Can any one tell me the truth about corn syrup and giving it to my daughter?

Bethany - posted on 05/21/2009

I was told by my babies doctor to give him 1/2 tsp. of dark corn syrup when he got constipated at 2 months old. I know it is a natural laxative. I have never heard of it being used to calm a baby. Let me tell you though, it worked like a charm to get his number 2 flowing!!

Teresa - posted on 05/21/2009

Thank you valencia, i do feel very out of control but i have made arrangements in alaska with family so i do not have to come back to this hell hole...

Valencia - posted on 05/21/2009

I was just reading these posts today for something to do and my stomach is turning like crazy!!! unbelievable how people feel that they know more than you about your own child. When I left my sons dad, I was told that he has all rights to the child as well unless I has a custody order, so basically he could walk up to me, take him out of my arms and I couldn't stop him. But thats where planning comes in. NO ONE is going to keep my child from me, I would rather go live in a shelter than listen to "family" who claims that if I don't like it, I can leave. I would!!! Call CAS and don't let them push you around, because as long as you follow their twisted ideas, they will know they can control you. Doctors think everything is okay, or half the time they don't care and just want you to get out of the room so they can see another patient and make more money. I never used any kind of syrup, because when the child gets to be a toddler, are you going to give them chips and pop at 10am just so they don't cry and scream??? No right. Kids must learn no means no and treatsa re not going to make things any better. We all know what happens when you crash from a sugar rush, you get irritable and tired. A vicious circle.

i don't mean to sound rude or patronizing, I just don't like the idea of you being out of control of your child. Good luck!!

Carlita - posted on 05/20/2009

Quoting Kimberly:

my nurse said not to use karo syrup either btw but my doctor said it was fine They also say dont give babies water because it can promote develpmental delay! BUt i came out fine. and so did my boyfriend.

Really? I never heard of that with water. I remember my nurse telling me, don't give him water cos it will fill him up, while the doctor said its okay. Isn't it crazy how they never agree on anything.

Cynthia - posted on 05/20/2009

Quoting Teresa:

Cynthia-

What if im married, i dont know how to go about leaving, im affraid i will be charged with kid napping if i leave. Im going to call an attorney tomorrow and see what they say but im just affraid that in the long run i may cauwe her more bad that good. I dont want to even give them a reason to take her from me.

being married puts a different spin on this.  it is excellent to go see a lawyer ( most get paid by the hour and will only see you in person vs talking on the phone, you can't pay for their services over the phone.)  find out from the lawyer what your options are to get out of this situation (both physically out and legally out).  Alos find out what you have to establish froma legal standpoint the right to take your daughter from your husband  and what right he may have to get her back...ask asmany questions as you can think of...to find out which route will work best for you. better to be slow and cautious then hasty and regretful. my thoughts are with you.

Teresa - posted on 05/20/2009

Quoting Cynthia:

go with your gut on this...they are not right about the corn syrup. the reason it ends up in formula is to act as a stool softener and in babies if given in large amounts will empty their bowels which will do more harm in the long run.(no water absorption as the sugar speeds up the processing of the bowels and doesn't let the moisture reabsorb from your babies stool thus dehydrating her. that's why she has the diarrhea. bad, really bad)

sounds like you have a plan to get out. since you have seen their behaviour and how they treat you now, I would assume this will not change. they seem to see you as someone who knows nothing, and they will probably never change. this is not who you want your baby to be taken care of as you know best, not them. old ways are just that, ways of the past and not what is considered right and correct now. they will only respect their own thinking not yours (as proven by them laughing at you earlier). so don't waste anymore of your life or your little one's life by staying there. I hope you can cut ties with your boyfriend as he may tell them where you will be. give yourself time to settle in and be a mom to your little one and be strong. good for you for realizing this is wrong and taking such courageous steps to get out. take care.

one thought; a halfway house or women's shelter may take you in until you are can find what you need in your new town if you can't or aren't able to stay with friends or relatives. take care.

Cynthia-

What if im married, i dont know how to go about leaving, im affraid i will be charged with kid napping if i leave. Im going to call an attorney tomorrow and see what they say but im just affraid that in the long run i may cauwe her more bad that good. I dont want to even give them a reason to take her from me.

Cynthia - posted on 05/20/2009

go with your gut on this...they are not right about the corn syrup. the reason it ends up in formula is to act as a stool softener and in babies if given in large amounts will empty their bowels which will do more harm in the long run.(no water absorption as the sugar speeds up the processing of the bowels and doesn't let the moisture reabsorb from your babies stool thus dehydrating her. that's why she has the diarrhea. bad, really bad)



sounds like you have a plan to get out. since you have seen their behaviour and how they treat you now, I would assume this will not change. they seem to see you as someone who knows nothing, and they will probably never change. this is not who you want your baby to be taken care of as you know best, not them. old ways are just that, ways of the past and not what is considered right and correct now. they will only respect their own thinking not yours (as proven by them laughing at you earlier). so don't waste anymore of your life or your little one's life by staying there. I hope you can cut ties with your boyfriend as he may tell them where you will be. give yourself time to settle in and be a mom to your little one and be strong. good for you for realizing this is wrong and taking such courageous steps to get out. take care.



one thought; a halfway house or women's shelter may take you in until you are can find what you need in your new town if you can't or aren't able to stay with friends or relatives. take care.

