HELP! newborn be two week on Saturday.

Tiphanie - posted on 04/07/2010 ( 51 moms have responded )

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My baby girl loves to fall asleep while layin up against my chest. BUt when i go to lay her down in her bed she fights her sleep and does this fake crying until i pick her up. is there any advice that can help me with her sleeping in her bed and not on me.

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Meagan - posted on 04/08/2010

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I used to do the "arm test" with my son when he was asleep. I'd pick his arm up and if it just flopped down then I knew he was completely out lol. Also I would spray just a tiny bit of my perfume on his blanket and then wrap him up in it and he would usually sleep pretty peacefully.

Erika - posted on 04/09/2010

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I had the same type of thing, at times. It's an art form getting a newborn to sleep :) Once you get her off your chest don't automatically put her down. The difference in body temp is too fast. Make sure she is swaddled, if it's a warm day just swaddle the top half of her body. Take her off your chest and rock her in front of you with your hands on her back n her head. My daughter's breathing pattern would slow down and that's how I knew she was or getting into deep sleep. As you are putting her down continue to sway/rock her until she hit the sheets and you may want to bounce the mattress and slowly stop. That would usually work for us. Believe me it gets better.

Melisa - posted on 04/07/2010

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This is all a learning period for both of you. You have to keep in mind she isn't aware yet that she is her own person. Maybe look into babywearing -- keeping her against you in a wrap/carrier. Swaddling is also helpful as it reminds them of their tight, warm home they made of your womb. At this age they do not fake cry. When they cry they are only trying to tell you something as they have no other way to communicate. Hungry, wet diaper, wants to be held etc. Crying is also part of their development (you can look into the "period of purple crying"). Each mother and baby is different and everyone will tell you something that works for them which may not work for you. The first 6 weeks is all about the two of you learning together.

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Sally - posted on 10/25/2013

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First: It is physically impossible for a two week old to "fake" cry. Babies only cry when they need something and constant contact with mom is a physical need at this age.
Second: The idea that a baby should sleep by itself is unheard of outside the industrialized western world and it's less than 100 years old here and the more science learns about how babies really work instead of how we wish they would work for our convenience, the fewer people are trying to force their children into something so unnatural.
Until very recently (from a historical standpoint) a baby not in physical contact with it's mom 24/7 would be dead fairly quickly. Thousands of years of species survival don't sit down and shut up because a few decades of social conditioning say so. You think you're teaching her self soothing and independence; she knows that if mommy doesn't come get her soon she will die and she has no way of knowing that you're nearby and will come back later.
The only way to get her to sleep on her own before she is physically ready (if you're lucky a few months--though only for a very few hours, but for most kids a few years) is for your willpower to be stronger than her sense of self preservation. Some babies give up easily and some never do. You'll both get a lot more rest a lot sooner if you make your bed safe for her.
Good luck

Ashley - posted on 10/19/2013

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I had this same problem, so I think its normal. It was the cold sheet that woke my daughter up each time. And you are very smart for trying to get her to sleep in her crib early, it really makes life easier the sooner she is use to it. I agree with all the others that said to put her down when she has those sleepy eyes. I also put a fleecey type material over her crib mattress instead of a crib sheet. Mine is little enough that she doesn't wiggle around enough for me to worry about it coming loose and being a problem. I also watch her ALOT on the baby monitor. The fleece material was warmer to her rather than a cold crisp sheet. This worked very well for us. Nothing to crazy to fixed the problem... I hope this helps, and stick with putting her in her crib, its totally worth it.

Carole - posted on 10/15/2013

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Our daughter was the same, was nice and warm in our arms but when we put her down she would wake up. We started using a rice sack, warmed it up a little (not too hot) then put it in her bed for a min or 2 covered with the blanket she will covered with - then took it out and put her in! Worked like a charm b/c she wasn't jerked awake by a cold bed or blanket. Give it a try and hopefully she will stay asleep!

