FALLS ASLEEP ON ME BUT WONT FALL ASLEEP HERSELF!

Lorraine - posted on 03/03/2011 ( 18 moms have responded )

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My daughter is 6 weeks old now and we have got our day routine all worked out but it's the evening time that has got me courious, she will be awake from about 7 - 11 or even 12pm. i feed her then she fall's asleep on me so i put her to bed then bing eyes wide awake, she wont go to sleep so i try to let her cry for a little, no that wont work then burp and all the things you can think of. Still wont go to sleep so more feed's and the same thing happens, so we go through the whole precess again. I'm just wondering is it normal for a 6 week old baby to stay awake for that long? i have even tried a dummy she wont take to it and am needing to find a solution as this is a big time frame that i need back to get things done and look after my jealous 3 1/2 year old son.

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Cori - posted on 03/06/2011

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try warmer her bed with a heating pad, the cold might be waking her up. when you lay her down take the heating pad out!

Aimee - posted on 03/04/2011

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i find wrapping her up tightly helps and bouncy chairs and swings help to. but if u want her to sleep in her bed, i find that puting my pillow case underneath her helps her sleep as it has my scent on her and she thinks im there. but when my bub was that young she was the same, the older they get the better they sleep and longer too :)

Rebekah - posted on 03/07/2011

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There is a fantastic book that I read when I was having a similar problem with my daughter. It's called "The Sleep Lady's Guide to Falling Asleep and Staying Asleep" I don't recall the author, but she was bang on about how to get my daughter to sleep. One thing I am wondering...do you take your daughter into a lit and awake room? Some times they just want to have a feeding and cuddle and will go right back. Do keep her swaddled and lights low if you need to have a light. Start by standing by her cot, then put her in with your arms still around her and then slowly take one then the other away, if she cries rub her tummy but only pick her up if she is truly distressed. Soon she will be going back to sleep like a pro and Big Brother will get some much needed attention. Bed time routines are very important and make your son part of it by helping pick a book out and helping with her nightly bath. It take some time for a little person to adjust to being out here in the world so give her some time.

Megan - posted on 03/07/2011

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My son is now 4 months old, and I have cuddled him to the max since the day he was born. I have been slowly adjusting both him and I to his crib. The same thing happens to me, he is sound asleep next to me, I move him to his crib and he wants to play. They are pretty tricky. I have swaddled him as well, and that has helped him sleep without me. I also bought a thing for his crib that has lights and lullabies, that seems to help too! Good luck, I feel your pain!

Elfrieda - posted on 03/03/2011

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It's sure possible, but I don't think it's healthy for a newborn baby to be awake that much. I calculated when my son was about 2 months old that he slept for about 9 hours out of every 24. It wasn't healthy for him at all. (or me!) Sometimes I wonder if now (at a year old) he sleeps more than normal just because his little body is trying to catch up. I don't have any suggestions other than what the other moms have already said, but it sure is important that she get her rest, so I hope something works out soon.

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Brittaney - posted on 03/07/2011

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My son slept with me for the first 5 weeks of his life because i couldn't figure out how to get him to sleep in his bed without waking up when i put him down. then i figured out if i swaddle him and put him down then he'd go right to sleep. he's 3 months now and has finally learned to put himself to sleep. hope that helps :)
o and if you can't figure out how to make that cute little baby burrito they do in the hospital, walmart sells swaddlers that work just as well

Elizabeth - posted on 03/07/2011

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Babies will sleep when they need to, so no worries about whether or not she's being harmed by staying awake. Also, she sleeps better on you because she spent 9 months in your womb, and it's comforting to feel you, your heartbeat, touch, etc. It's actually perfectly normal for a baby to sleep better with his/her mother...

Christie - posted on 03/07/2011

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As the Mother of a 4 week old and a 15 month old, I hear ya, but unfortunately at that age you are on their schedule. You can try the swing, I would NOT put her on her stomach, as another person recommended. What seems to work for me, about 2/3 of the time is walking around with my daughter with her tummy on my shoulder for about 10 minutes after she falls asleep there. If I wait until she is good and "out" then put her down, it usually works!

