boyfriend wants another baby but im not sure....

Danielle - posted on 12/23/2010

I mean all I have to do is read your subject line to know that you should wait. If you're not sure, you should wait until you're feeling more comfortable with the idea. You two are still really young and there is plenty of time. And take it from a woman with 2 kids under 2...sometimes it's no picnic. I love my babies but I get very little sleep and time to myself. We also struggled financially for my entire second pregnancy and until our youngest was about a month old. I had major complications with my second pregnancy and had so many doctors appointments and hospital stays. If this happened to you, with your family not being supportive who would take care of your child while you were at the doctor's? Also the stress of a newborn and no money took quite a toll on our relationship. My husband and I were angry a lot with each other and fought a lot because we just didn't have anybody else to take our stresses out on but each other. We got through it but it wasn't easy. Of course it's all completely worth it but having gone through it I think I would've spaced my kids apart just a little more. Plus two babies, no vehicle? It's hard with one but two without a car is going to be pretty difficult I would imagine. Especially if you're in an unsafe neighbourhood. Just re-read your post and I think you have your answer hun. Now's not the time.

Kyla - posted on 12/23/2010

I think you should wait until you two are in a better spot in life. Your both very young and if you can barely afford one money how are you going to afford another one. Why does your boyfriend want another one already? Hes not the one that stays with them all day you are so I think you really need to tell him how you feel and make him listen.

Lynsey - posted on 12/23/2010

You guys are still so young! If you put another baby into the mix (which it sounds like you are thinking this through VERY carefully and have found many reasons NOT to have another one) you will just be even more stressed. It helps if you wait till your one can go off to school so you and the new baby can have time together just the two of you. It ALSO helps to be financially stable, feel safe, and have help too. It is so easy to say "yeah I want another baby!" But it is so much smarter to stand back and look at the WHOLE situation first. I got engaged when I was pregnant with my first and married days after she was born and we didnt live in the best area either. But he got a new job that makes a whole lot more money so now I can stay home and finish up my bachelors degree (7 more classes to go!) It helps if you can sit down and talk about it. We sat down and he told me he would prefer that I stay home with the kids for as long as possible (till we cant afford it anymore) Because we believe it is better for the kids. I was your age when I got pregnant with my first... now 7 years later we are married... with 3 kids... in a house that is in an area that is MORE than safe... He works full time and like I said I am finishing my degree part time. When I have my degree it will be something to fall back on if and when we need to... I can just go out and get a job (there really is a desperate need for science teachers here) so right now we are comfortable. Would I have considered having a second child in the circumstances that I was in with my 1st!? NO WAY! I would just wait until you two are in a better position in your lives because kids are SO expensive... especially when they get the I want this attitude and then their extra curricular activities arent cheap either! Good luck to you!

Emily - posted on 12/22/2010

You have a lot of good reasons to not have another baby right now. Tell your boyfriend how you feel. He needs to understand where you're coming from. Having a child takes 2.. so if you're not on board yet, he will just have to wait.

Nikkole - posted on 12/22/2010

I wouldnt have another baby if you 1.dont have a car 2.Cant walk outside because its not safe and 3.Your not ready (it seems like) I would wait till your ready not just him and why not get married and get a nice house and out of the place you live NOW before you have another one it sounds like you dont really like the area you live in or its not safe so i personally wouldnt bring another baby into that! Just sit him down and explaine to him you dont think you could handle another one right now!!! My son is 3 almost and my daughter is 5months and ITS HARD 2 babies is a lot different than just one!

Brianna - posted on 12/22/2010

I think you should wait until ur ready... ur bf doesnt have to be with the kids all the time YOU DO. so i think its ur decision. you could alway compermise and say that something like wait till ur babys will be at least 2 years apart

Jade - posted on 12/21/2010

I think you should just read what you just wrote i think you know the answer to what you want to do.
You shouldnt just have another baby cause your partner wants one, wait until your ready too.