Mikayla - posted on 02/24/2010 ( 54 moms have responded )
thoughts on finding out the sex of your baby or not please
Mikayla - posted on 02/24/2010 ( 54 moms have responded )
thoughts on finding out the sex of your baby or not please
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Barb - posted on 03/13/2012
Yes I did I didn't have a boys name I was inlove with and had the a girls name I was inlove with so I wanted find with my first and got a 3d ultra sound to make sure. My second one I am waiting have 5 weeks to go till 20 weeks would love to find out sooner though if he will let it us!
Mikayla - posted on 03/09/2010
im suprised so many ppl did, when i said to everyone i was finding out, they were all like why do u want to do that, dont u want the suprise!
Christy - posted on 03/03/2010
I had a feeling I was having a girl when i was about eight weeks and about twenty weeks along they confirmed it! I was so excited and it was so much easier to plan and pick out names for her! I would find out with any other baby I decide to have. I personally thing its more fun to pick out the clothes, bedding, or anything for them! I hope this helps! Good Luck!
Samantha - posted on 03/03/2010
i found out the sex of my baby i had to know cuase its so hard picking out clothes and that and i wanted to let ma granda know what i was having cause he was really ill
Jody - posted on 03/02/2010
I found out with my son, but I think with the next one we wont, I just didnt want to not have anything when the baby came the first time bc I hate like yellow and green! But aside from clothes most all my stuff still ended up being ok for either! LOL
Lynn - posted on 03/02/2010
My husband and I couldn't wait. We tried to find out at my 18 week u/s, but couldn't tell. Our little peanut kept its legs crossed or hid behind the umbilical cord. Luckily, for us, we got a second shot at our 22 week u/s and found out we were having a girl. She now has her Daddy wrapped around her little finger.
Jamie - posted on 03/02/2010
We did not find out the sex. My husband and I wanted a girl SOOO badly I convinced myself that "it" was a boy. It took me approx. 2 mins after delivery to ask what it was and then I thought they were tricking me because they said it was a girl. After almost 6 months I still can not believe I got my girl. It was the BEST surprise ever. We registered all neutral colors for everything and if our next baby is a boy...we are set. If you find out and buy all blue or pink then have the opposite sex your at square one again. Good Luck no matter what YOU chose to do.
Lainie - posted on 03/02/2010
We found out as soon as we could. It was our first baby and we wanted to be able to set up the nursery and buy clothes and didnt want to be stuck with only neutral options. Knowing what i was having made the pregnancy a lot more real for me and i could picture myself as a mother for the first time with my baby girl. Like you mentioned i think it helped me bond with her better too.
Keeshea - posted on 03/02/2010
Yes, we wanted to know for planning purposes. We had a boy - I always knew that I was having a boy. It's hard to explain - but I knew that I was having a boy.
Roni - posted on 03/01/2010
no i didnt want to find out. It was hard shopping though when i was pregnant. but i had a little girl and was very happy
Brittani - posted on 03/01/2010
Yes, I had to find out because I wanted to shop for baby clothes. I knew I was having a girl.
Camille - posted on 03/01/2010
We only had one ultrasound at like 15 weeks, when it is still hard to pinpoint sex. We had the technician write down the sex on a piece of paper and put it in an envelope, then we went on a date and opened the card together. I t was a sweet moment alone and the whole pregnancy we were always thinking, "it could be a boy". so it was kind of the best of both worlds. Luckily it WAS a girl because every single outfit I received was pink.
Sarah - posted on 03/01/2010
My hubby and I HAD to find out. I don't think I could've waited a whole 9 months not knowing what we were having. For one, I like to be super organised (otherwise I stress about things), so I wanted to know what colour things to buy in preparation for baby. Also, it meant we were able to settle on a name before she was born and so we started calling her by name instead of "the baby" or "it" - I think it made it more special with bonding before she arrived. I do admire anyone who is patient enough to wait 9 months to find out... I could never do it!
Nikki - posted on 02/28/2010
My partner and i decided to find our the sex of our baby poor purely because we couldn't wait the 9 months to find. Once we found out and triple check during the ultrasound he was a boy (we made sure we saw it for ourselves lol) we found that with being young expectant parents it was so much easier to have those months leading up to prepare for a boy and not worry that the clothes and decore for his room would be ok for either sex. I will find out for the next one as well as it made life so much easier.
