how did u feel seeing your baby for the first time
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Stacey - posted on 04/27/2009
I didn't feel that rush of love and recognition when I saw my son for the first time. I remember thinking that he didn't look anything like me or my husband and it kind of felt like he was a cute little stranger. It wasn't that I didn't like him or want to take care of him, but I didn't feel like he was MY baby, if that makes any sense. I was kinda freaked out because I thought I'd feel head over heals in love but some of my friends and my mom reassured me that sometimes it takes time. Sure enough, I fell more and more in love with him each day and now he is the air I breath, but it took me a few weeks to get really bonded.
Lakshmi - posted on 05/28/2013
he is my first baby (Ashrith) ..... I was so excited and happy to meet him, he was born after about 16 hours of labour pains,and i had to have an emergency c section.
he was delivered Dr told me "congrats lakshmi baby boy" after that
It was great pleasure to see him and kiss him ... i never forget this and my husband face expression (happiness) it was awesome, we want baby boy god fulfilled our wish.
after his birth he is my strength and happiness and he is everything to me (after his dad)....
Melissa - posted on 05/13/2009
I was so shocked at how beautiful she was. I had watched a lot of childbirth videos so I expected her to look really rough and cheesy but she was so pink and did not have any vernix on her. She was a late 21 hour induced labor so maybe that is why there was none left. I had been playing CD's I burned in the delivery room and she happened to be born to Songbird by Fleetwood Mac. It is weird because that was the same lullabye I had been singing to her while she was in the womb. She was crying and they placed her on my stomach with the cord still attached. I started singing with the CD and she looked at me with a gaze of acknowlegment and stopped crying dead in her tracks. She knew in that instant from the sound of my singing that I was her mother. I felt such love it was so beautiful and unbearable and also fear from the knowledge that I would be the one to nuture her and teach her how to be a woman. It is a great trust and every day since I have remembered that I am so privileged to be her Mom. Seeing her in my husband's arms was also one of the most tender moments of my life. Watching him become a father has given me a whole host of new reasons to love him. I knew in that moment we were a family.
Sara - posted on 04/24/2009
I think it's hard to put into words, but I'll try...when she was born they put her on my stomach, she was crying and I said "Hi Baby" and she stopped crying and looked right into my eyes...she knew me. It was the most incredible moment of my life, I have never felt so much love for one person ever. In that moment, when we locked eyes, we bonded in such a way, I don't think it will ever be broken. Tested, yes, but broken...no way! She's the light of my life. :)
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I think i felt a little stunned at first. I was in awe that I had just given birth to a baby and when I held my daughter for the first time I cried. She was so pretty and so alert. She looked right at me and then my husband and we both pretty much melted. Love at first sight as they say :) It was an amazing experience.
Erin - posted on 05/20/2009
When my daughter was born, after a hard 20 hour labour ending in a forceps delivery, the doctor put her on my chest and she crawled up to my boob and latched on. I was crying and watching her thinking "she's been here before". It was the most outrageous love and fascination imaginable. I knew I was having a girl but didn't even think to check in those first minutes. It didn't matter. It was only when they took her to the other side of the room and I was being stitched that I asked, "it is a girl isn't it?" lol
Patricia - posted on 05/20/2009
Having my little one in my arms was the greatest feeling. Although I didn't hold him very much because of the pain and being so tired from the drugs, but I did hold him more after they wore off and when his daddy was sleeping I'd go down to the nursery after I woke up and get him so I could hold him in my arms. Mine was 7 pounds 3 ounces.
Krista - posted on 05/19/2009
They put him on my chest right away, and the first thing I remember thinking was, wow, he's so heavy! (He was 8lbs 9oz) I think I was in shock that he was actually here, and that he came out of me! They took him away right away to clean him up and they kept asking if I was ready to hold him afterwards, but I had some pretty major tears that were being stitched up for over an hour, and I felt so weak I was afraid that I'd drop him! Once I felt okay to hold him, I just wanted to stare at his perfect little face and marvel that we made such a sweet little baby. I really started to feel the overwhelming love once we were home and I was rocking him to sleep at night. Still, at six months, when I'm holding my sleeping baby in my arms, I tear up sometimes thinking about just how much I love him. It's the greatest feeling in the world!
Patricia - posted on 05/19/2009
I had a c-section so when I first saw my son I saw him for like 1 minute. I cried...he is the most precious little thing. I never thought that I could love someone so much. When I got to hold him, it was even better because I got to bond with my son. I got to feel his soft skin. I was just so glad that I could finally see him and hold him in my arms.
Shanna - posted on 05/13/2009
...I even remember her being all full of blood and all that vernix and I was kissing her face and head not even thinking about what was on my lips lol - kinda gross now that I think of it but I was just so excited and happy and thankful, I didnt care.
Shanna - posted on 05/13/2009
It is very hard to put into words. I was in labour for a very long 61 hours - but had the epidural for the last 5 hours. I didnt know what to expect. I pushed for 33 minutes my doctor brought her right to mu chest as soon as she was out. I started bawling as I looked at her, tears of complete joy, excitement, love...it was incredible. She just looked directly into my eyes and we just stared at eachother for a good 15 mintues before they took her to clean her up. It's an unbelievable feeling - I cried so hard for the first few minutes, it's overwhelming. And, I would do it all over again in an instant! Even after 61 hours of labour!
Tee - posted on 05/13/2009
Reading what everyone had to say almost made me shed a tear. LOL!
When my son was born it was amazing. He actually was born crying and fussing but I remember looking at him and saying to the dr. He looks so small. They weighed him and said he is 7lb 14.6 oz. I was amazed! They gave him to me right after and I began to breastfeed and he latched on right away. I remember looking over to my husband as I was pushing and he asked me if I could see him coming out and I said no. He said that he is beautiful and a rush of emotions went through my body. My husband was emotional and when our baby was born he looked at me and he said he is beautiful again and I believe I saw tears in his eyes but I know he won't admit it.