Amanda - posted on 04/14/2010

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Make sure she is dressed warm enough the absences of your body heat could cause a lil shock to her. Make sure she has eaten enough. If you try swaddling and it still doesn't work try taking a blanket or receiving blanket that has your scent on it and swaddle her with it the smell of your scent should help keep her asleep

Trish - posted on 04/14/2010

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My daughter was the same, and we ended up having to go to a sleep clinic because she just would not sleep unless I was touching her (she is now 4 months old), or if she did manage to fall asleep without touching me she would only last between 5 and 10 minutes. We also tried having something of mine in her bed with her, and still wouldn't work. I would suggest gradually weaning her off - start with letting her fall asleep beside you snuggled into your chest, then when that works move on to having her on the outside of your arm, then to having her close to you without touching, etc. Alternatively, try rocking her to sleep in your arms, then when she gets the hang of that rock her until she is about 95% asleep (when the eyes start to roll) then put her in her bed with one hand on her chest and the other either patting the side the mattress above her head or stroking her head, which ever is more comforting for her, then leave a shirt you have worn while breastfeeding under her sheet so she can still smell you but won't get tangled. I know it seems like a lot of hard work, but it is definitely successful!

Anna - posted on 04/13/2010

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I wouldnt worry so much about her sleeping in her crib I didnt have my little one start sleeping in her crib untill almost 3 months I just started her and she is fine with the ajustment they dont know better when they are only a few weeks they just know mommy.

Jannette - posted on 04/13/2010

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For our little girl we tried music and it wrked especially at that age she just loved her stuffed animal that played music.... Shes kinda growen out of it now but we still use it on bad nights and she's 11 months old

Mary - posted on 04/12/2010

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We had to swaddle our son, but he didn't like his arms swaddled so we just left his arms out of the swaddle. He also wouldn't sleep in his crib, but he would sleep in his bassinet if he was swaddled and we also raised one end of the bassinet alittle (not too much though or he would slide down) We also had to use the vibrating thing on the bassinet.(that worked great to get him to sleep, but you want one that stays on until you turn it off)

Angela - posted on 04/12/2010

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we used this thing called swaddle me they have it at wal-mart. Otherwise, something we've just started using with my now 6 month old is something called sid blocks (I think) Its this adjustable thing, kind of like a sleep positioner (which is something else you can look into) but it gives them the feeling of someone holding them. You put it in the bassinet or crib and then lay the baby down. Before I got that, I would take a blanket and fold it down to like a long strip, then roll the sides up from the outside in and lay the baby in the middle, where it forms a ridge on either side of her. I know this sounds confusing but I'm trying to explain it the best way I know. I hope this helps you!

Kelsey - posted on 04/12/2010

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I'm not even going to pretend I read all these lol! Just ignore me if I'm repeatign someone. Try catching her in the "inbetween stage" (almost sleeping but not quite there yet) then laying her down. Keep your hand on her and see if that helps her fall asleep.

Laura - posted on 04/12/2010

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I found it hard to get my wee boy to lie into his basket the first week so I was tod that I had to swaddle him and also before putting him down get a hot water bottle in the basket or cot just to warm it up before they go down and it worked a treat, he goes down no problem now, he is now in his cot without any hassle.. hope you get it sorted soon..

Evie - posted on 04/12/2010

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I warm my 14 day olds crib with a wheatpack (or hot water bottle) while I am feeding her, that way when she falls asleep & I transfer her into it, the crib is warmed up and she thinks she is still being held. Works a treat for me. The midwife in the hospital put me onto this trick day 1 and we've never looked back. Give it a go. Good luck!

Kathy - posted on 04/12/2010

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I just remembered another thing that we found helped when our girl was restless.... Johnson's has a bed time series, shampoo, baby body wash,lotion.... if she wouldn't go to sleep I'd rub her down with the lotion, it never failed she'd be out in 10-15 minutes

Jackie - posted on 04/12/2010

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being so young maybe try a sling if u'd rather her not be crying in her cot.. my daughter usually passes out a few minutes after being put in it and i have both hands free to do things. she is 6 months old today. its a must when i go shopping. i just wish i had it with my other babies

Colleen - posted on 04/11/2010

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my daughter was and IS the same way... She is now going on 6 months old.. I tried swaddling her, buy didn't/doesn't ;ole to be swaddled.

Marie - posted on 04/11/2010

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I found babywearing to be very helpful, also, if you read "The Happiest Baby On the Block" that is very helpful. I never heard of it until my daughter was older, but when I did read some of it I found the 5 S's to be helpful!!

1.Sucking (breast, soother, bottle etc)
2.Swaddling (use a receving blaket or you can get special ones but make sure she is swaddled tight!)
3. Shhing (LOUD into their ear, reminds them of the heart swooshing, but make sure to try and do this louder than her cry)
4. Swing/sway-rock her in a chair or you arms
5. Lay her on her side, some babies when they are on their backs feel as if they are "Falling"-please be careful tho as back is the safest. If you baby has reflux, gas or an upset belly this helps. Especially on their left side as the stomach is on the left.

