Do you let your baby sleep with you?

Ashley - posted on 08/09/2010 ( 214 moms have responded )

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My boyfriend leaves kinda early for work, and when he does, he wakes my daughter up(almost 3 moths old) and when he leaves I bring her in bed with me and snuggle with her and go back to bed. Is this ok? My boyfriend dosent like how I do it, he's worried that Im going to roll over on her or something. I know I wont because every little move or sound she makes I wake up. He's also worried that she's going to get into the habit of wanting to sleep in our bed. But i don't think I should worry if I only do it in the morning, should I?

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Tania - posted on 08/21/2010

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I would love to tell you where all this crap about rolling onto your baby comes from!

When people were really poverty stricken......many years ago in England.....parents deliberately suffocated their children to save money. the government created a law to make co sleeping illegal.....and people were arrested if caught! Now days...this crap has been translated into........co sleeping causes problems with parents rolling onto their babies.

This is garbage! Just as your body and mind work together to stop you rolling out of bed onto the floor.....the same applies to your baby! You will NEVER roll on top of your baby! I have slept with my daughter for the 1st year of her life. She's 14 months old now...and co sleeps whenever she is teething, sick or having a nightmare. There is nothing wrong with co sleeping. In fact.....in every country other than the stupid westernised world, does this. African women are well known for co sleeping to protect their children from predators. Its the natural order of things!

Enjoy your time together....get lots of sleep....and just wait until you see all the wonderful things your baby does in their sleep.......all which you would have missed if they were in a cot.



Also....co-sleeping has been proven to decrease the risk of SIDS...as co sleeping babies spend less time in a deep sleep...that often causes SIDS babies to stop breathing. So there you have it! That's what I know! I hope it helps. If in doubt...check out co sleeping facts on google. heaps of info to support what I just told you! Take care

Charlotte - posted on 08/21/2010

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Hi! I have 3 kids aged 4.5, 2.5 and 5 months. When my first was born i was worried about rolling on him, but after 2 sleepless nights, fell asleep with him at the breast in my bed. we both slept thru the night, and he stayed in for 1yr.There is absolutely no way I wd roll on him! I gave my husband the option of sharing the bed or moving into the guest room (since he was def not going to get up at night!!) he chose to stay, so we got a king sized bed which we pushed against the wall and I sleep in the middle. We also got a cot that is level with the bed, with a movable side, so at a yr he was moved into that. at 2 he got his own room, and he was so excited, he didnt even say goodnight! and never looked back. my second baby was in with us for 1yr, then i moved her into her brothers bed with him ( he had our old double bed). i told him that if she woke up, to cuddle her and tell her to go back to sleep, which he did and that was that!

my 3rd baby is now 5 months old and has slept with us since he was born. he is probably my last, and i know that snuggling with him like a little puppy against my tummy at night will be the thing i miss most about having a baby.

no other mammal on the planet would abandon there babies at night, this would be certain death, and that is how the baby feels!!

APRIL - posted on 08/21/2010

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I did sleep with my son in my bed until he was 3 and a half months old but then I realized I wanted him in the bed with me all the time sleeping and I decided it wasn't a good idea! My brother and sister in law did it with my niece she is now 2 years old and still wants to sleep in the bed with them. So now my son sleeps in his own crib!~

Janelle - posted on 08/20/2010

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I do the exact same thing, my son usually wakes up when my boyfriend leaves for work in the morning. So i just lay him next to me and we both fall asleep. True they are only little babies for a short time, as long as she doesnt asscoiate bedtime with sleeping in your bed its fine. :)

Erin - posted on 08/20/2010

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I let my son sleep with me for the first 10 months, until we moved to our new house and we had more room in our own rooms. I mostly did it because he had some medical problems at first that required a lot attention and I had to get up so often. It helped us both bond and we are well adjusted together. I think it is an individual thing. You can definitely discuss it with your pediatrician, but I think it's fine. It took a few weeks to get my son to sleep in his crib, but that's how we both prefere it now :)

Marie - posted on 08/20/2010

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I personally am terrified to sleep with my son in the bed, I won't even consider it because I am scared that I will either roll over onto him or that he will roll off the bed. My mother slept with my brother in the bed for a long time, he was collicky, and she said that she never had an issue with it. I think that if you are careful and feel comfortable enough to have her in the bed with you then you should go ahead and do it, but make sure when she is old enough to understand things better she knows that sleeping with Mommy is a privlege and not the standard.

