there are more SIDS deaths than co-sleeping deaths -which makes sense because SIDS is the leading cause of death in infants at this time. I looked up reducing SIDS and found the opposite results. According to the U.S. National Library of Medicine and the National Institute of Health to reduce SIDS "don't let baby sleep in your bed" was listed. I also found that there has been a reduction in SIDS in the past 10 years or so, however that was attributed to back sleeping not co-sleeping.

If you have further info for me I'd like to see it though:) This is just what I was able to find:)

Sicily - posted on 03/31/2010

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i never let my son sleep with me... my sister used to do it all the time... but her boyfriend threw his arm over and cracked the baby's ribs... it can be dangerous... sometimes fatal... if u fall into a deep enough sleep u can roll over on the baby and it can smother to death

Alysha - posted on 04/09/2010

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Let's just get one thing straight, nothing can prevent SIDS since the actual cause is unknown, suffocation can look like SIDS but it isn't. People have been doing lots of things for baby care for thousands of years, but consider this, the infant mortality rate is lower than it's ever been so maybe some changes are good.

My daughter slept in her own room in her crib from day one, she has quite a set of lungs so I had no trouble hearing her. I tried sleeping with her once but she woke up before me and I got to wake up to a 7 month old kneeling on my neck and pulling my hair. I was also very stiff from laying completely still the whole night. It can also be a very hard habit to break and if you plan on having more kids are all of them going to sleep in your bed? Food for thought...

Ashley - posted on 04/06/2010

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My sister in law just lost one of her 6 month old twins co-sleeping her in an adult bed. She rolled and suffocated wedged between the mattress and the playpen, which was up against the bed with her twin sister in it. This can happen if the baby slips between the mattress and the wall as well. Why risk it? Place your child to sleep in their crib and be sure to remove blankets, pillows and stuffed animals. It only takes a few minutes and the most precious gift in your life can be gone. Please don't let any other mom experience the heartbreak our family feels! My sister in law has an angel in heaven and she can still do some good on this earth if sharing this message saves one innocent baby!!!!

Brandy - posted on 04/06/2010

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Both my children slept with me from birth. My daughter until she was 6 months and my son is only 2 1/2 months so he still is with us. I love it and wouldn't have it any other way. Just follow the advisories that the other ladies mentioned and you'll be fine. What do you think women did before cribs? Can you think of any other warm-blooded creature that births a baby then leaves it all by itself the very same night?

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Valerie - posted on 05/24/2010

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What do you mean the constant in bed-sharing deaths is bottles? I haven't heard of that.

Kristin - posted on 05/24/2010

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Our first we bed-shared. He would NOT sleep unless he was touching me. For the sake of my sanity, my husbands life, and the sleep of a newborn, we just did it. It definitely made the late night breastfeeds easier. I will just say, blah, blah, blah to any who say that is lazy. You were not in our situation. He is now a lovely, well mannered independent sleeper (own bed and everything) who goes to bed on time and puts himself to sleep.

Our second son, was a co-sleeper (in a bassinet next to the bed). He was perfectly content to be there after he was out. Also, a sort of well mannered (2.5 years old, so...) boy who puts himself to sleep mostly on time.

I would not have ever considered bed-sharing if I wasn't breastfeeding though. Go figure, but the one constant in bed-sharing deaths is bottles. I'm sure you have heard alot from both sides of the argument. I will just say, do what works for you and be as safe as possible either way.

Ashley - posted on 05/23/2010

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i have a 5 month old daughter and she wont sleep in her bassenette no more...so i bought her a crib and she didnt slep the first night and than like it after but i still co-sleep with her once a day just i dont fall asleep with her i just look and at her sing to her is that bad....and wondering as they get older do that sleep longer hrs and less naps?

Christina - posted on 05/23/2010

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Jessica,
It sound like you've beaten the worst problem with co-sleeping already. If he's already sleeping half the time in a crib then he must be on the way to learning to sleep by himself. Sometimes co-sleeping babies never learn to do that, and then for the next couple years if you want them to sleep YOU have to go to sleep too. With my babies at 6 weeks I would put them down for naps on their own and put them to bed in the evening on their own. During those late night feedings I brought them to my bed. This way they still learned how to put themselves to sleep sometimes. I even made a sleep chart to show how much MORE sleep I got with co-sleeping than having them in their own beds. I was getting almost three extra hours of sleep per night by cosleeping (but I was one of those moms who couldn't sleep if I heard them making noises in their bassinette, I was always worried about them). My mother was TOTALLY against co-sleeping. She lectured me about it, saying they were going to be spoiled and would never sleep in their own beds. By the time they were 4 or 5 months they were each in their own cribs and sleeping thru the night.