Tammy - posted on 02/28/2010
We found out. We have a 13 year old boy at the time and I wanted to know if the baby was a girl or a boy. I wanted to have the nursery done all up. All I was concern with was if the baby was healthy.
Toni - posted on 02/28/2010
I think it was fun not knowing. We lucked out because we got very few clothes for baby shower gifts. My 2 cousins and 2 nieces got almost nothing but clothes at theirs a few months before me. Since people did not know what to get us, we got gift cards which we could use towards big price items. It was fun watching the grandparents try to figure it out. It was also fun finding out in delivery. We had 2 names ready just in case and a neutral, fun nursery in jungle theme. I think we would do it the same all over again. We can also use most of her stuff with the next child if it is a boy.
Kaitlyn - posted on 02/28/2010
yes I found out the sex of my baby, I couldn't stand the suspense >.< lol I'm so impatient :p
plus then I was able to prepare! :)
Kristin - posted on 02/28/2010
No we did not find out at al, l before we even found out I was pregnant we both talked about it and did not want to find out, we both thought she was going to be a boy and so did alot of people. they did give us a picture of her on the sonogram showing us what she was but my husband hid it from me with out looking. .It was all worth it in the end its so worth the wait. My friend did the same thing and we both had little girls.
Sarah - posted on 02/28/2010
with my daughter i was 7 months when i found out i was pregnant and i found out the sex straight away at my first scan and it didn't feel like i waited too long even though she was 8 day's late. with my son me and my husband wanted to knoew but when we had the scan he had his legs crossed so we couldn't see the sonographer said she thought it might be a girl so everyone went and bought pink and girly clothes. then when he was born everyone was running round while i was in hospital buying boy's clothes. i think it's better to finds out the sex also my son was born 11 day's late so it was even more time to wait and find out.
Shonna - posted on 02/28/2010
yes, I found out we were having a boy. He's my first and I absolutely had to know. I think with my second I won't find out. IDK, I might be too anxious not to find out, but I am planning on not!
Brooke - posted on 02/27/2010
Not with #2 and I'm so glad, I thought for sure it was a boy - it was a girl *:) It's harder to keep it a secret cause the Dr's always seem to want to tell you. If you want a surprise DON"T read any paperwork they hand you (almost ruined it for me)
Dana - posted on 02/27/2010
We found out we were having a boy, because I couldn't stand to call the baby "it". I wanted him to have an identity. I did have a strong feeling it was a boy, but wanted it to be confirmed, as I didn't want to bond with my baby thinking it's a boy, but was actually a girl. The only thing I regret doing is telling everyone else what we were having, including the name we had picked. Next time I think we'll keep it to ourselves, and surprise everone else.
Amanda - posted on 02/27/2010
i found out with my 1st and my 3rd and i will be finding out with my 4th (currently 14 weeks along). the surprise that came with my 2nd child was nice, however not knowing meant i was less prepared. my 1st child was a boy, so all we had were boy items and #2 ended up being a girl. i know from experience that even tho finding out on the day is very nice, knowing before hand makes planning and preparation 10 times easier. and really, it's still a surprise, you just know a bit sooner is all.
Helen - posted on 02/27/2010
i found out what i was having so my other son could get used to the idea of having a little brother as his nanna told him he was having a sister for the first 4 month i was pregnant and he went round telling people it was a girl in mammys belly it helped him a lot aswell i think noing he was getting a brother to play with when the baby is older
Aimee-Grace - posted on 02/27/2010
We did not find out what we were having, it was a lot of fun to be surprised! Our names we had picked out had the same initials so we just called our baby by the initials until we knew what we had. My husband announced the sex o our child once I had delivered. She was an amazing little girl and I don't think we'll find out if we have another child. There are lots of color of clothes out there that work for either sex: white, cream, yellow, green, orange, brown, black, red, even blue.
Ashley=) - posted on 02/27/2010
On my first we were having a boy but i didn't get anything for a boy just the normal white and cream but i had a beautiful girl in the end so it was a big suprise.on my second i asked from 19 weeks and the couldn't tell and at 37weeks i had some problems and had to get a scan done at the hospital the told me i was having a little girl i asked thinking the wouldn't be able to tell me.i was so happy and it cheered me up.she was born a girl lol and a healthy bouncing little girl despite all the hassle we had.to me it doesn't make a difference whether or not to find out the most amazing part for me is holding my baby for the first time boy or girl.that feeling cant be beat.:)so its not wrong either way and its just as exciting and amazing.