Not to pry, but is her father around, could he take baby time, so you can give your other child the attention that he needs from you. For me that is not an option as my husband travels 99% for work. Good Luck to you!

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Yes. My little girl would do a 3 am wake up and stay awake for what seemed like forever and just wanted to hang out with me. I'm with the other ladies, swaddle and a baby swing. One of the large ones that rocks front to back and side to side and has music and sounds and such. That was the saving grace for me. One day my husband saw I was at my wit's end and came home with one. He spent almost $200 which I was upset about, but it was so worth it. This time around since I had already gotten rid of my DD's we got one off of craigslist. You can get a practically new one for half the price.

Megan - posted on 03/04/2011

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my son is now a year old and when he was smaller i would fall asleep while i has breastfeeding him (i know i shouldnt have i got ut of the habit ) but when i woke up he was passed out .....so my point is try and if possible fall asleep with her im mean not breast feeding her or anything .. but just lay in your bed with her and just fall asleep and have dad take care of the other little blessing ...and if thats not possible have a friend over but try it it might help ....thing about a baby laying on you is that it conforts her because its the sounds she heard for 9 m she can hear your heart beat and your breathing all at once ..... you can also try that teaddy bear they got out now the mimiks the womb sounds ......please excuse my spelling it was my worst subjest in school

Megan - posted on 03/04/2011

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my son is now a year old and when he was smaller i would fall asleep while i has breastfeeding him (i know i shouldnt have i got ut of the habit ) but when i woke up he was passed out .....so my point is try and if possible fall asleep with her im mean not breast feeding her or anything .. but just lay in your bed with her and just fall asleep and have dad take care of the other little blessing ...and if thats not possible have a friend over but try it it might help ....thing about a baby laying on you is that it conforts her because its the sounds she heard for 9 m she can hear your heart beat and your breathing all at once ..... you can also try that teaddy bear they got out now the mimiks the womb sounds ......please excuse my spelling it was my worst subjest in school

Lorraine - posted on 03/04/2011

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thankyou i have started to swaddle her and i think it's working for her when she's asleep but i think it's the smell of my milk or me that might be the case, because she did go for a little sleep at night for my friend but she keep's fighting to stay awake. she is sleeping good through the night it's just between 7-12 pm that i'm trying to get her to sleep, so it's not bothering me because i'm getting sleep i thought it was a growing spurt but no.

Kristy - posted on 03/04/2011

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see if you can find a bear or a stuffed animal that has a heart beat in it that may be what she needs. Maybe not a stuffed animal in her crib because of her age but they have these heartbeat things you can buy either for a child or you can go to the home section of walmart and buy a sound machine that has a heart beat opn it and turn it on and see if that works.

Stifler's - posted on 03/04/2011

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It's normal if they're over tired and having a spackattack! But not good at all. I think they shouldn't be awake more than 1.5 - 2 hours at a time really at that age. Don't try to keep her awake then you know bed time at 7... I made that mistake and he didn't stop wailing until 10. I started just putting him down at 5, 530, 6 when he started getting cranky because I just didn't care anymore about trying to get into a normal bedtime and all this and he started sleeping like 10 hours in a row during the night.

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Its probably bc when she's on you, she's on her stomach, which is more comfortable for her, and when you put her down on her stomach, it causes her to wake up. I don't have an answer, except that personally, I put my baby to sleep swaddled and on his stomach, but propped up on his side, so he wasnt fully on his stomach, but on his side, it worked.
Good Luck

Dora - posted on 03/03/2011

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I heard a baby swing does wonders for many babies when they are that little. If you have a baby swing, buckle her in and hit the start button. Make sure it is on slow.

Shannon - posted on 03/03/2011

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is she swaddled? it helps a lot check out a video or book called the happiest baby on the block. mine would take a binki either, hes 7 mo now.

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