Tiffany - posted on 08/28/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )
Hello everyone... I have a beautiful 9 week old little girl named Pandora who is healthy as can be and a total joy when shes in my arms... this is the key phrase: in MY arms... She screams her head off and throws herself into a fit that is sometimes so bad that she actually stops breathing and does that silent cry like shes in pain if she is any anyone else's arms. Now this could be seen as understandable and even maybe normal with people she doesn't know... however the kicker is she does this the worst with her daddy! It is putting a real strain on our marriage because I can't leave her with him even to go to the bathroom. She scream and cries even if she can see me and i'm touching her while shes in his arms. This only just started about 2 weeks ago and has gotten worse. She will start up her fit if she even thinks I'm about to hand her over to him. He feels like absolute crap because he doesn't know what he is doing to upset her. He speaks to her sweetly, cradles her, holds her, bounces her...all the same things I do to comfort her but it just makes her cry harder. She won't even take the bottle for him but the second she is handed back to me, she stops crying and eats. What on earth can we do? I feel so horrible for my husband but also for myself because I can't shower without hearing her screaming at the top of her little lungs! It hurts to see tears in my husband's eyes because his daughter just can't be around him. Its to the point that he can hardly lay next to her without screaming.... he hasn't done anything to her to make her be this way. Like I said, she does this with everyone but me but it just doesn't seem right that she would be doing this with her daddy. What do we do? I've tried just leaving her with him for an hour a day while I go upstairs to take care of myself and she crys and screams until I come back. I've tried getting her to feed on the bottle then handing her to daddy thinking that maybe she would just keep eating and see that her daddy can do the same things that mommy can but she quickly stops eating and starts screaming. Is this a phase that will pass? Any help or advice is greatly appreciated... Its so strange that she would do this since both her father and I are with her 24/ except at night when she sleeps right next to me and I primarily feed her (she's fed breast milk in the bottle and on the breast). HELP!