Breastfeeding vs. Bottle feeding....I'm torn between the two.

Jessica - posted on 01/08/2010 ( 16 moms have responded )

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My so is 2 months old and I alternate breast feeding with bottle feeding because sometimes I feel as if I don't produce enough to breast feed consistently. Every now and then I think about bottle feeding instead the other, but in the back of my head I feel like a horrible mother if I were to take away the closeness he's already has gotten used to by breastfeeding. I'm torn has anybody felt this way?

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Julie - posted on 01/12/2010

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I had a similar experience. I had a blood transfusion after the birth (two hemorrhages unfortunately following the birth) and this afftected my milk supply. I breast and bottle fed for 5 months, until my little boy refused the breast anymore, due I think to a lack of supply. Although it was traumatic at the time, it was a good way to wean and he is meeting all relevant milestones (he's now fourteen months).

Whatever you do, try not to feel too guilty - different things work for different people. Having said that, if you can continue to breast feed without too much impact on you, that is preferable.

Toni - posted on 01/12/2010

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I work full time and do both. I pump milk at least 2 times each day. I nurse her as much as possible when i am home. She gets very attached to me on the weekends since she gets fewer bottles. The baby is 7 1/2 months old and I plan to continue breast feeding as long as possible. Don't feel guilty. We all need a break every now and then. Sometimes it is easier to just give her a bottle or tell her dad to give her a bottle.

Brooke - posted on 01/12/2010

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When my daughter was around 6 weeks our Dr recommended I put her on a night bottle as she was throwing up a lot at the time and he thought the formula might sit better in her belly for the night. I was feeding her every 3 to 4 hrs of a day. Gradually I noticed she would start to do the same, pull away from the breast start screaming then latch back on to repeat the process again. I was becoming really upset and stressed and went back to my Dr, the nurse at the clinic there said to try comp feeding. I would spend 30 mins to an hr feeding her, my breasts would feel completely empty yet she would still be screaming, I would then give her a bottle. She was drinking between 50 to 100mL extra! So I think it is very possible you are not producing enough. I would speak to a lactation consultant and ask about getting medication to up your supply or changing your diet.

Doris - posted on 01/12/2010

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Hey Jessica, I had the exact same problem. My son is 5 months now and I strictly BF him all the way since I started to feel my milk supply was not enough. I started with BF and pumped milk after each feed when my son was born up until he was 3/4 months. A lot of work, and at the end of the night I would bottle feed my son up until the point my milk seemed low. I freaked out which made me stressed and less milk was produced. I tried fenugreek to try and increase my milk supply, but it did nothing for me. So, I stopped pumping and strictly BF my son all the way till now. It's true how your milk supply will satisfy your child as he grows if you BF him. Just feed on demand. It will be hard for the first week, but baby's stimulation is the magic to breast milk! I don't have any more problems, my son is always satisfied and you'll get better at it! If you don't feel confident to feed in public you can practice looking in the mirror while you feed and help you! I hope this advice helps!! Don't give up!!! (I had no choice but to BF because my son hates formula and doesn't take it)

Sara - posted on 01/11/2010

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I'm in the same boat, but do NOT get yourself down about it. It's only natural for a mother to feel that way. I had to stop breast feeding because my son (who is also 2 months) couldn't latch correctly because he was born premature, so I pumped as much as I could. The only way to keep producing milk is to keep your baby in skin contact with you and pump as much as you can. If you are going to bottle feed, find a bottle that has a nipple that is similar to a mothers breast. That is what I have done and I have succeeded. It's ok to feel torn, but don't get down about it, you'll be just fine, you gotta be a happy mommy!!! :) Also, find a formula that is most similar to mother's breast milk!!

Jenn - posted on 01/11/2010

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I do exactly what you do! Majority i breast feed and then i do no more then 2 half bottles of formula a day. i think it's great to do both. it gives you some time to yourself to go and do what you need to do and know that someone else can have that bonding time with your baby. But at the same time when you are breastfeeding them you stil get the special quality time! OR you could buy a breast pump..and pump your milk when your baby is napping and then just feed them the bottle of breast milk :-) works great for me!

Andrea - posted on 01/11/2010

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I went through the same thing! The stress and pressure we put on ourselves! I went to a lactose consultant and tried everything but I'm positive my daughter wasn't getting enough breast milk. So I had to supplement with formula and then at 4 weeks switched completely to the bottle. Very emotional decision but I will say I became a better mother b/c I was way more relaxed and less stressed once I made the decision. You definitey won't be a bad mom for formula feeding! Do what feels right. Good luck!

Lisa - posted on 01/11/2010

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I felt exactly the same way. My baby is 10 weeks old now. I had to use a nipple shield to help with breast feeding and at 6 weeks we switched over to bottle feeding. She wasn't gaining weight like she should have been. My baby would fall asleep after eating a little amount so it seemed like she wasn't sleeping well because she would wake up after only a little time because she was still hungry. I know they say that breast milk is best but my pediatrician assured me that I could use formula and my baby would be fine. The most important weeks are the first four and if you can stand to breastfeed for at least 6 before switching to formula, that is even better. My baby has been taking formula for 4 weeks now and aside from picking up weight, which is what we wanted, she is doing great and is very healthy. You can have closeness with your baby in other ways and it doesn't make you a bad mother. Congratulations and good luck!

Dana - posted on 01/10/2010

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You should not feel like a horrible mother...I bottle fed exclusively and I don't feel like my daughter missed out on any closeness with me....we snuggle, we cuddle and she is as healthy as a horse and is completely happy with her world! Your little guy will be as close to you as before and he won't be feeling your tension about the decision that you want to make.

Jessica - posted on 01/08/2010

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LOL my boobs feel flat when he's done eating. And I do give him the pacifier, in fact he can't live without it.

Lise - posted on 01/08/2010

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Quoting Christine:

I think every mom goes through the question am I producing enough. I know I did. But as long as your baby is gaining weight and has bowel movements and pee diapers then you are okay. But totally a personal choice and its up to you. Why do you think your not producing enough?


I second that!  It's super common to worry.  I remember telling my LC that I wished my boobs came with a milk gauge!  But she told me that my boobs are never really empty.  They aren't a storage unit, and if the baby keeps sucking more WILL come out.  Watch the output and if he's still having 4-5 wet diapers and hitting milestones, you guys are doing great!



If you WANT to stop and go to a bottle, do so - but you don't need to.

Louella - posted on 01/08/2010

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i go through the same situation with my daughter. i feed her first. then but then i give her a bottle. it is alright becuase you feed your son first you are still getting the bond. but my daughter is 7mnth nxt wk. so she gets mostly table food or stage 2 food. all you have to do is keep your diet the same and just drink a lot of fluids. and also pumping works too.

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After he feeds do your breast seem less full? If so then he is probably getting enough and may just want to suck on something. You can try to offer a pacifier to see if that helps with the crying.

Jessica - posted on 01/08/2010

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Sometimes when he eats from me so many times in a row he'll start to cry afterwards as if he's not done but then also cry when I put him back on like he's not getting anything out of me. Maybe I'm just a worry wort.

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I think every mom goes through the question am I producing enough. I know I did. But as long as your baby is gaining weight and has bowel movements and pee diapers then you are okay. But totally a personal choice and its up to you. Why do you think your not producing enough?

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