Do you think it's too early for another child?

Mischa - posted on 09/11/2012

I miss being pregnant too! and! my child is 6 mos! LOL! tell me, do you feel a little jealous of women who have 2+ children? I do, not a hater kind of jealousy, but they had an opportunity, and where and when is yours too? I wish I would have enjoyed my pregnancy more.

Bernadette - posted on 10/16/2009

Of course it's hard but its harder going from 2 to 3 then 1 to 2, its also a little harder because they are close in age, but when they get older it is easier because they entertain themselves, If it was me I would wait a little, I have a 4 year old and 4 month old, I have found that I have much less time for the 4 year old but I think because she is older it is good for her as she is having her own thoughts now and her own ways of doing things etc

Denise - posted on 10/16/2009

i say go for it, your probably having some doubts as there are so many strong opinionated people out there. for years people have had kids close together and lived a long healthy life, i know this as im a carer and i here some wonderful stories, one lady had 8 children year after year and she survived haha. my son is 7 months and were trying again in new year. As for a jelous child, they are only jelous if u let them get that way, be firm right from the beginning and get the 1st involoved as soon as possible, weather it be holding the newborns hands whilst having a bottle whilst sitting next to u. kids loved to be involved. Good luck what ever u decide.

Victoria - posted on 10/08/2009

Hey, I say go for it if you feel ready. I have a 7 month old son and ever since I gave birth I've been desperate for another. I really miss being pregnant..I loved all the kicks!. Me and hubby would have had another by now if it wasn't for the fact that we currently live with my parents. We're planning on starting trying after our sons 1st birthday! That way I wont be tired or hormonal for his first party. =) plus by then we will have our own home. I think if you are coping and know you will be able to give another child a loving stable home then you should just go for it. Dont worry about other people, just live your life your own way. I'm only 18 and I get so many looks for having a baby, I just think they need to grow up. My son is loved and looked after, if they want to look then let them, I'm proud to be his mummy.

Natalie - posted on 10/08/2009

i also missed being pregnant but i then got ued to the fact of avin my son by my side and i enjoyed the life i had with him but wen he was 6-7 months cant really remember as hes a yr now i fell pregnant again and i know it all b hard to start off wid but then u get used to it. my son wil b coming up 16 months wen i have my second but its like getting on a bike n getting told to ride it ur gonna find it hard to start off wid but after a few times ur gonna find it an easy ride

Rebekah - posted on 10/07/2009

I don't think it's too close. Just check with your doctor for their recommendation.

Kelly - posted on 10/07/2009

My children are exactly 18 months apart. I have 2 very good kids!! It took me 2 1/2 years to get pregnant with the first (a boy). I never could have imagined that I would have become pregnant again when my son was 9 months old. I was thrilled, and surprised beyond belief! I too worried about what my mom would think, as I was her only child. I did not worry about my husbands family as he is one of eleven, and has siblings that are 11 months apart. I worried about how I was going to be able to handle the two of them...going to the grocery store, dividing my attention etc... I do have enough love for both of my children, no the second baby does not get as much one on one attention as the first did, as now there are two! But we make it work. My husband is a huge help - a regular Mr. Mom! I work 3 - 12 hour shifts a week, and my husband works about 50 hours per week. Both grandparents baby sit each one day per week, which saves us from having to pay for daycare. I love having them this close in age, my son is very good with his sister! He talks to her so sweetly, tries to give her the pacifier, and I have even seen him feeding her the bottle!
I say go for it if that is what you want! I wouldn't change for the world!! Best of luck to you!

Christinia - posted on 10/06/2009

I've been told its easier when both babies are in Diapers..Some moms would disagree while others would agree. I'm a first time mom and my son is 9 months old...Hubby and I had talked about having another one our self but for me I had to wait 18 months because of a c-section. We're planning on another one eventually so I say go for it. I agree I think the closer they are in age the better they will get along and be closer...Wish you the best of luck!

Vanessa - posted on 10/06/2009

OH my goodness for me it has been the definition of hard! I have 2 girls 12mnths apart thats closer but still! They fight all the time and they share a room so when 1 is gone the other is physically sick from missing her sister! It has become so ridiculous. They are 5 and 6 now and finally go to dif schools because of the time of year they were born but i think it has made it worse, like a major sibling rivalry. i worry every day if it will ever end or if they will go to high school hating each other. Praying that they can become the best of friends

Tania - posted on 10/06/2009

I think good on you! I have an 8 month old and we are considering another also, It will be good to get them out of the way while we are still in the nappy mode. You may not fall pregnant straight away...All the best with your decision, at the end of the day it is up to you and your partner what you decide. Good Luck :)

