Has anyone ever told you to "tape back" your baby's ears?

Jennifer - posted on 04/13/2010 ( 13 moms have responded )

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Today someone asked to see some updated pix of my child...and ten told me I needed to "tape" back her ears! I was appalled with the comment. I don't plan on taping her little ears back and I love her little ears.

Has anyone else gotten this kind of "advice"? Or actually done this?!?!

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Angela - posted on 07/02/2011

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I am doing this now. I am using Ear Buddies. My baby is an older baby so it will take up to 4 months. It has only been 2 weeks, and she does pull the tapes off, but I just continue to replace them. My older daughter has ears that stick out and she is already being teased. We will have her ears pinned back next Summer. The cost of Ear Buddies was about 80-100 dollars. I think it is worth the time and effort so she will not be made fun of and her self esteem go down. This is just like placing braces on your children. It is for looks. She is a beautiful baby and we adore her and want the best start for her. Our story began with the birthmother who said her ears and crooked teeth made her so insecure and she thought no one would love her. We now have 4 of her children, and what we want is to stop any kind of self esteem issues that may pop up in our children. So ears and braces will be in our future and I am happy to be able to do this for them.

It does not hurt, and she is getting used to it. No one but one busy body has asked about the tapes. ( they are flesh colored and almost invisible) I have a strong opinion of doing what is right for MY child, so I say non of your business. Over in Europe they catch it early and they only wear the tapes and insert for about 2 weeks. They can correct one ear, a floppy ear, a bat like ear. It is really amazing!!!

If this helps anyone great!, any negative comments will only reassure me more that I did the right thing. People can be mean. Take care

Tiffany - posted on 04/18/2013

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If you have ANY concerns about the shape of your baby's ears PLEASE do a google search on earwells. They were developed a few years back by a DR. in Dallas and they are starting to become more widely known (just like helmets for babies are now). My DS has ears that stick out 22 cm and we know that he will not grow into them because his older sister's have only gotten worse over her 4 years. The plastic surgeon said it is because the muscles in the cartilage are pulling them forward. One ear was folded over when he was born. I tried taping them as a newborn but when he got baby acne I felt bad doing it. So once I finally googled earwells.com I was amazed by the results and at just under 4 months we had them put on him. now 6 weeks later his ears are almost within "normal" range (7-9 cm is concerned normal for babies). Insurance paid for it and it is amazing! NO surgery, NO pain, NO ridicule, and if you do it as a newborn (best time) then hardly anyone will even know!!!!!

Angela - posted on 11/18/2012

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Please just tape the child's ears back. I have had big ears that stuck out all my childhood and it has scarred me for life. I was always self concious and made fun of and every little comment hurt me so much. One of my ears stuck out more than the other and I was constantly feeling so terrible about my ears that I dreamed of being able to change that one thing about myself. I ended up doing ice skating so I was always having to wear headbands and gelling my hair back and I was always so jealous of the girls who didn't have to put their headbands over their ears like i did. I stood sideways in every picture to avoid letting both of my ears be seen. It may seem like people are making fun of your child but think of the kids and do what's best for her, trust me it's not letting her ears stick out. I'm about to spend thousands of dollars getting my ears pinned back when it could've been fixed as easily as my mom taping them.

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I don't understand what people are thinking about. If my child has his ears sticking out, I am not going to sit back and do nothing. My ears stuck out and my uncles and aunts told my mom to tapped my ears back and of course my mom said oh it's so cute. NO IT'S NOT! Do the child a favor so he or she does not have to get surgery when they get older, or even if its sticks out a little now, you could save that child a lot of torment when they are in school! My from deepest advice I have always been disappointed and mad at my mom for thinking it was fine, because it was NOT!

Sheree - posted on 04/14/2010

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My sister has 1 ear that sticks out badly so i was really careful when my daughter was first born to make sure her ears were always pushed back when we were holding her and not forward so they didnt start sticking out. The ear of my sister that is affected is the one on the side my mum always held her. I would definalty of had them fixed if my LO had the same problem, but its only cause i see how embarrassed my sister is and the bullying she used to cop.
But it really is personal preference, my mum wishes that she had my sisters fixed.