I do have to say that there actually were 2 babies in our small town killed in the last year by being suffocated while co-sleeping. The stories were scary and horrific, but both mothers involved were drunk and stoned when the incidents occurred. When I co-slept I did kick my husband out of the bed. But hey, he got nice, uninterrupted sleep on the couch so he was smart enough not to complain. Our sex life did suffer some, but that was more from the fact of adjusting to a newborn's schedule, not the cosleeping!

Chloie - posted on 05/23/2010

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my son is 9 mnths old n sleeps with us, my ther son slept with us until i was pregnant then i put him in his wn bed abot 11mnths i guess, western culture is the only cltre that doesnt co-sleep silly

Allison - posted on 05/22/2010

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Everything you read says it is such a HUGE no, no!! I felt so guilty when my newborn would not sleep in her bed, so she slept with me. Everyone I told said they had to do the same thing at some point. I loved it and now miss her not sleeping with me. I say enjoy it.

Mercedes - posted on 05/22/2010

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My son is 5 months and he doesn't even have a crib! lol. He has been sleeping with us since he was born, its easier for me and my husband loves the extra time with him. That being said, our relationship comes first and we are constantly having conversations to make sure it still works for us. AND it still does! :) Anyway do what works for your family, but NO it is NOT bad. :)

Allison - posted on 05/22/2010

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My son (who is about to be 6 months old on monday) has co-slept with me and my fiance since he was 6 weeks old. I didnt want to sleep with him when he was that little because at birth he weighed 5 lbs and 14.5 oz. However, feeding routines throughout the night were tiresome so he just ended up in our bed. Now he sleeps between us almost every night and he sleeps on his tummy with a paci in his mouth. Because no matter what the doctors say don't put your baby on their back to sleep because there is always the possibility that they will throw up in the middle of the night and choke to death. And there is a study that if you put a paci in their mouths and lay them down that the paci will actually help PREVENT SIDS!!! My fiance sleeps next to the wall on his side and has his own blanket that he keeps himself cacooned in. So I don't worry too much about that. I sleep next to the edge of the bed so its easier for me to get up and get a bottle and a diaper if needed. Also, I sleep with a small blanket, just big enough for me. And my son sleeps with his own blanket which I only put to about to the mid of his back. I keep an eye and an ear open for him throughout the night and automatically wake up if I even just feel him move around to get comfy. I totally believe that co-sleeping is safe as long as you have those mommy instincts, you and your baby will be fine!!!

Lindsey - posted on 05/21/2010

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my 8 month old does it and has since he was born.i have tried completely stopping it but i just cant because i feel safer with him in the bed with me.i sleep better knowing he is beside me.i like him waking me up and the first thing i see is him smiling at me and trying to attack me face with his sharp finger nails that i JUST clipped the night before!! haha he does sleep in his bed too,so i guess its like you;half and half.

Rachel - posted on 05/21/2010

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I'm glad I decided to continue looking at conversations. We have a 4 1/2 month old son and he enjoys sleeping in between us most of the time. I do put him in crib and sometimes he'll sleep an hour or two at the most but it seems easier to have him in bed with us and I can nurse him whenever he wakes up and I have tried putting him in crib more but he cries 10-15 minutes and I figured that is plenty of time so I put him back in bed and when my husband is at work I enjoy him with me in bed. If I put him in crib (which I have tried) then I begin to miss him. Thanks for all the great post.

Joanne - posted on 05/21/2010

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My son does NOT sleep with me. He has his crib that he loves. When he first came home, I made it smaller with some towels rolled up to sort of cradle him from his sides down around his feet. It made it more cozy. He still wakes at night but really not a big deal, (except for the last couple of days...he has a hard time sleeping when he's learning something new). He's never totally alone because I check on him often and he's done very well in the crib. I don't agree with babies sleeping in bed with the parents simply because EVERYONE deserves their own space. There's nothing wrong with cuddlling but why not let them sleep in their crib??