Robin - posted on 10/06/2009

I will tell you Im preggo with a suprise second baby and they will be 15 1/2 mo apart, and although it is great when they get older I have been thinking about all the challenges that come when they are still very little, like trying to go to drs appointments with a little one that is running all over (hubby works so cant help) and a new born that needs constant attention and going to the grocery store, do I put one in the big part of the cart and the other in the car seat? what about getting the groceries home, two babies through 3 doors and a flight of stairs? nap times? feeding? and trying to get house hold chores done while trying to get in a little sleep yourself! etc, I know it will all work out but now that it has happened I worry about EVERYTHING. But yes as they get older they will play together and keep each other occupied, etc

Lauren - posted on 10/06/2009

My sister and I are about that far apart and we are very close. I think it is nice that you and your partner are considering this and I do not feel it is too early as long as you both agree you are ready for it and it is what you want.

Natalie - posted on 10/06/2009

I am 11 + wks pregnant with baby #2 and my daughter is just about 8 mos old. We didn't plan it this way but are extremely excited to have both our kids so close in age. I think it'll be tough for the first year or so then it should be fine once they are both walking, etc. My mother did it with me and my sister & she said it was like raising twins. If you and your husband agree and both want a 2nd one now, go for it! But just know it will be tough!

Bec - posted on 10/05/2009

my husband and i have 15mths between our daughter and son. our daughter is the oldest and now they are 5 and 4. they get on real well and are the best of friends. they protect each other and do everything together. we are so glad that we had them so close as even all there friends include both of them. when they were little it was quite hard to start with as my daughter wasnt sleeping through the night yet. the two lots of nappies didnt worrie me and the extra washing etc didnt bother me either i would just wash a little each day. my son was real sick until this year and my husband was a night shift worker 6 days a week when they were little which i found the hardest as i had to do it all by myself. my adivce is if its what you both want go for it as it was the best thing for us. just make sure you have a great support network behind you to help out thats the one thing i wish i had. we now have a 2week old son as well and im finding that it is harder in a way as my son isnt at school yet and doesnt have a nap so i can never have a cat nap. at least when my 4yro son was a baby my daughter was still having a 2hr a.noon nap so i could have a nap then and refresh. good luck in your decision!!!!

Kristine - posted on 10/05/2009

I have two girls a year and 11 months apart and they are a handful, They fight over everything and about nothing. I would say that the younger years are going to be the hardest but girls fight over everything. I had a boy in April and the girls help out and are the sweetest things around him but if one is closer than the other there's a fight. So if you do have another baby hope that it's a boy and not a girl. And I have three kids under 3 yrs old. HAHA

Stacey - posted on 10/05/2009

i think you should do it! My kids are 17 months apart and i love it! sure it is hard at times but thats normal with any age gap! I read someone says as a sibling point of veiw it isn't nice. My sister and i are less then 2 years apart and we are like best friends! we have always been very close and it has been great! We have ouor own friends as well as each other and as we got older we also became friends with each others friends.

The only down side i found with having them so close is doubling everything, we had to buy new car seat, new cot, double pram, new port-a-cot so they both have things, if we waited longer the oldest would've been in a bed and a booster seat.

Penny - posted on 10/05/2009

if you think u can cope and want it that bad why not my additude is you might not fall reight away anyhow

Brittany - posted on 10/05/2009

My son is 9 weeks old and i too cant wait to have another one! I love being pregnant, labor, all of it. I think the whole experience was amazing. For me and my husband, were waiting untill we have some of our debt payed off and get into a house (we're in a appartment now). But age i dont think matters. My husband and i are onle 20 years old and if its what you want and your ready for it then go for it.

Maree - posted on 10/05/2009

my eldest is almost 10 months now and im 18 weeks pregnant so definitely not =) good luck to u

Leah - posted on 10/05/2009

whatever feels right for you! there is no right or wrong answer as long as medically your ok. i have a four month old and am ready to get prego again.

Antoinette - posted on 10/05/2009

a doctor told me that for the body it was best to wait two full years between delivery and conceving again although I didnt listen. my kids are exactly 2years apart. It is a hand full. They decide to throw fits and disagree at the same times with you.

Brittney - posted on 10/05/2009

hey i wnated another one right after the first one... i finally convinced the hubby when my daughter was 8 months old... it was very difficult at first because i felt guilty about having another baby and what if i could love my other baby as much blah blah blah... but he has been here for three months now and i wouldnt trade my life with these two for anything

Nompumelelo - posted on 10/05/2009

Wow I din't know other women felt like this as well. I felt so lonely after my baby girl was born I just wanted to get pregnant again, but i'm sooooo glad I didn't. Babies need time and attention and one young baby is hard work enough , two would be too much for me.