Hope the helps!

Michele - posted on 04/11/2010

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Hi Tiphanie.. congratulations on the birth of your daughter. I have three girls and they all did the same... i tried everything... i did get a lot of success from a hanging baby hammock as this gives them a little movement and they are snuggled up.. I also tried a baby bed wrap but this didnt seem to work so well. I live away from my family so in the end just did whatever worked on the day.. that was mostly in my bed between my hubby and I... alot of people didnt agree, but it meant the baby got sleep and i got my desparetly needed sleep also. To me a rested Mum is a much happier Mum so do whatever works best for the two of you. My girls are now 16, 14 and 12 and that time has flown by.. the are so litle for such a short period of time I look back and ask myself why was I stressing to start with. Good luck to both of you

Megan - posted on 04/11/2010

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i had this one thing for my sons bed, part of it was like a pillow and then the part by his body had sides that made him feel more snuggled in. it was adjustable as he grew and was only like 15 bucks at Target! (the pillow was really just like a wedge to hold their head up a lil and keep em from spittin up)

Karen - posted on 04/11/2010

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I recommend The Happiest Baby on the Block by Dr. Harvey Karp. It did wonders for my son who was a colicky baby (until I read this book, that is) and has helped the transition of my 3-month-old daughter to the outside world. No signs of colic with her!

Desiree - posted on 04/10/2010

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letting her cry sometimes is the only way that they will know its bed time or trying to lie her down with bottle but if shes tired shell go to sleep with alittle bit of patients

Brittany - posted on 04/10/2010

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My daughter did the same thikng and we bought a pack in play that had a removable song and vibration thing. We use that all the time and she just loves it, I don't know if you have a swing but sometimes those work also, there are also little round chairs that vibrate and play music : ) Hope I could help.

Kathy - posted on 04/10/2010

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I'm all for the swaddling.... try a swaddle-me blanket, you can get them at Toys r us, its got velcro and makes the swaddling easier and holds better if she squirms alot. We used a bassinet that vibrated, played music, heartbeat or other sounds and had a nightlight. It has wheels that pop in and makes it so it rocks like a cradle, she'd go to sleep on her own with it vibrating, playing music and the light.

Bethani - posted on 04/10/2010

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they have at the store (walmart, kmart and target and babies r us) this bear that plays music or the sound of the wombs and heart beat of the mom. try using something like that.

Faith - posted on 04/10/2010

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i had this problem with my son. He was in the NICU for almost 2 weeks. They never had him swaddled. When i came home i had no idea that you should swaddle to make them feel comfortable, secure, and keeps there temp where is should be. Swaddling did wonders!!!

Giseli - posted on 04/10/2010

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That is so normal and newborn don't fake cry,all she wants is to be near her mom,you won't spoil her,she's too young for that,and as she get older this will stop,for now enjoy being w/ her ,because they grow up too fast.

Billie - posted on 04/10/2010

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I am alll for the swaddling, its really easy once you get the hang of it. Some children just need it to feel safe and secure. Like they did when they were in the womb. Try it what have you got to loose.

Kelsey - posted on 04/10/2010

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My daughter was the same. She only wanted to sleep on my husband or I. For one she probably likes the feel and sound of your heart beating through your chest. Its comforting to her cause she heard it in utero. I new baby needs to comforted to sleep. At least in my opinion. Shes two weeks old, hasnt realized shes her own person yet and its a scary place when shes not near you. I just dealt with it and it only lasted a couple more weeks. My daughter is 9 weeks almost and sleeps fine by herself at night now. I know it sucks because your sleeping is all screwed up and having a baby sleep on you isnt the most comfortable thing to do, but thats what being a new parent is about. There is not much comfortableness as a new parent. Get one of those teddy bears you can put in her crib or a little monitor you can attach to your crib that sounds like a heart beat and rock her to sleep then place her in it so she can hear the heartbeat and swaddle her. Should comfort her. She might also have gas and sleeping up right is comfortable for her. All babies are different.

Ashli - posted on 04/09/2010

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my son is 3 months and sometimes still does thats its tough but soon she will get tired enough and stay asleep. what i do is as soon as he falls asleep i put him in his crib and if he wakes up i get him and put him back to sleep and keep going probally 3 to 4 times before he actually stays sleeping. just know your not alone.

