Do you sometimes wish that someone would take care of you?

Monica - posted on 09/15/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )

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I have found that being a wife and a mother has taken a toll on me physically, emotionally and spiritually. I didn't realize how much I put everything else before my needs, which is easy to do when you love your children and husband so much. My husband said something that made me think last night. He asked me why did I feel like I had to do everything? He pointed out that he is very capable of doing more as long as I don't criticize how he does it. I didn't have a response to that but, I thought about it all night and today. I think I do need to take more time out for myself, even if it's just to go on a 15 minute walk around the neighborhood.

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Monica - posted on 09/17/2009

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Quoting Robin:



Quoting Monica:




Quoting Jennifer:

I hear ya. I'm a stay at home mom. I clean, cook, and take care of our Son. And when dad comes home, i always want him to take some of that off my hands. but when its not done my way, or the way i like it done, i get mad. And i criticze him. I ALWAYS feel like i need to do everything around the house. Even though my hubby is willing to do it, too. but to me he does a half as job to do it. I just have to many exspectations for my self and the things i need to get done. When he does it, he doenst meet those.. Your not alone. Just try to relax some more. And take one day at a time!








Jennifer,








I have SO much respect for stay-at-home moms.  I've always worked before and staying at home now has been harder than my WORST day at work.  My job is NEVER done.  I find myself feeling guilty for asking my husband to watch the baby when he gets home from work but, I need a break too.  Thank you for the encouragement.










you know my hubby isn't perfect, and deffinitely does some things that are not nice, BUT, a lot of times he says YOU REALLY NEED TO GET OUT OF THE HOUSE, he offers to watch our son, so I can take off to go do something, partly because I am driving  him nuts being there all the time, but also because he worrys about my own sanity.






My problem is that I dont ever feel like going anywhere, of course Im 10 wks preggo and my son is 9 mo old, but all I want to do is have him watch him so I CAN SLEEP! I feel so tired all the time, but if im home he wont take care of him! GRRR! hubby says, your not that far along and you are young you shouldnt be tired, I said if you only knew, ITS NORMAL part of the begginning stages of pregnancy, and I told him that he is lucky that is the ONLY symptom I have, it was the same with our son, I dont get morning sickness, IM JUST TIRED ALL THE TIME, I feel like IM sleep walking every where and that I can hardly move to take care of our son.






 I hope it gets better for you soon.  I remember how exhausted I was during my last pregnancy and the sad thing is it lasted throughout my entire pregnancy!  Good luck with your baby.

Robin - posted on 09/16/2009

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Quoting Monica:



Quoting Jennifer:

I hear ya. I'm a stay at home mom. I clean, cook, and take care of our Son. And when dad comes home, i always want him to take some of that off my hands. but when its not done my way, or the way i like it done, i get mad. And i criticze him. I ALWAYS feel like i need to do everything around the house. Even though my hubby is willing to do it, too. but to me he does a half as job to do it. I just have to many exspectations for my self and the things i need to get done. When he does it, he doenst meet those.. Your not alone. Just try to relax some more. And take one day at a time!






Jennifer,






I have SO much respect for stay-at-home moms.  I've always worked before and staying at home now has been harder than my WORST day at work.  My job is NEVER done.  I find myself feeling guilty for asking my husband to watch the baby when he gets home from work but, I need a break too.  Thank you for the encouragement.






you know my hubby isn't perfect, and deffinitely does some things that are not nice, BUT, a lot of times he says YOU REALLY NEED TO GET OUT OF THE HOUSE, he offers to watch our son, so I can take off to go do something, partly because I am driving  him nuts being there all the time, but also because he worrys about my own sanity.



My problem is that I dont ever feel like going anywhere, of course Im 10 wks preggo and my son is 9 mo old, but all I want to do is have him watch him so I CAN SLEEP! I feel so tired all the time, but if im home he wont take care of him! GRRR! hubby says, your not that far along and you are young you shouldnt be tired, I said if you only knew, ITS NORMAL part of the begginning stages of pregnancy, and I told him that he is lucky that is the ONLY symptom I have, it was the same with our son, I dont get morning sickness, IM JUST TIRED ALL THE TIME, I feel like IM sleep walking every where and that I can hardly move to take care of our son.

Monica - posted on 09/16/2009

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Quoting Jennifer:

I hear ya. I'm a stay at home mom. I clean, cook, and take care of our Son. And when dad comes home, i always want him to take some of that off my hands. but when its not done my way, or the way i like it done, i get mad. And i criticze him. I ALWAYS feel like i need to do everything around the house. Even though my hubby is willing to do it, too. but to me he does a half as job to do it. I just have to many exspectations for my self and the things i need to get done. When he does it, he doenst meet those.. Your not alone. Just try to relax some more. And take one day at a time!