Ciara - posted on 05/20/2010

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i would never let my youngest son sleep with me because hes only 6 mounths and that is incredibly dagaros and i have never meet anyone in the uk that said its good nut i let my 2 year old sleep in with us now and again witch i love. i would never advise it under the age of one because of the fatial risks that are involved

Melissa - posted on 05/20/2010

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My daughter is almost a year now. She always sleeps the whole night in her crib, but she wakes up on the very rare occasion in the middle of the night. When she does it's usually due to constipation or teething. We usually let her sleep with us on these nights. I think it's totally normal. :) He is very sweet by the way .

Miranda - posted on 05/20/2010

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My 8 month old has been sleeping in the bed with us since he was 2 months old. We actually had him back to sleeping in his crib around 5 months but he got RSV and was in the hospital for 4 days and he went back to sleeping with us. I must admit I love snuggling with him:)

Deanne - posted on 05/20/2010

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There have been several posts back and forth by two ladies one is in law enforcement and one is an advocate for cosleeping. I want to say that Dr. Phil had an episode about a year ago where a panel of doctors were guests and answered questions. At least one of them was a pediatrician.They were very well known and very well accredidted in the field of medicine. During this episode the question of co sleeping came up. The doctors agreed and stated that now doctors say whatever is best for the family and allows the family to have the most sleep. I am certain that these doctors would not have said it was o.k. to co sleep if it gets you the most sleep if it were a scientifically proven thing that this is a bad decision. They would have been seriouly reprimanded, possibly having their licsense taken away, regardless of what happened to them there would have been a media frenzy surrounding these doctors, the doctor phil show, and whomever else was involved in the production of this show.
My daughter is 5 and still sleeps with us. last year she decided she wanted to sleep in her own room, in her own bed. This was totally her decision. She continued to do this for about 6 months no problems. But then all of a sudden she started having dreams and became scared to sleep on her own so she came back into bed with us. She is a perfect co sleeper though. she does not move around and is a small child so we don't have any problems with her in our bed. And when she was sleeping on her own i would wake up more worrying about her more. I know many people that have kids that are difficult to sleep with and they lose sleep with them in their beds. So for them it's not an ideal situation.
I think this is something that each family has to decide on their own. Everyone is different, every situation is different.
I really have not read the studies on SIDS and co sleeping and have not looked into the latest research so i cannot comment on any of that. I do know that I have many freinds that have slept w/their children through the years and none of them died as a result.
I myself was a product of cosleeping and am a very independant, stable person with no psychological trama or issues at all. i don't have to take meds for anything lol i say that because i have heard the argument that co sleeping leads to dependance and there can be some psychological damage from that lol. too funny:)

Dianne M. - posted on 05/18/2010

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Hi Jessica!
I did the same with my son (my first child). He slept in the bed with me because I was a slightly paranoid new mommy (LOL). One night I went to sleep with him on my chest and woke up with him under the covers and me in a different part of the bed - I had rolled over during the night and we got separated. I, of course, was horrified!

After that, he slept in his crib (also in my room) until he was sleeping 6 or more hours a night, and then I moved him to his own room. Please be careful - it takes so little time to injure a little one and I would hate for you to go through that.

If he's sleeping through the night, then he probably is okay with being in his own bed - it really is up to you at this age, because he's so little.

Abby - posted on 05/18/2010

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I do the same as well. My son started sleeping with us off and on starting when he was about that age too. He is now almost 7 months old and sleeps with us all the time! I love it, but sometimes my husband and I want to be intimate and we can't, but that is the only downfall. We have a side rail on the bed as well, becausemy son prefers to sleep on the outside. My mom had me and my brothers sleep with her when we are tiny babies and I think it is fine!!

Brandi - posted on 05/18/2010

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We started co-sleeping with our son at birth because he would not sleep on his back, only his tummy...we ended up co-sleeping full-time till he turned 6 months old, then transistioned him into a crib in our room...his crib is now in his room (he just turned 1 a few weeks ago and we moved the crib just after his birthday) and he sleeps just fine in there by himself. He doesn't sleep completely through the night yet, but he is down to just 1 or 2 wake-ups a night (except when popping teeth). The wonderful thing about co-sleeping, for me, is that I always wake up just before he does, even with him in the crib instead of in bed with us. We have had a few occasions of co-sleeping since he went full-time in the crib, but this was when he was sick. I do still occasionally bring him into bed with me when my hubby gets up for work - which ends up being at the most an hour. There are ways to be safe about co-sleeping, so, if you are comfortable with it & do it safely, I don't see any problems with it...definitely love the perks!