Triona - posted on 04/09/2010

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My son's three and a half weeks and he does exactly the same. When he falls asleep on me I make sure he's already wrapped in a blanket (not neceserrily swaddled) so that when I put him in his moses basket he doesn't suddenly get cold and wake up. Also my partner and I have slept with a little velvet blanket so it has our smell and we put that near his head.

Alyssa - posted on 04/09/2010

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My son did this and still does and he is 5 months old. He has slept in my bed with me since birth. I just figure that he wont sleep in my bed forever so why not let him cuddle with mommy :)

Natasha - posted on 04/09/2010

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I would say just hold her as long as you can! A newborn is not used to everything around her in this big cold noisy world and you are the only thing she knows and she gets comfort from you. Babies can't be spoiled. I had to learn this as well as i thought if i started holding me son all the time he would always need it. But he stopped it himself when he was a few months old and now if only i could still hold him while he slept!! Time goes too fast so enjoy it while you can!

Robin - posted on 04/08/2010

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My daughter was like that for the first month, until she got used to being out of the tummy, and used to the noises around her.

Traci - posted on 04/08/2010

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My son was the same way, a way i have found is when he falls asleep on my chest then i lay him on his side in his bed and he will stay asleep sometimes. I do think babies can fake cry sometimes at that age because that's the only noise they can make & yeah they want you to hold them but at the same time if you just hold her all the time she's gonna expect it. & also when she's awake let her have some time in her crib or bassinett or whatever u have for her to lay in on or anything so she gets used to it better.

Kara - posted on 04/08/2010

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Go through the stages of what could be upsetting her (diaper? hungry? gassy? etc). Swaddling her like a burrito is a great idea, but having soothing music or the sound of a heart beat can be helpful too. Our son has slept with music since he was born...it's odd if its not on, but he can sleep without it too. Don't fret, its a learning process and you'll soon be a pro!

Mastoora - posted on 04/08/2010

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I just swaddled mine and left her in her crib and I also put on half an hr of lullabies for her. But for the first 3 months she slept through the night all night, I`d have to wake HER so I could feed her. I would not get her used to sleeping beside me because then she would get too used to it and always expect it. I`d just change her diaper, feed her and swaddle her and just leave her in her room with some lullabies playing.

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My son was exactly the same we found that when we put him in his moses basket he just cried and cried but when we laid him on our chests he went straight to sleep - we were so exhusted that we fell asleep with him on our chests a few times in the first couple of weeks.

We found that our son hated swaddling (I know so many people swear by it) because he liked to move his arms and legs. So this was not an option for us.

My midwife told me to put my used breast pads or dirty nightie into his moses basket so he could smell me as if I was there with him (I know its sounds a bit gross) we used the breast pads because I didn't want to risk him suffocating on my nightie. This helped him sleep in his moses basket.

Another suggestion was to place a ticking clock into his moses basket as it sounds like a heartbeat.

We found that after he reached 6 weeks his sleeping became more patterned and he went into his moses basket easier (this is also when we decided to begin his routine process (very basically)). I know 6 wks seem like such a long time but they do pass quickly and it does get easier.

Jascinta - posted on 04/08/2010

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is she holding wind? maybe when you lay her down it hurts... at this early age they quite often take longer to bring up all they're wind then to feed.

Samantha - posted on 04/07/2010

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My daughter was the same way!! Swaddling really is quite helpful! Sometimes she still likes to fall asleep against my chest! Just take it as her loving you and wanting to be near you.

Leasa - posted on 04/07/2010

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i used a swaddler for my daughter and she seemed to stop that crying when i would put her down. i would also try not letting her fall asleep on you. let her fall asleep in her bed it will come in handy when she is around one like mine is. well i hope this helps.

Sheree - posted on 04/07/2010

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She isnt even 2 weeks yet, she wants to be near her mum and the sound of your heart beat, its the only familiar thing to her since leaving your uterus and all she has known for the last 9 months. I also didnt know that babies could fake cry, especially that young. She is crying for a reason and needs you to be there. Its hard in the first few weeks but you'll both get used to it. Also the swaddling is a great idea.

Brandy - posted on 04/07/2010

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I don't think newborns can fake cry but you could try swaddling her. There's videos on U-tube to show you how.

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