Rebecca - posted on 02/26/2010
We didn't find out, I am so glad that we didn't. I wasn't too fond of any of the unisex crib bedding so we just waited till the baby was born to decorate the nursery, my husband did the painting :)
But any way, when our baby was finally born the excitement in the room was so high! the nurses and the doctor was just as excited to find out what the sex was, when she exclaimed It's a Girl!!! my heart lept and I was in tears, she was the most beautiful little baby I'd ever seen. I have to say you are going to be excited about the birth of your baby but there are so few surprises in life and this is one that is so amazing to keep :)
Sarah - posted on 02/26/2010
My husband and I found out the sex of our baby when I was 21 weeks pregnant! The day before we found out, I was involved in a car wreck where a lady pulled out right in front of me on a pretty busy road. Luckily I was wearing my seatbelt!! I started having contractions, so I had to stay in the maternal observation unit at the hospital for several hours while they tried to stop them. Thank God I was able to go home a few hours later because they were able to stop the contractions. The next day I had my big ultrasound and they also checked for any problems with the placenta like tearing, etc. due to the wreck. They saw that everything was perfect & that I was having a little boy! :) Best day ever!
Stephanie - posted on 02/26/2010
I didnt want to know! the surprised was exciting of not knowing and lots of people trying to guess what i was having. everyone said i was for sure going to have a baby boy cuz of the way my belly was shaped, but i had a baby girl. I had a feeling it was going to be a baby girl cuz it was like as soon as i started thinking of names i did not like any boy names i had chosen and the girls name elizabeth nicole just sounded so perfect and when i wrote it out i fell in love with it.for my opinon i think it should be kept a surprised cuz even sometimes doctors make mistakes of not 100% and the wondering of knowing and the surprise to it makes life worth living for, and whats so wrong with a baby shower afterwards i did a week i got out of the hospital and it was better cuz my family got to share her with my family and i hate attention so lucky they didnt focus on me most of the time and i always had something to talk about. XD
Melissa - posted on 02/26/2010
Yep, all three :)
Michelle - posted on 02/26/2010
I had a feeling once I feel pregnant. At the start my hubby wanted to know. I didn't. Then I gave hubby an option to find out at the baby shower, but he decided no. It was exciting to finally meet our bouncing baby boy on his birthday. I liked the feeling he could be his on person without people saying he will be this, or he will be that. For my next one I will do the same. Also I find if people know that buy all blue or all pink stuff. There are so may other colours & uni sex clothing out there!!
Jennifer - posted on 02/26/2010
I found out I was having a girl took a couple of tries to actually get a good shot to find out what she was. I could have swore up & down I was having a boy & had things picked out already. I am glad that I did ask what the sex was instead of not knowing that way I could be prepared & have everything ready of her when she got here instead of being unprepared & unsure of what I was getting into. I think its better to know what you are going to have so you can go decorate their room, buy clothes, and things that do relate to their sex.
Kalie - posted on 02/25/2010
hi with my son I didn't want toknow though I had a feeling it was a boy. I didn't want to know with my daughter either but a trainee accidently told me I was having a boy and it turned out to be a girl. I bought unisex clothes before hand, and things that don't matter. I was fun not knowing!!!
Tamara - posted on 02/25/2010
Found out and it was easier buying clothes and stuff for baby!!
Stephanie - posted on 02/25/2010
i didn't because you don't get many nice thing in life and for me when they told me it was a boy i was over the moon but then on the other hand if they had have said it was a girl i think i would have been just as happy coz as long as every thing is as it should be you'll love your baby lust the same x good luck x and enjoy it coz they grow so fast x
Donna - posted on 02/25/2010
yes definatly, babythings are more sexed these days. Its just so much easier to be prepaired
Lisa - posted on 02/25/2010
I found out what I was having both times and got two boys. The first time we just wanted to know so that we could get stuff ready for the little guy. We went through the preparations: painting the bedroom, buying the clothes, etc. And than the second time we just wanted to be prepared because we had already had a boy, we didn't have ANYTHING for a girl so I thought if we were going to have a girl we could get everything ready for her. Than found out it was another boy, we didn't really have to buy too much new stuff. To me, the whole surprise aspect of pregnancy is overrated LOL. Be prepared and find out what you're having, is my opinion.