Amanda - posted on 05/18/2010

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My son is 8 1/2 months old. He has been sleeping with me and my husband since we brought him home from the hospital. I love it but at the same time thinking how much harder it will be to have him start sleeping in his crib. Hopefully though it will be a smooth transition.

Jen - posted on 05/18/2010

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We have slept with our 5 month old since the beginning. She sleeps on Mom's side with a side rail. My partner is a deep sleeper so I didn't feel safe with baby in the middle. By 1.5 months she passed the first part of the night 7-12 in her cradle then I would get up and try to nurse her back into her cradle, but this was too exhausting for nothing - she would end up in our bed anyways. Now she sleeps 7pm-3am then comes into bed with us until 6.30 or 7.

We are going to try to move her to her own room in the next couple of months - she takes all her naps in her own room, hope this will make the transition easier.

I agree with the moms who say trust your instincts. At first I felt guilty for doing something that made my life easier, but I did some reading and which helped me be safer - and do what I felt was best for us. I put her on my side of the bed and got the side rail and I felt a lot better. She sleeps beside me -not on top of me- and I dont put her under the covers. I am very aware of all her movements. I love to see her wake up - all smiles and stretches! I will miss this! I don't think there is right or wrong - just what is best for your family.
ps I slept in a room alone as a baby and had terrible insomnia all my life - so Im not sure this problem is due to co-sleeping...

Tabitha - posted on 05/18/2010

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SIDS can happen to any healthy child, rather you co-sleep or not. I co-sleep with my child but i only have sheets on my bed, one big pillow, and a small blanket just in case. i dress me and the baby comfortable for the temp so we don't need any blankets or etc.

Valerie - posted on 05/16/2010

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Sarah- I am just wondering what does the study say about breastfeeding mothers knowing where their child is in the bed? I don't know why a breastfeeding mother would know better than a formula feeding mother. Just curious.

Valerie - posted on 05/16/2010

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I don't think its a good idea to have them sleep with you all night for a few reasons, but I think it's bad because when they get a little bit bigger, they won't sleep in their own beds. That doesn't seem fun to me at all but everyone likes different things and maybe it works for you.

Meredith - posted on 05/15/2010

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For the first two nights at home, my daughter slept in her bassinette. Because I was breastfeeding, it quickly became easier to have her in bed with me so I wouldn't be exhausted the next day. She's now 11 months old and still sleeping with me. I'm a single mom, so the idea of having her in her own room on the other side of my house was just crazy.

When she was about 2 months old, she woke me up by kicking me in our bed. She was choking on her own spit. I called the paramedics, and she turned out to be fine. But had she been in her own crib, I would've never heard her- since she was making no noise at all, and it could have been tragic. The spit would have eventually dissolved, and thus SIDS.

I know it is different for every person, but personally, after that, there was no way in hell I was putting her in her crib at night.

Occasionally she will sleep in her own little bed, but I've found I do not sleep at all when she does. I'm up just about every hour to check on her and make sure she's okay.

It all comes down to what you are comfortable with and what's best for you, your relationship (spouse) and you baby. Don't let anyone tell you what to do, because they're not the ones who have to live with your choices.

Jennifer - posted on 05/15/2010

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My son slept with us for the 1st 5 months and the only reason we put him in his own bed is because he rolls around so much and my bed is waist high. Im so afraid of him falling off of it. I miss him sleeping next to me so much. Your sex life definatly does suffer though. :-)

Sarah - posted on 05/15/2010

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I saw a study about co-sleeping and those that died from it. The one factor in every fatality was formula fed babies. The breastfeeding mothers have a better awareness of where their child is in the bed. Other factors include drinking, not sleeping in the bed but a sofa or something, and other children in the bed. I co-slept with my son for a few months, and slowly transitioned him to his own crib. Once he got used to it, he slept longer through the night. I still take naps with him, or have him in my bed on the rough nights. When I do, I make sure I'm in a position that's hard for me to roll over, but still comfortable. You'll find what works for you in time.

