Help me turn his days and nights around!!

Andrea - posted on 11/26/2010 ( 10 moms have responded )

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My son is now one month old and still has his days and nighs confused. its so hard to hear everyone else tell u how excited they are that thier baby sleeps thru the night or had slept thru the night since the very begginging. My son stays up till 3 am, 4 am, or sometimes 6 am if he has really bad gas. We use mylocon drops and they work good but hes just WIDE awake into the wee hours of the morning, and he sleeps all day. I regretfully say that I have to go back to work in 4 more weeks since i only got 8 weeks of maternity leave and i need to get his days and nights turned around if possible. Everyone had told me to keep him up during the day but he is such a hard sleeper that when hes out, hes out, Please help me.

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Amy - posted on 11/26/2010

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Sunlight!!! I made the mistake since I was nursing to have the curtens shut for fear to bee seen and well she never got an understanding what time out side it was!! So once we started showing her that it was day she was more awake and sleeped more at night. Its so heard but I would trying to wake him up during the day with frequent feedings don't let him go more then 2hrs-3 breast feeding or just 3 formula feeding. Don't let him sleep though feedings play and do other things. Keep the light dim or off once you put him down and make the feeding time bissness and thats it. Don't try to talk or stimulate in any way. Some times just letting them cry it out because you are going to sleep and nothing is wrong is not going to hurt as long as you don't let it go too far. My daughter started waking up at nights to feed again around 5 months and then would not go back to sleep. I just put her down in her car seat rocked her but she still cried cose she wanted comfort feed well I was not going to nurse for 1-2rs at night so finally she went back to sleep and so did I. Also sleeping though the night does not come till they are older. Usaly 3 months but sometimes its even longer then that.

Stephanie - posted on 11/27/2010

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We had the same thing when we bought our son home from the hospital! I was so desperate because my son used to sleep during the day, and be really awake from 2am to 7am and wants to play!! By then, I was so tired!

These are the things we did, and our son started switching his nights and days around week 7, and started sleeping 6 hour stretches by 8 weeks. Even now at 5 months, he sleeps 9 hour stretches at night.

1. SUNLIGHT and lots of it during the day. During the day, I let my son nap next to a window which allows some natural sunlight on him for a few hours each day.

2. At nights, we keep his room dark. This helps your baby's brain in its production of Melatonin. Melatonin is a hormone secreted by the pineal gland in the brain. It helps regulate other hormones and maintains the body's circadian rhythm. The circadian rhythm is an internal 24-hour “clock” that plays a critical role in when we fall asleep and when we wake up. When it is dark, your body produces more melatonin; when it is light, the production of melatonin drops.

3. We built some routines into our baby's day to differentiate night and day. For his 'long' sleep at night, we started putting him into his sleeping bag, kept the room dark and played a particular white noise soundtrack. These are his night time sleep cues for his 'long' sleep. We still uses these cues for his current night sleeps.

4. During his day, we made sure he slept in a well lit room.

5. At nights, we kept the room dark and when baby wanted to play, we would not engage him and kept the stimulation low. At times, we would have to let him cry especially because he wanted to play and we wanted him to sleep. Listen out for the cry to make sure it is a protest cry (wah wah wah, pause, wah wah wah, pause). If he escalates into a continuous wail, check that he is okay (ie. not nappy/feed/discomfort).

6. During the day, when your baby is awake, make sure you keep him up for at least 60 mins to 75 mins (4 weeks to 8 weeks old) from the start of his feed.

All the best, and I hope this helped! Do be encouraged because they do eventually swap their days and nights around!!

Elfrieda - posted on 11/26/2010

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The midwife showed me how to pinch my son's foot to make him wake up, but I never did that. (and I got mad at her for making him cry!) I kept it dim at night, and didn't look him in the eye or talk to him other than saying "shush-shush". During the day, I swung him and sang to him and played with him. If you can, try not to hang out with people with easy babies right now. It's too hard not to compare! He will get there eventually. You will be so happy when he turns three months old. My son turned into a different (happier!) baby at three months.

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Anita - posted on 06/07/2013

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What is a sleep bag and can you tell me where to get this "white noise cd?"
Very appreciative new mom

Holly - posted on 11/27/2010

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Every child is different but routine is important and all 3 of my kids slept through the night at six weeks. Now that he has day and nights mixed up it will take some work to get him switched around. When do you bath him, if its still in the morning change it to the night. Then in the morning change him and clean him up and dress him. Dont jump right to change and feed, we all seem to make them mistakes. They will not starve if we let them wait alittle bit and crying is good for their lungs. Good luck with your son, things will get bette they just take time.

Julienne - posted on 11/27/2010

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He is only one month old. There should be no night and day for him yet. He wants to eat and sleep around the clock... People who tell you their baby sleeps through from the start are few and far between. Definately not a normal thing for a 1 month old. Sorry to tell you but I don't think there is much you can do about it at the moment. Just have some blinds open for nappy changes and feed time during the day and keep it dark and placid at night.

Andrea - posted on 11/26/2010

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Thanks amy. i will try that. hes on formula and is eating 4 oz at a time starting today. wse will see if that helps him sleep longer at a time.

Andrea - posted on 11/26/2010

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Thanks elfrieda. I cant wait till he turns three months but i also want to cherish these moments we have now, its just so hard to cherish them when he and myself and his dad are so exhausted and frustrated. I have to go back to work when hes two months old and im worried about that too, putting him inn daycare at such an early age

Andrea - posted on 11/26/2010

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sometimes i try a wet wipe but sometimes he just sleeps thru a diaper change too lol. hes such a sound sleeper during the day.

Frances - posted on 11/26/2010

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When my daughter was like that, a friend told me to wipe her face with a cloth dipped in cold water. That sounds mean to me, but sometimes people get desperate.

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