Jennifer - posted on 02/25/2010
My husband and I chose to find out at my 20 week scan =] We were both sure it would be a boy and it was =] We'd been trying for 18 months before I fell pregnant and was due to start fertility treatment the week after!!! However, finding out the sex was ruined by them finding echogenic bowel which is a big marker for certain gentic diseases such as down's syndrome, Patau's Syndrome, Edward's syndrome and cystic fybrosis. I had an amniocentesis and the test was negative. Either way I still would have continued the pregnancy =] We were told that echogenic bowel is found on only 1% (very rare) of ultrasounds and of that 1%, 1% are born with a gentic disease. Anyhow our son's 3 months old on Saturday and he's the best =]
Andria - posted on 02/25/2010
I found out with both my babies. I was so excited when I found out I was pregnan with my first. My hubby and I had been trying for a year. Then when we decided to give up for a bit, we got pregnant. So being so happy I couldnt wait to go shopping. I couldnt wait to buy clothes the baby furniture alll the fun stuff. Well I couldnt but anything until five months because I didnt know what I was having. So we found out. I also couldnt go that long not knowing. We just had to know...
Jess - posted on 02/25/2010
We found out at our 20 week scan. I was desperate to know. From the very begining I 100% sure we were having a girl, and I just needed it confirmed. It was a girl so I was over the moon ! It made buying everything really easy especially for first time parents.
I'm in 2 minds about finding out with any future pregnancies. If its another girl, great I have all the stuff.... but if its a boy than I will need time to go out and buy blue stuff. If I had one of each and then went for a 3rd I definatly wouldn't find out because I would have everything and a suprise would be nice !
Karen - posted on 02/25/2010
we went for a 3 d ultrasound at 26 weeks to find out...i'm not good at suprises and i wanted to know so that i could prepare and really make his room his- not just a neutral room for boy or girl. i also liked that we were able to start using his name when we talked about him (we had names picked early) and i didn't have to keep saying "the baby" all the time. just made me feel more connected to him before he even came. i will definately be finding out if we happen to be blessed with another in the future
Leanne - posted on 02/25/2010
My husband and I really wanted to find out, Im glad I did now as well because I thought I was having a boy and turned out to be a little girl. We also didnt have alot of room so wanted to be able to prepare alot better than just have neutral colours.
Sheree - posted on 02/24/2010
We didnt find out as I wanted a suprise at the end. Both and husband and I are so glad we didnt find out, it was so special when my husband delivered out daughter and said its a girl. We have decided with the next we wont find out either, unless its twins, then i want to be able to prepare :)
Megan - posted on 02/24/2010
We more just found out to confirm what we already expected. Everyone on my husbands side of the family has girls and we looked up all of the "wives tales" about how to tell what the sex of your baby is. Every tale about having a girl was true for us so we just assumed that it would be a girl. And sure enough the ultrasound showed that it was a girl!
Angela - posted on 02/24/2010
We decided not to find out and it was such a fun experience. We would take guesses on which it was and really enjoyed the suspense. In the delivery room it was neat not knowing until she was born. Her Dad called it (that she was a girl) and it was such a fun surprise.
It is totally worth the wait! Don't find out!
Jade - posted on 02/24/2010
We had to find out...my partners family live over seas and they wanted to send stuff over to us...BUT they told us we were having a boy...and i pushed out a GIRL!!! Luckly i had another scan at 25 weeks and they told me that he is actually a she so i went and exchanged over $300 worth of boy clothes and changed them for girls...and can i just add that when i did this i came back with less clothes...i think girls clothes are more expensive!!! We were happy either way...
Stephanie - posted on 02/24/2010
I didnt know what i was having with my first two pregnancys but did find out with the third. I was glad i found out,i have two girls and had a little boy,i thought i was having another girl and had my girl name picked and all my pink baby clothes washed. I found out at thirty four wks i was having a boy and was glad because i could prepare myself for a son rather than a daughter. It was really nice to be able to buy blue rather than white and to be able to pack all my pinks away! I wouldnt have cared what the sex of my baby was but it was an added bonus that i found out. I was able to call him by his name before he was born,that was nice. I would have liked to have been able to do that with my girls.
Kim - posted on 02/24/2010
Yeah, we looked when he came out. :)
Jessica - posted on 02/24/2010
I did find out with both of mine. I wanted to be surprised but caved in both times at the ultrasound. It's too tempting and I don't seem to have any will power!
Lisamarie - posted on 02/24/2010
I found out with both mine 2! I was too excited to wait and i also thought it was a good way for my husband to get involved, once we knew what we were having he could buy little outfits that you know you're more than likely not going to be taking back to the store!
People will have different opinions and it depends on how bad you want to know! :)