Horrible infant car seat crying

Nikki - posted on 09/18/2010

BY NO MEANS FF IS SAFE AND EVEN WHAT THE LAW STATES ONE YEAR AND 20LBS IT IS RECOMMENDED YOU KEEP THEM RF AS LONG AS POSSIBLE.
A babies spine is not fully formed and if it is stretched 1/4 of an inch more in an accident then can be either parlysed for life or die. FF children are 5 times more likely to be severly injured in an accident then RF.

Here are a few ideas;
make sure the straps arent too tight they could be causing pain, dont make them loose but enough for your son to feel comfortable and safe.
-Dont bundle your baby up before putting them in the car they feel suffocated.
- try all types of music
-put a mirror in the back and other hanging colorful, musical toys to keep him entertained

Dana - posted on 09/18/2010

Im new on here. And I was reading your post...You are not the only one who goes thru that!!! My 2 month old does the same thing. I think its just the fact of being restrained. I give him a bottle rigth before we go out, burp him, and rock him till he drifts off a little. THEN I put him in his car seat. That seems to work 90% of the time.

Nikki - posted on 09/18/2010

I would rather crying than spinal damage or death in the case of an accident. Sorry hate to be so blunt, but this is the reality of parents choosing comfort over safety. A lot of babies hate the car, my daughter is 10 months, still rear facing, still screams every time we get in the car, I have tried every thing, it's just something we have learnt to live with because I refuse to turn her forward facing until she out grows the rear facing requirements.

Elizabeth - posted on 09/18/2010

We had the exact same problem and could not wait for our daughter to become old enough to turn her seat around (it's 6 months in Aus). But we tried tweaking a few things - she used to love the car and would fall asleep almost instantly but all of a sudden she would scream bloody murder as soon as we put her in there and be happy as anything as soon as we lifted her out. So we tried without the music, bought her a new toy that strung across her, gave her a doll and made sure she was never hungry/wet/over-tired when she got in the car and about a month later we were wondering what all the fuss was about. Just try changing little things here & there and eventually your son should settle down...

Sarh - posted on 09/18/2010

NO NO NO!!!! Please do not face him forward! You can try getting the convertible car seat and continue to rear face him as this may give him a bit more room... Or if he is a smaller baby try to tuck blankets around him (minus by his face) and see if the extra cushion and "closeness" would help. I hope something helps you and your little guy. Look at the video Tiffany posted and also you can google them as well.

Crystal - posted on 09/17/2010

Oh no....I hate to say it but my friends daughter used to do the same thing until she was about 9 months old. She tried everything to help her.
She did like this cd called "for crying out loud" she bought at a book store, it was made special for sooting babies....its worth a shot, you could google it and read reviews





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Lise - posted on 09/17/2010

FF is unsafe, and many babies just hate the seat. Mine did until about 6 months old.

Rachael - posted on 09/17/2010

At 3 months he is too young to be forward facing, it isn't safe. I know the crying makes you sad, because my son always cries in his car seat, but you need to keep him rear facing until he is big enough, usually around 1 year. Try getting a new car seat and taking him in it and maybe it will be more comfortable

Channelle - posted on 09/17/2010

hi, its not wise to put him a forward facing car seat yet... my son does that too ad hes 3mnths aswell, bt i know hes back to "out" so to speak... i use a osteopath after every child ive had (i hve 3 boys), becoz when they birth things have to move out of place to be born via normal or c-sect. its doesnt hurt the child i wotch them do 'it'. then i found a very happy child again in the car seat. this may be the cause, it depends on ur veiws about nauraltherapy. good luck hope u find a solution soon, for you and baby.

Lisette - posted on 09/17/2010

Tiffany thanks for responding. I did that just today, I put the music up VERY loud and it seemed worse. I literally wanted to cry/scream. I felt I was on the verge of a break down. It is so horrible, I can't even explain it...OMG!

I will look at the video.

Thanks,
Lisette

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Karen - posted on 09/17/2010

it's neither safe, NOR LEGAL!! you can not ff legally until 22lbs AND 1 year and even then, it's still not safe....have you tried a mirror on the headrest he's facing so he can see you? my son hated his seat at that age as well but we got him a mirror and a twirly whirly to attatch to his seat and once he figured out how to make it sing he was pretty good. the music also helped him settle because he loves being sung to. i'm begging you though, do not ff him yet! (i don't even know where you'd get a ff carseat that would fit him properly anyways.) i'm sorry but it's not worth losing your son in an unfortunate accident because you couldn't handle listening to him cry...

Tiffany - posted on 09/17/2010

NO WAY!! Whatever you do DO NOT face your son forward. What I found helpful to put my son to sleep was turning up the music. May sound awful, and I did make sure he was dry and not hungry, but really this helped him every single time!
Here's a link I really recommend watching. I've shared it many times before and I hope it sways your decision to not face him forward.

Tiffany - posted on 09/17/2010

NO WAY!!! whatever you do do NOT face him forward at three months of age. I know this sounds awful of me but as long as I knew my son was dry and not hungry I would just turn up the radio(of course not ear bleeding loud but just up). He didn't cry often but when he did this definitely helped and he fell right asleep.
Here's a video I've posted a couple times before but watch it. I hope it helps you reconsider your decision=)