Megan - posted on 05/15/2010

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My baby girl sleeps with us just about every night she will start out in her crib and usually about 4 she wakes up and wants somethin to eat so i just bring her to bed with me so i can feed her and we can snuggle...it does make your sex life suffer ALOT lol but its worth it i love sleepin with my baby

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we dont do this as a regular thing, we have cuddle time in our bef with our lil man but dont have him sleep in with us only bevuase we have friends that did this with their baby daughter...who is now 2 and a half and she refuses to sleep in her own bed, crying and screaming if they do not let her in their bed at night to sleep, and now that she has gotten bigger, the husband has moved to the spare room to get a good nights sleep cos she wriggles so much, this probably does not happen to everyone! but something to think about :)

Deborah - posted on 05/15/2010

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I was knackered with my second son, so while he was still only weeks old, if he woke in the early hours and I didn't want to get up yet, I would put him in bed with us. That way I could dose some more and he went straight off to sleep. I didn't do this for long as I didn't want him getting use to waking and being put in our bed. But it did the trick when I needed it. Thankfully, he was fine when I stopped.

Paige - posted on 05/14/2010

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Since having my son, my son has slept in his cot from the day he come home. He is almost 1 now. Personally I would not choose to have my child in the bed with me, because it will be too hard to get them out of there, (have u ever watched supernanny? and they have like 5 and 6 year olds still in their beds?) not only that that is ahigher risk of sids.. Last year we lost a 7 week old child in our family that was in a bed, since then i invested in some breathing monitors and myson sleeps wonderfully everynight in his bed.personally i would not choose this. But we are all entitled to have opinions.

Eve - posted on 05/13/2010

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I dont see why we are rushing our babies to be independent at such a young age. why not give them tme to be babies. instead of rushing them into toddler age? I agree with independence however they shuld be babies first not come out n be expected to be independent

Eve - posted on 05/13/2010

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My lil one sleeps with me. he is 4 months old. sometimes Ill put him in his crib to sleep just to make sure he will. when he wakes up ill get him put him n bedf w/ me (i bfeed him
) n if Im not too tired jus put him back. but for most part he sleeeps with me

Lesley - posted on 05/13/2010

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My daughter is 19 months old and she slept with me till she was 15 months old. We are still breastfeeding at 19 months, and I didn't have a hard time getting her to sleep in her own crib, in her own room. Co-sleeping is what worked for my daughter and I. Everyone has their own opinion/parenting ways, doctors especially, and as I live in Europe, their view on co-sleeping is the direct opposite of American doctors. Co-sleeping has been happening for thousands of years - this isn't new. And it's proven to lead to more confident and loving children. As parents, we do what is best not just for our child, but for the family. What works for one, doesn't work for another. So don't let anyone tell you what you are doing is wrong because perhaps something they are doing is different from your way and that doesn't make that wrong. Enjoy your sleeps with your little one. They grow up so fast - I miss Isabella being beside me at night but I am happy knowing she is confident and secure to sleep now in her own crib in her own room. xox

Rebecca - posted on 05/12/2010

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my little man goes to bed in his cot and when he wakes to be fed, i feed him in bed and we usually drift of to sleep after, and i always put him into bed with me when my partner goes to work, i love the snuggles!!!

Kathy - posted on 05/12/2010

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when my daughter first came home from the hosp we had her in our room in a bassinet so that it would be easier on me. Once I was more healed up (c-section) and could move easier and she was sleeping mostly thru the night, at about 6 or 7 weeks we moved her to the crib in her room. She sleeps through the night in there almost every night but if she wakes up too early I'll change her and bring her to bed with me. Most if the time I'll get up but on weekends we'll usually keep her in bed and snuggle, well more-less hope she goes back to sleep!!

Marie - posted on 05/12/2010

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I see that this post is over a month old, but just to chime in here. . .I have a 7 month old, my first baby. Everything is new and exciting, and precious. When he was first born, we slept everywhere together, the couch, the rocking chair, the floor, the bed. BUT, he would also be fine if I put him in his crib or playpen. The only time he would sleep with me all night was when he had a runny, stuffy nose. Sitting, inclined, on the rocking chair helped him to breathe better, and thus, I could sleep better. He's never had a problem sleeping in his crib. We have a small apartment, so his crib is in our room, next to my side of the bed. It's so much easier and he finds so much comfort in waking up and see us there. He'll often sit and play quietly in his crib for 15 minutes before saying anything to wake us up. I love it and it works for us.



I have many friends that are all for letting their kids sleep in their bed. There are many cultures, even ours, that have a history and generations of this. The bond is precious. As many moms stated already, it's a personal choice. One that you and your husband/boyfriend will make. Congrats on the newborn!!

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Our son has been in our bed with us since he was born! He is 7 months now and I'm a firm believer in Attachment parenting and co sleeping.

