How can I make my hubby understand what Im going through with this pregnancy?

Jasmine - posted on 10/01/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )

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How can I make my hubby understand what Im going through with this pregnancy?

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Heather - posted on 10/01/2009

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I'm not sure that most men will ever be able to understand what you are going through. I could even understand what other women were going through until I went through it myself. The only way to help your husband understand is to explain to him how you feel. Tell him when your back hurts or when you couldn't sleep all night because of the sharp pains running down your legs, or the mood swings you feel. I was lucky to have a very understanding husband (even before I was pregnant and dealing with severe mood swings, my dad and I joke that we aren't bi-polar, we're tri-polar...haha), but anyways.....the best way for him to understand what your going through is if you give him a play-by-play. Involve him in as many physical and emotional changes as you can, while you are going through them. This might help him be more sensitive to your needs and your situation. Hope this helps :)

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Amanda - posted on 10/02/2009

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guys will never understand i dont know how many times i cried to my fiance during my pregnancy and he just didnt understand! it was aweful but in the end its all worth it so you can keep trying but its prob not worth the stress and struggle to get him to understand!!!

Natasha - posted on 10/02/2009

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I was lucky my husband was great with understanding! I told him everything about how i was feeling (sometimes i felt like i real sook for telling him all the time) But it really was a hard time and i think guys need to be told so they can understand a little bit. I also had lots of pregnancy books and i encouraged him to read them. Or i read bits out to him that i really wanted him to know! :) He understood that some days the housework just didn't get done and that sometimes he had to cook because i was too tired to even stand up for a few minutes. But he never picked up on these things by himself i had to tell him. If i wanted him to cook dinner i had to ask him or he just wouldn't think about it but once i asked and told him why he was fine with it. Guys really are completely different creatures to us women lol :).

Colleen - posted on 10/02/2009

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My husband didn't really "get it" until the very end when I was at my biggest and it's like it finally clicked for him. He came home from work one day, took a look at me and said, "Wow I feel so bad for you." It was such a relief that after 9 months, it was like he finally understood how uncomfortable I was. I did find that until I really started getting bigger, that because he couldn't actually see what was happening, he didn't understand how tired and sick I was. I was miserable at the very beginning but because I didn't have anything to show for it, it's like it didn't exist for him.

Kate - posted on 10/01/2009

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I don't think my husband really understood what I had gone through for the past nine months until I was in labour! Alfie was born within 6 hours (he's my second) and it wasn't a hard birth compared to some, but I think it brought the mesaage home to my hubby about what pain etc was! xxx

Louise - posted on 10/01/2009

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i dont think males will ever understand wot wowan go threw in pregnacy. all u cn do is talk 2 him bout hw u feel and if he is like my partner and it goes in 1 ear and out the other sometimes, talk 2 a sister or a friend with kids they will no wot u r going threw sumtimes all u need is a good talk and a cry. or write every thing tht is bothering u dwn and show him it mite get it a bit betta. and he mite b able 2 find ways 2 help. hope ths helps xoxo

Iysha - posted on 10/01/2009

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i cried and told my boyfriend EVERYTHING that was bothering me one time. I told him about my back hurting, the fact that I couldn't get anything to stay in my stomach, that I was irritable, that I was emotional, that I was always tired, etc... and pointed out how helpless i felt because i can't do a single thing that can help the way I feel.



He seemed to get the message once I burst into tears and told him that I really didn't feel like cleaning up after him because of all these things and that because of his comments and some of his actions, he made me think that he was the most rude, insensitive person.... and that I love him, but that I really couldn't take his criticism anymore. LOL



Guys really just don't understand what we women go through and only a select few will sympathise with us.

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