Jennifer,



I have SO much respect for stay-at-home moms.  I've always worked before and staying at home now has been harder than my WORST day at work.  My job is NEVER done.  I find myself feeling guilty for asking my husband to watch the baby when he gets home from work but, I need a break too.  Thank you for the encouragement.

Monica - posted on 09/16/2009

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Quoting Iysha:

I felt like that today. My boyfriend and I went to his court hearing about a 3 hour drive from where we live and I made all the arrangements on who was going to watch our baby and got the directions for him, and took care of the baby until it was time to leave her with my mom. I hadn't been sleeping all that well because of some things that I am going through medically and to top it off, I'm on a never ending period becaus of my birthcontrol, I'm cramping, and when we get in the car my boyfriend complains that he is sooo tired. When his hearing was over, he wanted me to drive back so HE could sleep. So we get home and he is all nice and rested, and I tried to take a nap and I couldn't. He was playing loudly with the baby, he insisted that I should go upstairs to get the cell phone charger, he wouldn't stop asking me questions, he woke me up because the baby was hungry, and to top it off, when I call him on it and tell him to leave me alone, he says I'm acting crazy. What the hell? I'm just tired. So, now he is off with his friends, and I am here, at home....watching baby...still tired... and very irritated.

It's like he doesn't understand all that I have going on right now. I am the one that is supposed to be paying bills, taking care of our baby, making sure he has all his stuff in order, and my stuff too. I have a lot going on emotionally and physically and I need a break. I need to leave him with baby and go to a spa or something.


 



Iysha,



I feel for you.  I can imagine what you are going through although my husband isn't that demanding.  I think that overall......we, as women, mothers, wives....need to be more demanding of our need to take care of ourselves.  I remember my father used to say all the time, "if your mother's not happy, no one is happy."  And he really did everything he could to keep her happy by doing things around the house, taking me and my sisters somewhere so my mother could have time to herself. 



I think part of my problem is, I won't LET myself take a break.  I try to be Super Woman and do everything, which works for a while, then I find myself becoming cranky, irritable, tired and disconnected from my husband and my children.  I need to learn not to flip out when the house isn't clean.  It isn't the end of the world.  And who cares if one night, we have dinner from McDonald's instead of me cooking dinner. 



I do need a spa day though. :-)

Iysha - posted on 09/15/2009

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I felt like that today. My boyfriend and I went to his court hearing about a 3 hour drive from where we live and I made all the arrangements on who was going to watch our baby and got the directions for him, and took care of the baby until it was time to leave her with my mom. I hadn't been sleeping all that well because of some things that I am going through medically and to top it off, I'm on a never ending period becaus of my birthcontrol, I'm cramping, and when we get in the car my boyfriend complains that he is sooo tired. When his hearing was over, he wanted me to drive back so HE could sleep. So we get home and he is all nice and rested, and I tried to take a nap and I couldn't. He was playing loudly with the baby, he insisted that I should go upstairs to get the cell phone charger, he wouldn't stop asking me questions, he woke me up because the baby was hungry, and to top it off, when I call him on it and tell him to leave me alone, he says I'm acting crazy. What the hell? I'm just tired. So, now he is off with his friends, and I am here, at home....watching baby...still tired... and very irritated.



It's like he doesn't understand all that I have going on right now. I am the one that is supposed to be paying bills, taking care of our baby, making sure he has all his stuff in order, and my stuff too. I have a lot going on emotionally and physically and I need a break. I need to leave him with baby and go to a spa or something.

Jamea - posted on 09/15/2009

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I JUST HAD MY BREA A MONTH AGO AND THAT IS HOW I FEEL. I FIND MYSELF EXHAUSTED FROM TAKIN CARE OF BREA, NO SLEEP, CLEANING, AND TRYING TO SATISFY MY FIANCE, AND KEEP MY SANITY!!! IMPOSSIBLE (THUS FAR). I CAN NOT IMAGINE HOW I AM GOING TO BE ONCE I GO BACK TO WORK..... I NEED SOME ME TIME!!!!!

Jennifer - posted on 09/15/2009

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I hear ya. I'm a stay at home mom. I clean, cook, and take care of our Son. And when dad comes home, i always want him to take some of that off my hands. but when its not done my way, or the way i like it done, i get mad. And i criticze him. I ALWAYS feel like i need to do everything around the house. Even though my hubby is willing to do it, too. but to me he does a half as job to do it. I just have to many exspectations for my self and the things i need to get done. When he does it, he doenst meet those.. Your not alone. Just try to relax some more. And take one day at a time!

Janine - posted on 09/15/2009

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i understand exactly how you feel i juggle 5 children and all the housework as well as a load of animals

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