Kristin - posted on 08/20/2010

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I have a 4.5 yr old son & a 17mo old daughter. We all 3 sleep in the same bed & I love it. They are very snuggly & I KNOW my children are protected from pedophiles or anyone else trying to steal children at night and if they got sick I would know immediately. It all started w/ my son when he was born b/c I had a c-section (as with my daughter) and my husband did absolutely NOTHING to help me at night. He is a zombie once he falls asleep, so no matter how loud my son cried - he would sleep right through it. That was VERY unfair & I am still bitter over it, but it was just easier to roll over & nurse him back to sleep. Same with my daughter. They are little only for so long & co-sleeping is NOT going to cause any permanent "mental" damage to a child. So they feel more protected at night - sleeping with your child is NO big deal! I do it b/c I love them & I want to cherish all these special moments for as long as I can b/c they grow up so fast! Pretty soon my son is going to want his own bed & I will gladly move out of his room, but for the meantime - we all really enjoy each other's company. Plus, I wake up if a pin drops - so I never worried about rolling over on either of them. I wake up every time one of them flinches - so that was never a concern of mine. All people are different. I find it's the uptight know it alls who think everyone should only do things their way. Go with your gut, whatever makes YOU feel happy. No one else is there doing all the work you do for your child, so no one else should give you a hard time or TELL you how to do it. :-)

Kristin - posted on 08/20/2010

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I have a 4.5 yr old son & a 17mo old daughter. We all 3 sleep in the same bed & I love it. They are very snuggly & I KNOW my children are protected from pedophiles or anyone else trying to steal children at night and if they got sick I would know immediately. It all started w/ my son when he was born b/c I had a c-section (as with my daughter) and my husband did absolutely NOTHING to help me at night. He is a zombie once he falls asleep, so no matter how loud my son cried - he would sleep right through it. That was VERY unfair & I am still bitter over it, but it was just easier to roll over & nurse him back to sleep. Same with my daughter. They are little only for so long & co-sleeping is NOT going to cause any permanent "mental" damage to a child. So they feel more protected at night - sleeping with your child is NO big deal! I do it b/c I love them & I want to cherish all these special moments for as long as I can b/c they grow up so fast! Pretty soon my son is going to want his own bed & I will gladly move out of his room, but for the meantime - we all really enjoy each other's company. Plus, I wake up if a pin drops - so I never worried about rolling over on either of them. I wake up every time one of them flinches - so that was never a concern of mine. All people are different. I find it's the uptight know it alls who think everyone should only do things their way. Go with your gut, whatever makes YOU feel happy. No one else is there doing all the work you do for your child, so no one else should give you a hard time or TELL you how to do it. :-)

Abigail - posted on 08/20/2010

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i used to do the exact same thing with my son, he is now 9 months old and sleeps fine in his own bed in his own room all night long, i dont think it will get her used to sleeping with in your bed but then every baby is different.
as for the rolling over i always put a pillow or made sure there was space in between us altough i would usually end up having my arm cradle his body round the bottom of his feet, not onto of him, i woke to every movement etc aswell so i dont see the problem with it,
if you feel comfortable with is go for it

Emily - posted on 08/20/2010

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I brought my baby into my bed at 5:30am when my hubby went to work a few times a week when she was that little. I LOVED IT! She does not sleep with us, but I will cherish those moments. She would rather sleep by herself because she rolls all over the place and practically lays on me or with her head against mine. :) I used to also nap with her. With the more mobile she became I felt it was a safety issue for her to sleep with me and now she naps alone...boo hoo... Cherish these months and the bonding. If you are a very heavy sleeper or individual...then be more cautious.

