Having Painful Sex 5months postpartum?

Beth - posted on 08/13/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )




I had my daughter 5 and a half months ago, she was 8.10 and I had a second degree tear due to the midwife yanking her head out so fast! Had lots of stitches which at all my check ups I was told looked great healed ect, but I haven't been all to have sexual intercourse with out pain! It is really getting to me now i just want to be able to be intimate with my partner again :( I have lost ALL interest as all I now associate sex with is pain! I always used a lubricant but it seems to make no difference what so ever. I feel so fed up and down about this, has anyone else experienced this and when did it get better?

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Danielle - posted on 08/15/2012




I had a c-section and still had very VERY painful sex until recently, my daughter is sixteen months. I don't know if it was all in my head or what was going on, but it felt like knives going in and out of me. Just be patient and use other things to be intimate.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 08/15/2012




I sometimes have the same issue. I have some scar tissue that makes it very uncomfortable, and cannot have sex more than 3 times a week. Even that is too often on occasion. It is like I need to heal from the sex. I have yet to get checked out, but I know I have to.

Elfrieda - posted on 08/14/2012




Maybe you should go back and get checked out again. (nothing better than strangers poking around down there, right?)

5 months seems like a long time. On the other hand, I only had 2 small (2 stitches each) tears and it was 3 months before it was comfortable to have normal sex (as opposed to "okay, tell me if I'm hurting you" very tentative sex), and certain positions still hurt until 8 or 9 months later. Sometimes I think the scar tissue just needs some time to soften or something, but other times they did a bad job with the stitching and made it too tight or something, so it would be good to know that now instead of in a few months when you finally decide you've had enough and go in to be looked at.

One number I've heard is 9 months. Everything should be back to normal by then, because it took 9 months to get to where you are. But I'm not sure how accurate that is.

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