Good age difference...?

Sarh - posted on 09/25/2010

Oh, I can't even imagine. lol. I guess my 4 yr old isn't so bad, she just gets so horribly bored and then become a beast! haha. I have to just about constantly do something w/her other wise she gets into things and what not. I would definitely imagine working while having 2 little ones would be a lot easier, before I had my son, I used work as my break... what a break hey.
No, he sounds like a 2 yr old!
Thank you this also helped. Good luck to you as well.

Rebekah - posted on 09/25/2010

The routine actually came pretty easily... out of necessity. The overwhelming part came from just balancing two children all day. It seemed like there wasn't a moment to myself to just breath. The toddler needed a cup of milk... baby needed to be nursed... toddler needed a PB sandwich... baby needed to be rocked... toddler wanted to play cars... baby needed to be held... toddler wanted to read a book... baby needed a nap... then toddler needed a nap... As a stay-at-home mom it seemed like it just never quit and I wasn't even able to do the laundry, wash the dishes, cook, etc. without listening to someone (or both) cry for something. If you work I imagine it might be a tiny bit easier...



And going places in public was probably the most challenging. Most of our visits in public ended with all three of us crying on the way home... I remember one day I was holding my sleeping baby when my toddler let go of my hand and started running in a parking lot. I ended up grabbing him by the hair to stop him and then scooping him up under one arm. I had to hold two children at one time a lot b/c my toddler was not even old enough to climb into his car seat or even stand next to the car and wait for me to get his sister out of the car. Of course, some 2 year olds might be better at that. My daughter is now only 15 months, but she has a much calmer personality that I think would make things a little easier when/if we have #3.



Anyway, good luck with whatever you decide. It is an adventure, no matter what, and every age gap has its advantages and disadvantages.

Sarh - posted on 09/25/2010

Thank you Rebekah! My fear is the first few months, I'm hoping my next baby will be on a routine like my 2 that I have now, both started sleeping through the night at about a month old! :) Taking a 1 or 2 yr old for the weekend sounds like a great idea. I know what you mean about needing you for everything. The nice thing w/my daughter being 4 is she is very independent and she can pour her own juice get her own cereal or snack, etc for when I'm nursing baby.

Rebekah - posted on 09/25/2010

My kids are 27 months apart. I love it now, but Oh. My. God. the first 6 months was a nightmare. I would not wish the 1st 6 months to a year on my worst enemy... But, now that time has passed I'm really pleased that we had them so close. They really do get along great.

I'd recommend keeping a 1 to 2 year old for a weekend and see how you manage with two. It's not about having two in diapers, but more about having two babies that still need you for basically everything.

Jennifer - posted on 09/25/2010

We only have one child at the moment Logan who's nearly 10 months old and we plan to have our second when I have my implanon removed which will be just after Logan's 3rd birthday. We feel this gap is perfect because it means when I'm pregnant/ the new baby is born Logan will be in nursery or school so I'll have less to deal with during the day. Plus there's 4 years between my sister and I and it's great because we're close and her being older means she can give me advice =]

Sarh - posted on 09/25/2010

Thanks!!

Jada - posted on 09/25/2010

I have 2 kids, both girls....My oldest is 7.5 years old and my youngest is 5 days old. I knew when I had my first one that I did not have the patience to have two kids close together. My oldest is such a big help with her little sister. My husband is also her stepdad and people think I'm the step mom. It's kinda funny actually. Anyhow, only you know what you can tolerate. I have a friend who has 3 kids who are each 10 months apart and she loves it. Each person is different and everyone's level of patience is different. Hope this helped....good luck to you :)

Sarh - posted on 09/25/2010

Thanks ladies. Both my daughter and son are in routines. They both have adjusted on their own and very well to our routine. They both are/were awesome babies.

Medic - posted on 09/25/2010

Wow, ok I can't understand any of that above me, but maybe the age difference just doesn't work for your daughters personality. We have a 4 year old and an 8 month old and personally we love the 3.5 year age gap. Part of the attitude issue is her age, 4 is very hard for children because they change a lot. They are becoming more independent and more of intellectual thinkers verses here and now thinkers. At the same time they are still holding onto some of that toddler way of thinking so they are basically one big walking conflict. My son will want me some times and seconds later he will not need me for anything and we will go back and forth a million times. What has helped with us is just sticking to our routine and when we do stray from it we don't make a big deal of it.

Avril - posted on 09/25/2010

Well iv got 6 kids 4boys n 2 girls they r 10yrs,8yrs,4yrs,22mths old twins n a 10mth old it is hard work as iv got 3 under 2yrs and the fact 2 of em r twins but u cope n u just try n get them in to a routen as early as poss if u have gd routens wiv ur 2 kids aready u will find a new baby will fit in to it all plus iv have always got all my kids involed every time iv had a new baby so then they dont feel left out or get jelous in anyway and even tho i have 6kids i wudnt b with out any of em if u n ur husband wont anova baby go for it coz like i say u cope