Leah - posted on 08/20/2010

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My son has been co-sleeping with my husband and I since he was 2 weeks old. I tried the doctrs way but with nursing I was not getting any sleep. It took almost an hour to feed him and he used to eat every two hours. so I started sleeping with him. it made feeding him through the night much easier. He is a year old and still co-sleeping. Many breastfeeding moms co-sleep. It is a natural part of attchment parenting. Read up on it by Dr. Sears. Also many of my elders parents inlaws etc. feel he should be in a crib but it works for us so we are doing it. You have to find what works for yopur situation and not care what anyone else thinks. They will not be in your bed forever.

Nichole - posted on 08/20/2010

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All 4 of mine went to bed in the crib but usually ended up in our bed at some point during the night while I was nursing them. It was way easier to slap 'em on and go back to sleep. At some point if I woke up again I would just carry them back to the crib. By the time they are older, they are old enough to understand that they have to sleep in their own beds.

Bea - posted on 08/20/2010

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That's how we started. Now our little girl is 16months old and sleeps with us all night every night. She is too long for her crib and she won't stay in her twin bed alone now. I miss my hubby!! I would say stop it while you still can.

Jenni - posted on 08/20/2010

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My daughter has slept with me since she was 5 mo - I was so tired I just couldn't cope with being woken every 2 hours or less - its worked wonderfully for both of us. She gets a good nights sleep and so do I! She is now 23 months and yes, she still sleeps with us and she's never been in any danger, I even wake up when I feel she's not breathing deeply. If you think about it, some people can't afford cots and co sleep for this reason and their babies survive. Also, the midwife in the hospital actually put my daughter into bed with me after my 6th night of being woken repeatedly as she just did not want to be away from me. If you're not drinking / taking drugs or have sleep problems then I can't see what the problem is with it...

Dena - posted on 08/20/2010

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I have four children ranging from ten years to six months and I have had all of them co sleep with me.. For me this is a great and they stay in the bed until they are ready to leave. I have read a lot of myths being perpetuated here.

Co sleeping with your child does not mean they will be there for life. Mine all wanted to sleep on thier own around the age of three. If you need them to leave earlier, I saw one posting that suggested you remove the child once they are asleep.. This works too.

I encourage you to do some research. The number show that co sleeping reduces the risk of SIDS by great numbers. Unless you have some sleeping problems that cause you unable to wake then you risk hurting your baby. The number of infants killed by a sleeping parent are again more a myth than a fact. This information can be found on line as well.

We are one of the only countries in the world who push our children away from us as infants. Via, cribs, strollers, car seats.... I am all for anything that allows them to remain as close to me as possible.

Good luck, you are mom and mom knows best. Go with what your heart, mind and gut tell you and it will be right for you and your baby..

Natalie - posted on 08/20/2010

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I put my little man in the bed with me and have since he was an infant... its all up to you though i mean i also wake at every little noise or movement... and he will sleep anywhere i put him without issue... he sleeps in his cradle most of the time but sometimes he and i snuggle all night i don't think it develops bad habits not at this age... and my little man is 5 months... as long as you are keeping her on her back and paying attention you should be fine

Corinne - posted on 08/20/2010

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If youre comfortable with letting your child sleep with you then go for it
It is dangerous but if youre careful then i dont see the problem
if your SO has a problem with the fact that you bring her back to bed because hes woken her up
tell him to be more quiet in the morning and you wont have to.
Good luck