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Danielle - posted on 02/02/2013

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I had ears that stuck out until I choose to have corrective surgery when I was in middle school. I was not badly teased, but I was always self-conscious of it. My daughter now 18 months has the same issue. We took her to a plastic surgeon just on a consult because I had heard of taping ears back, and the surgeon said that it is a great option, but more successful if done within the first few weeks/months of birth. So we have done anything yet.

Andrea - posted on 10/15/2012

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Please please do it that child is gonna suffer so much through out her life unless you don't.Her feeling are gonna be hurt so much. She's gonna hate her appearance and most likely spend thousands of dollars later on getting the surgery so do her a favor and do it. Take information mother you don't want your baby to suffer so please I beg you do it hot her please!

Maureen - posted on 10/12/2012

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Wow. My ears stick out a bit and my mom told me my whole life that if she knew how they were gonna turn out, she would have taped them to my head when I was a baby. That always hurt my feelings. She encouraged me to save up and get the surgery where they "fix" ears that stick out. Her attitude made me feel terrible about myself, and is probably a huge contributor to my low self esteem. I have always been self conscious of my ears, but I have great hearing! Luckily I have long hair which covers my ears, so it's not a big deal. I feel that God made me this way, so who am I to complain? My husband loves my ears and encourages me to wear my hair up and wear earrings, which makes me feel so good. I know that he loves me for me. I would encourage you to let your little girl grow up to be the beauty she was created to be! I also ask you to never put her down or make her feel badly about herself because of her ears like my mom did to me. Teach her to love herself despite what others might portray as "flaws". Trust your motherly instincts.

Cecilia - posted on 10/12/2012

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Hello, I'm 18 years old and my ears stick out.

I am glad I am a girl because I have long hair which I use to hide my ears. I was never teased about my ears.. but people do comment about it. I was always self conscious about my ears. Scared to put my hair up. Scared to wear earrings. Scared the wind will blow my hair away and expose my ears. I am always constantly adjusting my hair to cover my ears. I have very low self esteem which caused depression and I ended up suicidal. It wasn't just my ears but also my nose. As a baby my ears were folded forward to my head. My mother taped my ears back apparently. This helped but didn't bring back my ears enough. Now I want surgery badly because that seems to be the only way to fix this problem. I would suggest you to tape your child ears back before it's too late. It's better and cheaper than having to surgically pin it back in the future. But your the mother so it's your call. :)

Jennifer - posted on 07/02/2011

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Angela,

Thanks for the post. I think your post was very helpful. It is true that others can be mean. In my daughter's case, her ears do not stick out to the point she needs corrective action. I understand that some children are ridiculed for having ears that stick out. The person who made this comment about my baby girl's ears is a person who is known for making rather outlandish comments.

I feel that parents are right for taking measure to prevent ridicule down the road for their children. I don't feel that it is ok for someone other than a parent to point out the need to take action on a child that isn't their own. We are all entitled to our own opinions and have freedom of speech so I guess this is just something to take or leave. If I saw another child whose ears did protrude and I didn't know the parent very well, I can guarantee I would never tell them to take care of that issue or tell them what to do about anything else for that matter.

It is just frustrating to get unsolicited advice in all dimensions- especially when it comes to judgment of appearance.

I have had some very helpful posts and hope that for others' children who have ears that stick out, that they can benefit from the useful posts that have been left here. Thanks for all of the useful contributions.

Brianna - posted on 04/14/2010

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ive had people tell me to get my daughters ears pinned back! i was sooo angry when they said that! she has her daddys ears and their just fine. i have a 2nd cusin that had her sons ears pinned back though they just put a couple stitches behind his ear.

Jaime - posted on 04/14/2010

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My 6month old son's left ear sticks out and is a bit floppier than the other and i asked the dr why he thought it was like that. he told me it was probably due to his positioning in the womb and i could tape it back if i wanted to try n correct it. The thought crossed my mind but i think his "floppy ear" adds to his character and he's cute no matter what! His daddy's side of the family has been making jokes since he was born and it irritates me. Some people are just mean

Joanne - posted on 04/14/2010

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Oh my goodness NOOO!!!! What did you say to this person?? No one ever told me that about any of my boys. I'm not sure what I would do if they did...probably something not very nice...

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