Jocelyn - posted on 05/20/2009

Quoting teresa:

i have told them every bad thing it does and i even had to take her to be put on fluids at the hospital and they wont stop, see the way they think is it didtn kill thier kids so it wont hurt mine, when i asked them to stop they laughed. then i stood up to them and i was told that it wasnt hurting her and that if i didnt like it i could pack my stuff and leave and that if i took marley they would do what ever it took to get her from me. well i figured my husband was on my side but i thought wrong. he told me that the only way it was goign to stop is if we move away and he wasnt dong that. so i either leave and possibly loose my baby or i stay and keep fighting with them. another part to this is i work for the family and im in school. The office i work at is in the back yard of my grandmother in laws, so to me i am trapped and cant do anything till i finish school. so im trying to do what i can but basically since we told them i was pregnant it has been thier baby. it doesnt matter what i do it wont stop.

just throw the sh*t out!  and when they buy more stuff, throw that out too!  if money is an issue, have you looked into cooperative housing?  we're on a waiting list where i am, but when we get in, we will only be paying 30% of our income, and if you have kids then you are a higher priority :)

Kylie - posted on 05/20/2009

If your going to leave have a good plan in place, sort out somewhere safe to stay, do you have your family in Alaska? Make sure you pack all the necessary paperwork birth certificates, immunization records. social security numbers etc. Perhaps you should say to the in laws something simple like "i am her mother if you don't respect my wishes and put the health and safety of my baby first i will leave and take her somewhere she is safe" just to give them the heads up.

Emily - posted on 05/20/2009

If she's your daughter, then no!

Teresa - posted on 05/20/2009

well im going to alaska on june 2nd. can i get in any trouble if i dont come back? like can i be charged with kid napping?

Sara - posted on 05/20/2009

Teresa-I have read that there is anecdotal evidence of botulism spores that can get in the karo during the manufacturing process. Obviously, it's not been proven, but just to err on the side of safety, I give my little one prune juice when she is constipated. I think that is why perhaps some people say not to give Karo. :)

Emily - posted on 05/20/2009

If it's gotten so bad that she was hospitalized, you NEED to get out. Or threaten to call CPS on them, and seriously do it if they wont stop. If my husband didnt back me up on this issue, and my daughter was being hospitalized for it, I would leave his butt, take my baby and get help elsewhere. You shouldnt worry about them taking your baby. I mean, unless you're beating her up or you're shooting up crack everynight, there is no way your in laws can legally take her from you. You really need to get out of there for her safety.

Teresa - posted on 05/20/2009

i have told them every bad thing it does and i even had to take her to be put on fluids at the hospital and they wont stop, see the way they think is it didtn kill thier kids so it wont hurt mine, when i asked them to stop they laughed. then i stood up to them and i was told that it wasnt hurting her and that if i didnt like it i could pack my stuff and leave and that if i took marley they would do what ever it took to get her from me. well i figured my husband was on my side but i thought wrong. he told me that the only way it was goign to stop is if we move away and he wasnt dong that. so i either leave and possibly loose my baby or i stay and keep fighting with them. another part to this is i work for the family and im in school. The office i work at is in the back yard of my grandmother in laws, so to me i am trapped and cant do anything till i finish school. so im trying to do what i can but basically since we told them i was pregnant it has been thier baby. it doesnt matter what i do it wont stop.

Emily - posted on 05/20/2009

If its giving her the poops, then its hurting her. Have you told them it gives her diarrhea? Because she must be getting awful stomach aches then too, which could lead to the excessive crying. Its kind of a dumb vicious circle they are putting her through. You need to put your foot down if they still wont stop. She's your daughter, and you need to stand up for her, she cant do it for herself.

Teresa - posted on 05/20/2009

oh its not me doing it. i am totally against it but was told if i didnt like it to pack my things and go. my in laws have basically taken my baby i was just making sure that it wasnt hurting her. and btw i have asked them to stop i have tried every thing they wont stop.

Emily - posted on 05/20/2009

If you know it gives her the poops, why the heck do you keep giving it to her? I think its gross to dip your daughters paci in a vault of greasy corn syrup. yuck yuck yuck

Jocelyn - posted on 05/20/2009

if it is giving her diahrea, then i wouldn't keep giving it to her.

Jocelyn - posted on 05/20/2009

if it is giving her diahrea, then i wouldn't keep giving it to her.

Kimberly - posted on 05/20/2009

my nurse said not to use karo syrup either btw but my doctor said it was fine They also say dont give babies water because it can promote develpmental delay! BUt i came out fine. and so did my boyfriend.

Kimberly - posted on 05/20/2009

i went with my doctor on this one, karo syrup has been used for years my pediatrician is 65 years old and hasnt had a problem with karo syrup! I use it for my 1 month old son sometimes to go to the bathroom. If you want to use the karo syrup and afraid it might ruin her teethe use the gum and toothe cleanser for infants have to be 3 months old. And i wouldnt put in pacifier maybe in bottle or in some water (sterilized water).