Autumn - posted on 10/05/2009

I have two boys who are 11 months and 16 days apart. It isn't bad having them that close together now. They are 21 months and 10 months. It was hard at first, especially getting used to having two small babies vs just one, but now it isn't so bad. Don't get me wrong, there are days that are harder than other but that comes with any age difference. My whole thinking on it, I was meant to have them this close together or I wouldn't have. I hope all works out well for you and wish you the best with your little girl.

Karen - posted on 10/04/2009

My daughter is 6 months and we plan on having one more.We have decided to wait until she is 18 months old.When asked if it was because one would be out of diapers and sleeping through the night I explained no, it is when I thought she would be old enough to understand "Sit right there until Mommy nurses the baby!" lol

Jennifer - posted on 10/04/2009

Yes, having two kids close together will probably be stressful, but I am sure that having multiple children of any age difference is stressful. Don't worry about what anyone else thinks. Someone is always going to have an opinion. You just have to do what feels right for your family. Good luck!

Christina - posted on 10/04/2009

My daughter is only 4 months old and i see how fast shes growing and its making me want another one too. lol My doctor told me its best to wait atleast a year or two because thats how long it takes your body to get all its vitamins that the baby took. I also think i might go crazy with 2 babies in diapers!lol but they are such amazing lil bundles of joy you just cant help but want more! Good Luck with your decision.

Cassondra - posted on 10/04/2009

i got prego with my daughter when my son was 11 months old. we wanted them to be close. it is nice bc they play. but sometimes it is kinda hard. like she is trying to teeth and he is going through terrible 2s. he also doesnt like to share sometimes. it is nice though bc he sticks up for her like crazy. if he doesnt know where she is he demands to know where. its great.

Traci - posted on 10/04/2009

I got pregnant with my son when my daughter was 2 months old. they are 11 months apart. It gets rough at times but they get along real well. I would rather have them close together. It really isnt that bad.

Emma - posted on 10/04/2009

my girls are 2 yrs apart and its great because my eldest is teaching my youngest everything.if ur ready go for it.it will be hard at times but it is your choice.i think havin them close is great because they will always be close and play well together. good luck!

Ashly - posted on 10/04/2009

i would recommend maybe waiting a bit, my girls are 13 months apart and its been hard. i do have very good babies but i dont think my body was ready for another baby. also i have been diagnosed with post partum depression which your chances of getting go up when you have your children close together, and i dont wish that upon everyone. it took a bit of time for my oldest daughter to adjust and she still has lots of jealous days.and everything seems a lot more difficult to do with two lil ones. but just make sure you are completely ready for another one

Michelle - posted on 10/04/2009

YES! not because of any other reason other than the fact of, your bodys health. Doctors say to wait 18-23 months before getting pregnant again. your body is still trying to recover from the first

Erin - posted on 10/04/2009

My kids are 4 and half years apart, I love it, my daughter helps me out with the baby when I need to do something.

Lisa - posted on 10/04/2009

OMG it's SO hard to have siblings that close in age!! the 1.5 year old is too young to understand a lot and gets very jealous.
my boys are 15 months apart, and when my younger boy was born the toddler bit him hard enough to make him bleed. He started biting me too. in very painful places. He would cry every time I nursed the baby.
they are now 7 and 8 and the 8 yr old hates playing with the 7 yr old.
I'd say at least two to two and a half years between children. That way you don't have two babies at the same time. instead you get a toddler and a baby and the older toddler then can feel like a big sister/brother and help with the baby.
my daughter is now two and will be two and a half when we have our fourth and she's already showing signs that she's going to be a great helper sister.
I held a baby last night at a baby shower and she just hopped all over smiling and wanting to touch the baby.
wait at least another 6 months--its not a long time and you will be able to enjoy each child at every stage that way.

Melissa - posted on 10/03/2009

if you're asking others' opinions about whether it's too early or not, it sounds like you are unsure. if you are unsure, then it probably isn't the best time.

i have 2 children. my daughter is 3 and my son is 1. it's definitely more of a handful. i don't really regret having them close at all, but there are times when i think about how much i would love to spend more quality time with my daughter (which is harder with a 1 yr old to look after, too). everyone's situation is different. i don't have a big support circle, so it isn't often that i can get a sitter for one while i am one-on-one with the other. so....her and i do special things while he naps:) it's our time, or, "just the girls!" as she calls it. LoL

Jasmine - posted on 10/03/2009

Im the same i miss being pregnant but my baby is only 5 weeks old! so it to early for me! but you i think you can do it if you have the money for a second! good luck!