Bethan - posted on 05/12/2010

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Yup, my 11month old comes in with us quite regularly, he seems to have a week where he'll sleep through and then the next week he'll be in with us. He always goes down in his cot first. I don't think it's bad at all, whatever feels right for your family...besides how many generations have bed shared?

Amanda - posted on 05/12/2010

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My son slept with me and my boyfriend for the first couple of weeks after we brought him home. He know sleeps in his crib every night and he is 8 weeks old. You should try getting him to sleep in crib more often and only let him sleep with you a couple times a week and the rest of the time in his crib. It'll be hard at first but just let him cry until hes used to it.

Priscilla - posted on 05/12/2010

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My daughter Bella, is 9 months old now. When i came home from the hospital I had had a c-section an dmy kitchen was downstairs sooo every night I would put her formula nad bottles of water next to my bed on the night stand and i would have her sleep in bed with me so I would not have to climb the stairs 3-4 times per night to feed her!! I knwo that might sound like I
was being lazy and maybe i was but i was soo tired and in pain. Nowww, my daughter iwll sleepin in her crib or playpen but at some point in the night usually right as I enter the room to go to bed myself she wakes up screaming crying until I bring her in the bed with me!! And sometimes I just want to slep with her so I bring her in bed with me anyways!! I dont see any problem with this as longn as you are careful not tor olll over!! And insure that the baby will not fall oput of bed!!

Allison - posted on 05/07/2010

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Hi I see that your post is old but I had to respond! Doctors and "professionals" change their minds ALL THE TIME, so while it's important to read and be up to date on the current information, don't forget to go on your instinct the most. What one year is safe the next year turns out to be dangerous, and vice versa (such as a baby sleeping on their belly). Our daughter slept in our bed right between us in one of those little baby-bed thingies you put in your bed with you for them to sleep in. She slept between us for 3 months - totally safe in my opinion as long as no one is drunk or drugged (your body automatically and instinctually knows someone is sleeping next to you, however drugs will interfere with these instincts). Then at 3 months she slept in a cradle in our bedroom. Around 6 months we decided to move her into her own room, where she sleeps just fine. DON'T LISTEN to the people who say you're making a bad choice and your child will never leave your bed - SO NOT TRUE!! I doubt our daughter is a rare example either. I slept in my parents bed, so I'm told, when I was little too..and look, I'm in my own bed now : )

Jennifer - posted on 05/07/2010

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I never put my children in the bed with me when they were babies. I put the bassinet next to my bed but that was it. I know a mother who is serving time for killing her 4 week old baby. She had the baby in bed with her and fell asleep ,rolled over , and suffocated the baby to death. Letting an infant sleep in your bed is a very bad idea!!

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my son is 17 months and he still sleeps with us. we have virtually NO sex life, but it's alright. he still wakes up at night and i'd rather be right there to nurse him than have to get up. i'm hoping against hope that the transition into his own bed in a few months will not be too painful for any of us. i don't think it's possible to "roll over and smother" your OWN baby. they were a part of your body for so long, and now they are just on the outside. i am constantly aware of my son, and i am a DEEP DEEP sleeper. alarms don't wake me up, but a small movement or cry from my son and i wake slightly to make sure he's ok, and then i'm back to sleep. he sleeps almost under me, he's so close, but i've never smashed him and i'm not a small gal by any means!

Carol - posted on 05/02/2010

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I never, ever put our children in bed with us. It makes transition harder when the time comes when a child HAS to start sleeping in their own bed. I had a 9 year old cousin that was finally forced to sleep in his own bed and it traumatized him for months. His parents finally had to let him sleep on a small cot at his parents' bedside until he could finally make it on his own. His father would carry him to his bed after he was asleep. This poor family was tired all the time and it was sad for all. I took my clues from them and put our kids in their bassinetts and beds from day one. Please re-consider if you are a new parent.

Shannon - posted on 04/28/2010

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Yes. I had a c-section and couldn't get in and out of bed easily to tend to my little guy. Now I put him in his bassinette beside our bed when he first falls asleep, but he always ends up back in there after a feeding. He sleeps well and we don't mind him being there. He's also learned to cuddle up to my husband, which is really cute.

Sara - posted on 04/27/2010

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It doesn't seem like a good idea to me. It's a habit that is HARD to break. Before you know it they will be 6 and still wanting to sleep with you. They need to learn to comfort themselves and be independent.

Elysia - posted on 04/27/2010

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my son is 13 months and sleeps with us occasionally for part of the nite, depending on how tired i am

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