Jen - posted on 08/20/2010

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My opinion is "to each their own". My husband insisted on our son sleeping with us when he was about 6 months old. My husband was away from him for most of the day, missed him horribly all day, and wanted the closeness while sleeping - knowing at any moment he could reach over for a good snuggle. I was exhausted and just wanted a good night's sleep, which was nearly impossible with our son in the bed. Once he was sleeping with us for a while, it has become a habit - a habit I enjoy tremendously now. He goes to sleep in his own bed now, and when he wakes in the middle of the night, he climbs into bed with us. I don't know how long it will last, but I plan to enjoy it while it does. I think that all parents will have their own instincts that guide them - at the end of the day, this is what you have to listen to. There is no handbook, and your intuition will guide you to listen to whichever side of the story most suits your style of parenting. I suggest you know the risks AND benefits of both sides, weigh them, and then decide which you feel most at home with - then you'll have made the right decision. I know parents who have sworn by both methods - insisting that the other is wrong. Their children, who are high school age now, have all grown into beautiful young people. Because their parents knew what they wanted for their children, they were able to keep with their style of parenting and raised them to be awesome kids. Trust yourself.

Briana - posted on 08/20/2010

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My baby is 16 months old and he has been sleeping in bed with us also.I struggled to get him to sleep in his own cot as it was to late, so I brought a toddler bed. I sit down in the loungeroom in front of the tv where he drifts off to sleep on my knee. I place him in his bed and then he wakes up half way through the night where I put him in with me. I agree that once you start it is near impossible to get them out of your bed.. Hope this helps.

Briana - posted on 08/20/2010

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Hi, I was always told not to let my baby sleep in bed with me. As he was my first child I just wanted to cuddle him and was putting him in bed with me as it meant I would get sleep. He is now 16 months old and he will only go to sleep whilst I am holding him and then I put him in his cot. He wakes up several times a night where he gets into bed with me. I am finding it so so hard to get him out of my bed. I say with my next I will definitely not be putting in my bed.

Katharine - posted on 08/20/2010

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My daughter just turned 11 months old and she still sleeps with me. I have been doing this since birth. I have had everyone and there brother tell me its wrong, but then again, I have read articles and research about the benefits of co-sleeping. Whatever works best for you and your baby is what is best. If it means you get an extra 30-40 minutes sleep, then it is benefial! Mothers instincts definately kick in, so don't worry about rolling over, you will wake up! You can never give a baby too much love, when you are ready to stop co-cleeping then just ween her back to the crib. Thats the tough part, but isn't the snuggle time worth it?? ENJOY!!

Michele - posted on 08/20/2010

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YES they both do I have twin girls most of the time only 1 sleep in the bed but there r times when both r in there their father works nights so when he gets home in the morning I usually ut them in their cribs but i love them sleeping with me and they r only young once BTW my twins r 16 months old and spoiled LOL

Joleen - posted on 08/20/2010

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i slept with my baby for the last sleep of the nite because when he would wake up every 2 hours and i just couldnt get up anymore... but i was freaking out when i had him next to me.. my partner didnt like me doing that so now my boy sleeps in his cot and i cant remember the last time he slept next to me.. i think its good to let them sleep in their own bed because it can become a habit later on and you will have to try to train them to sleep in their own bed.. my boy is almost 4 months and he is well trained to sleep when i put him in his bed!! it pays off in the long run...

Jana - posted on 08/20/2010

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My baby is almost 9months now and im not hesitant to admit he has slept in our bed since day01! Ive read so many people against co sleeping..it becomes a habit..then there's sids.. but honestly im a new mom and i just follow my instinct. My baby has become very affectionate, he has learned to put his arms around me even if they're short. I used to sleep through anything but has become sensitive to his movements, and it is easier to feed him before when he gets hungry. They grow so fast and i dont regret any second that he has slept with me, i know one day he will just ask for his own bed at his nursery but for now when i want alone time he has playpen right beside my bed and he sleeps there pretty good too. Hope this helps :P

Cassandra - posted on 08/19/2010

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yes its fine all my three kids have been sleeping with me my boyfriend he don,t mind about it i think there alot safety sleeping with there motheri got a three year old and he been in my bed with me from when he was a baby until 1 year old and i done it with my 2nd baby girl she sleep in a travle cot now because my 3 month old in bed with me the risks i've read about and heard from doctors and nurses that u not allowed to sleep with ur babys and infants there say that because there have been sum others what need to take stong pills and if there drink to much beer that u can,t because u don,t know what u r doing andbad things can happen but if ur fit and don,t drink or ur not on the strong pills then yes i thin its fine to sleep with them