Sarah - posted on 10/03/2009

My boys are 10 months apart (it was going to be a year but the little one decided to come 2 months early). But anyway it is a challenge, its harder to have time for yourself, but it does get easier as time goes on and they get older. It is great having them around the same age though because they will always have a friend to play with. However don't forget you will have 2 crying, 2 baths at night, twice the diaper changes, twice the feedings, so make sure you are really ready before you do it because you can't take a baby back!!

Olivia - posted on 10/03/2009

my daughter was 2.5 years old when i delivered my second and yes its hard but its awsome seeing them so cloose go for it if i was done wit school i would prob b opregnant wit my 3rd and my baby is 6 mos 2

Cassandra - posted on 10/03/2009

I would say wait! Look at the economy right now...do you really want two kids right now? I mean you don't know whether your going to loose a job or if your husband is.. I would give it a while every kid wants their own childhood. I came from a family where my parents had one right after another and were close now and wouldn't trade it for anything but when we were younger it was hell. We were always at each others throats, but the bottom line is its your decision and what ever it is don't let anyone and I mean ANYONE look down on you for it!!!

Nea - posted on 10/03/2009

i have a 3 yr old and a 9 month old. even with the age difference it can be stressful at times.its basically up to you and whether you are ready for another one

Brittany - posted on 10/03/2009

my two boys are 15 months apart. it was very hard when i got put on bed rest at 31 weeks pregnant...but after the baby came and we got over the couple weeks of jealousy...it is GREAT! i love having two babies. some days it is hard, but it was that way when we had just the one too! but seeing my oldest hug and kiss his baby brother when he is crying reassures me that it is a great situation!

Sarah - posted on 10/03/2009

As a mom I think there are challenges with an age spacing of children. But speaking from a sibling prospective it is not always fun being that close in age to your sibling. I am 18 months older than my sister. I am sure as we were younger we played together and had lots of fun. But I remember as we became older it was hard for the both of us. We were only a grade apart in school. So all the school functions we were both invited to. Her friends messed with my friends. I loved my sister (and still do) but there were times that I just wanted to have my own friends and go to my own school functions without someone "tagging" along. I have another sister that is 5 years younger than I am. We did not play together as much when we were little, but as we became older we became closer and closer. We enjoyed (and still do today) doing girl things together. So I would say there are positives and negitives. Some people that are close in age are close growing up, but sometimes close in age does not mean they will be close growing up.

Kelsey - posted on 10/03/2009

You's are all being so helpful, apart from one or two all iv heard is positives. I understand it would be hard at times, but arn't kids hard to cope with anyways? I want to go to uni and get a career and i think if i wanted 2-3 years it would muck everything up where right now, at the same age. They can go to school together while i work, not taking maternity leave or not being able to go to uni all over again

Kelly - posted on 10/02/2009

My son is 10 months old and we are trying for another....i wanted another right away but with my c-section they said that i should wait about a year...and my son will be one on the 14th of November and i don't have a regular cycle...so i think it will be after that before we get pregnant with another child...i think that if you are ready then you should have anothe....i wouldn't worry what others think because they don't know how you live your life.....do what will make you and your family happy....good luck....

Natasha - posted on 10/02/2009

I have a son who is almost 6 months too and i would also love to have another one already! I think it would be great having kids close together! My sister has 2 and they are 17 months apart. She says it was hard but also that it would never be any easier unless one of them was at school so she could give each child one on one attention. I don't think it really matters how long you wait it is really up to you and what you feel you can handle. I say go for it!! And really enjoy it! :)

Jaime - posted on 10/02/2009

My boys are 15 months apart, and while it was hard at the end of my pregnancy, we got through it, and my 18 month old loves his little brother, it was worth it for us to have them so close together!

Michelle - posted on 10/02/2009

I only have one little girl and that's all we're planning on having. But I have twin brother's who are 10 months younger then I am. My parents found it hard, but then there were three of us, not just two. I think if your ready, your ready! Only you and your man can figure this one out:o) Good luck with whatever you decide:o)

Timbrel - posted on 10/02/2009

TOO SOON!!!!

Natalie - posted on 10/02/2009

do what u think is right. my son is mths and i feel pregnant again (didnt know) so i am going to have 2 under 2 ha ha. my son turns 1 in feb 2010 and the new bundle of joy is due on the 6th march yes 13mths between them but hey at least i get the sleepless nights close together and before i know it they will both be sleeping all night..

Kelsey - posted on 10/02/2009

Thanks alot, you have been alot of help.