Kellie - posted on 08/19/2010

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I am in the same boat. My daughter in 14 months old and sleeps in the bed with us. She started sleeping withus when i went back to work and Gianna was about 4 months old. I was so exhausted that I just took her in bed with us. At this point, she is a crazy sleeper and kicks me all night long so I get zero sleep! I want to get her in the crib but I think it is too late. Any suggestions? Should I just go straight to a toddler bed??

Nelly - posted on 08/19/2010

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I don't think it's a bad Idea sleeping with your baby in bed my son is almost three months and he slept with me in bed since he was a new born of course I was really careful with him and like they say babys are only little once :)

Kellie - posted on 08/19/2010

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my 2 month old has been in hes own cot since 1 month old , he self settles now but i did have a tough time in the first weeks to get him to sleep on hes own . The best thing i did to break the habbit was to buy a co sleeping bed it goes in side the cot witch makes it feel more cosy he seems too like this ,, and its a much safe option also the co - sleeper is designed to fit into your bed also .
Hopes this helps =]

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Oooo! I just wanted to add that my bub is now 17 months old and going strong. He is independent and adventurous, and loving and happy. He likes a cuddle and he likes to have his own time too. Co-sleeping does not make your bub a sooky or clingy child.
:-)

Ylana - posted on 08/19/2010

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You can't spoil a child in their first 3 months of life. They are getting used to the world and, in my opinion, it's more than okay to have your baby sleep with you. Of course, take the precautions necessary to keep the baby from getting squished or falling off the side. My son in 3 weeks, and he has slept in my bed with my boyfriend and I since day one. We keep him near the head of the bed, away from the crack between the mattress and the wall. Also, I make sure that I lay a "pee-pad" down so he doesn't saturate our sheets if that were to be a problem. I don't think you should worry at all. Especially since it's only after she wakes up. If you were having your daughter sleep with you every night, like I am doing with my son, than maybe you might want to consider cutting down the time in your bed.

Personally, I'm all for it. I love snuggle time.. The smell so darn good, why wouldn't you want them in there with you?

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I haven't read all of the other responses here, so hopefully my response is still in context and/or not repeating something which has already been written. Co-sleeping, like sleeping in a cot, has some risks, so there are guidelines you need to follow to protect your bub.
http://www.babycenter.com.au/baby/sleep/...
http://www.motherandchildhealth.com/Chil...
I've been co-sleeping with my bub since he was a few days old and it is such a precious time. He sleeps between me and a bed rail. He doesn't sleep between his father and myself because his father is a very heavy sleeper, where as I am a super light sleeper. Have a look at the safety guidelines, if you don't think you can maintain all of them, then it isn't worth the risk. But if you can co-sleep safely, go for it and enjoy it.

Deborah - posted on 08/18/2010

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No way! I have only let my son in bed with me once while he was sick and projectile vomiting. It is not good to get them in the habit of sleeping with you and getting used to being soothed by being next to you. I understand wanting to be close to them, cause I love my son unconditionally, but to have him share the one place left in the house that is "OUR" space is not gonna happen here. He has been sleeping in his crib from day one and I think that having them sleep with you will only open up a new can of worms. Our room is the one place my husband and I have to ourselves and I am not willing to give that up. I love my child, but he can have his own space, so we can have our own space. Besides, what do you do with your child when you want to be intimate with your spouse? Put them in their crib and let them scream so you can have some "quality time" together. No thanks, not for me.

Amber - posted on 08/18/2010

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My son sleeps with us every night. When he was a newborn snuggling with me was the only way he would sleep at night. He's now 10 months and sleeps part of the night with me. I've never had a concern about rolling on him. I quickly learned to sleep in positions where I'm comfortable having him near me. I guess if your boyfriend is so concerned about your daughter sleeping with you, he should learn to not disturb her when he's getting ready.

Melissa - posted on 08/18/2010

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yep, I have done it with all three of my kids. My son also sleeps in his own crib. No harm done. I believe it a great way to cuddle and get some sleep for both mom and baby.

Kristin - posted on 08/18/2010

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There is nothing wrong with bed-sharing if you follow the safety guidelines; no fluffly covers, pillows, no intoxicants prior to bed, etc.. Do a little research and educate yourself on this.

As for his concern about her wanting to sleep with you, she could have never slept at all with you and she will still come running if she doesn't feel well or is nervous about something. If he really doesn't want her in your bed, then he needs to stop waking her up.

Good luck and do what works for you.

Lori - posted on 08/18/2010

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http://www.nd.edu/~jmckenn1/lab/



Our son has slept with us since birth and is now 16 months old. He still breastfeeds three or four times overnight. I attached this link so you can see that there is research supporting co-sleeping, and that it is a natural thing to do (and can be SAFE if you follow the guidelines listed there).

Cheers!

Jennifer - posted on 08/18/2010

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I've done the same with my 9m old. I don't let him sleep the entire night with me, but if he wakes up early on a day that I don't have to be up for work, I get him and lay him in the bed with me, and we go back to sleep for a little while. And occasionally I will lay down for a nap with him in my bed. I've done that since he was a newborn, and have not had an issue yet with him sleeping at night in his own bed.

Jenelle - posted on 08/18/2010

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I let my daughter sleep in our bed for a few months because it worked well at that time. We had no problems moving her into her crib when she started moving too much during the night. It was a very easy transition. If you actually read the research, Co-sleeping actually reduces the risk of sids and is still done in most areas of the world except the U.S. As long as it is done safely, it is good for mom and baby and perfectly natural. I believe it was actually harder on me when we moved her to her crib. I loved having her next to me.

Natasha - posted on 08/18/2010

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I agree with Karen, I was going to say that. It is THEM that are the issue usually. It's a biological instinctual thing that a woman won't roll on her baby and kill it. So that's why it's usually another issue that makes her do it, like a mental health issue, drugs, alcohol, excessive weight, etc.

Karen - posted on 08/18/2010

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I find it just funny that most comments here say that the real problem is that the husband/boyfriend or whatever you call him "fear" YOU rolling over on your baby...really its THEM we should be "fear" rolling over our babies as they don't have the same caring nature for our children. I think they are just jealous of this special time we share with our children- in my case, he actually admitted it!- so my little advice is do what makes you feel happy. It will all work out when you want to "wean" your baby from your bed but for now ENJOY for baby being a baby!!!

Molly - posted on 08/18/2010

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don´t worry atall. my daughter is now nearly two and she slept with us in bed after waking up for ages. My husband loves us all being togethere. The only important thing is to be careful that she still does sleep in her own bed. I made the mistake of letting her fall asleep in our bed and then bringing her to her bed. When she got older she started to wake up when I moved her and then I ahd a problem. But as far as squashing your baby. I don´t think you need to worry. I was the same. I noticed every tiny move and sound she made. I also understand wanting to be close to her and snuggeling up together. I loved being so close and warm. I don´t think it did our daughter any damage, and she loves being close and snuggeling down with us. Enjoy Moll :)

Marissa - posted on 08/18/2010

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I hate to be the mean one, but i did that with my son and now he thinks mommys bed is his and he only wants to sleep in my bed..

Natasha - posted on 08/18/2010

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I did that for the first 3-4 months and my baby is 6 mos old now and she transitioned to her crib from basinette fine at 3.5 months... now, she's always in her crib and shes fine. once in a blue moon i'll let her sleep with me, but less and less because she can roll now. it's fine to do it. i think once the baby can roll u need to stop just for safety reasons, but u wont' roll on your baby. its an instinctual thing that you won't roll on her, unless you are (sorry to be rude but) obese, on drowsying medications, or drugs, or alcohol.

Cassie - posted on 08/18/2010

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Our daughter has been in our bed since day one, and we planned it like that. She's 16 months old now and she can sleep with us until she decides she wants her own bed - which I sense is in the near future. Kids don't want to sleep with their parents forever. As long as you co-sleep safely and both parents enjoy it, there is no harm.

CHRISTINA - posted on 08/18/2010

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my son is now almost 3 years old and because we didnt put him in his own bed from the start, he still sleeps with us!!! now its not so cute!! our twins girls sleep in thier own crib together, we learned our leason the first time round!! we did want 3 kids sleeping with us!! but it was nice to have him there when he was little, now he kicks and rolls around, we have to start putting him in his own bed soon.....

Tammy - posted on 08/18/2010

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i dont think there is a problem with it as i did it with my 4 and they have always slept in there own beds from 12 months and i am letting my 12 week old twins sleep with us now my partner didn't like it to start with but he don't care now don't worry every think will work as you need your sleep to a happy relax mum = a happy relax baby enjoy it while you can

Brooke - posted on 08/18/2010

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In many, many areas of the world and since the dawn of time, sleeping with your baby was the norm, not the exception. The advent of the crib, and putting your baby all alone down the hall in another room is a relatively new idea, compared to how long man has been around. It is proven that a mother will not roll over on her baby, mother and infants are incredibly in tuned...so much so, that studies have shown that the mother's and babie's breathing will get into sinc with each other when they fall asleep. The most important thing is safety...no comforters, no blankets, baby sleeps on back...there are MANY thing to learn about co-sleeping safety. Google "The Family Bed"...or here is a good link for information...
http://www.babycenter.com/0_sleep-sharin...

Tine - posted on 08/18/2010

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My daughter of 21 months has slept with me since birth, and continues to do so,all night. Co-sleeping is very protective and natural for babies- it is good for them and good for parents!
There is a lot of literature out there about safety, andas long as you follow a few simple guidelines it is at least as safe as separate sleeping - maybe safer. Mums usually instinctively respond to their babies and protect them even in sleep.
Great books to read (and to give to yourboyfriend to read!!) are 'Night time Parenting' by Dr Sears, and books by James McKenna.
Safe sleeping involves arranging your bed safely and never co-sleep if you or your partner smokes or you are influenced by alcohol or drugs. Pretty obvious,but check up on it,and ENJOY this precious time you share with your daughter! I never intended to co-sleep, but now I wouldn't do it any other way!
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Chrisitina - posted on 08/18/2010

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I slept with my son for the first 9-10 months. After sleeping on the recliner for the first month of his life due to him having reflux and that being the only comfortable position, my husband and I made the decision to try having our son in our bed. The worry about rolling over on you child is a valid worry, you need to make sure that there is plenty of room on the bed and that there are barriers so that she can't roll off. We have a bed rain on the side of the bed and he would sleep between me and the bed rail. You also need to make sure you are not on any medication that makes you drowsy or have had any alcohol/drugs. They also make bedside cribs that attach to the side of your bed so that it is an extension of your bed.
As far as the child never wanted to get out of your bed. We have been transitioning our son into a crib for about a month now and the only issue is sleeping through the night, however that is one of the reasons we started co sleeping anyway.

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I didn't want our baby in our bed, but he didn't leave us any choice! From day one he cried as soon as we put him in his own bed, so we moved him to our bed so we could all get some sleep. Considering he'd spent all his life so far inside my body, it's no wonder he wanted to sleep close to me! Co-sleeping also makes nighttime breastfeeding easier. I can just latch him on and go back to sleep.

He's now 8 months old and still sleeps with us. I love it! We've never even been close to rolling over him. I've read a lot about co-sleeping and I believe it's safe as long as the parents are healthy, sober and make sure the baby doesn't get too hot or get the cover over his head. Our son has a little blanket of his own so we don't have to take the risk of putting him under ours.

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