Melissa - posted on 05/13/2009
Wow! An earthquake may have taken place and I wouldnt have known it! I was face to face with this little helpless figure, our creation of life. There is so much love to give, so much love that I didn't realise I had. I often wonder if the same feeling would happen again, should/ when I have my second child?
Mel - posted on 05/13/2009
so so happy and over whelmed. i dont think you think about meeting your baby because your more focased on the pushing , you dont have time to think abut what it will be like to hold baby for the first time. i couldnt believe that as soon as baby comes out they gave her to me straight away. i was so happy to be holding her in my arms even though she was crying i loved her so much i couldnt believe how good it felt. but after they took her i just remember being in alot of pain and asking for pain killers. my partner felt really sad about the whole experience because my mum kind of butted in and her and her bf held the bub and my fiance only got to hold her for a quick second before being made to drive home at 3.30 in the morning
Laura - posted on 04/27/2009
I had to have an emergency c section. When she held him over the curtain I remember thinking "that's my baby? He doesn't look at all like what I thought" even though I really don't know what I thought he would look like, lol. It was kinda weird. I always thought I would cry and feel that rush of love, but I didn't. I had been crying bc of having the c section, but I didn't cry when I saw him. Of course at that point they were pushing me full of drugs to help me calm down bc I was just so freaked out by the way the labor went from great to chaos in a matter of 15 -20 min. I was so out of it that day that I still didn't really feel bonded to him until the next day, late in the day. Then I think it was the 2nd or 3rd night I'd had a HORRIBLE dream about him dying and woke up crying. Right after that they brought him in to nurse. Well when I got him out of the bassinet he made this horrible shriek I think bc he was hungry. It pierced my heart. I knew right then that I never wanted him to make that noise again bc it meant he was unhappy in some way. The first month or 2 was really hard. I was so exhausted and doing it by myself so I think I have fallen even more in love since he has gotten a little older. He is 4 months.
Kylie - posted on 04/27/2009
With my first baby i was so excited and happy to meet her, she was born after about 15 mins of pushing and came into the world absolutely perfect, awake, quiet and looking around with a very serious face. I remember they put her on my chest and she felt and smelt so wonderful, I was in love straight away.
With my second, I pushed for over an hour and he had the cord around his neck and had pooped in utero he came out with a purple face and a very white body and his hair was all green and smelly from the merconium. It was scary and he cried loudly and i just kept asking if he was ok and was this colour normal. I felt quite sad and guilty too for not wanting a boy for all these months and now he was here and he was perfect and amazing.
Emily - posted on 04/27/2009
I felt the rush of love both times. I just stared into their eyes. My husband kept wanting to shout "It's a girl!" but the midwife wouldn't let him because she thought I should be able to look for myself. At that moment I didn't care if it was a boy or a girl I just wanted to look at the face. Neither of my kids cried at birth.
Maddison - posted on 04/27/2009
hmm when she was born thy put her on my chest and i started crying lol it was overwelming 4 me i sed hello my sweetheart and she was hold her own head up i was shocked at tht and she was looking right in my eyes i sed u are so gawjus and she smiled lol
I have 4. I guess I have felt the same, but different with every one because each birth was different.
My first was long and hard and I was so tired by the time he came out, but I was still totally amazed to see him. It sunk in a bit later on in the middle of the night when we were alone.
My 2nd was my long awaited girl, I was so excited to see her.
My 3rd came out so quick and hardly made a noise, I was a bit worried about her, but she was fine and I was so excited to see her.
My 4th was my calmest birth and again, amazing. I have fallen in love with them all the instant I saw them.
Melissa - posted on 04/26/2009
With my daughter It didnt seem real I loved her so much I thought it was too good to be true I was 18 and I thought everyone would take her away I serioulsy didnt stop looking over my shoulder my heart stopping everytime a unexpected car came to our house until she was 2. I cried so much the first week promising her I would do my best.
Mysecond I had lost hope I was told throughout my pregnancy so many bad things I thought he would be still born of course theres no way to be ready for that but I never thought I would have a perfect healthy baby I dont want to look at him at first because I didnt want to admit he wasnt okay but when all the doctors were praising and yelling and so happy I was so Thankfull they gave me my baby and he was perect and health he was born on Nov 07 2008 we were relesed at 4:oo pm The same day
Kelly - posted on 04/26/2009
For me, I had to have general anaesthetic so i wasn't awake till he was about 2 hours old, that i remember, once i got to my room they brought him in to see me. I was still drousy from the surgey, but it was AMAZING, i had seen my sisters kids be born, but these feeling were totally different. i couldn't believe that he was mine, and that i had to take him home and how was i going to do this on my own, what kind of mother am i going to be. i didn't see him that long, and then didn't see him again till the next afternoon cuz he was in the NICU, but after i could get out of bed and walk on my own i went to the NICU to see him as much as they would let me. I was in the hospital for 5 days and he was in the NICU the whole time. but we did get to go home together. he is 5 months now and i still can't believe that he is mine. i love him to death.
Shennandoah - posted on 04/26/2009
I remember when when my Olivia was born that they kept telling me to, "look down, look down." When I did the nurse was pulling her up. I thought, "WOW, there is more of her?!" She was almost 22 inches long. Then i thought, " WOW, she looks just like Todd (my husband)." She is his mini-me. I went through a rollercoaster of emotions in just a few minutes. She didnt cry at first and then started turning purple when they had her on my belly, so they took her away to give her oxygen. She pinked right up when they did that. I went from elation to concern to scared out of my mind then back to elation again.. I didnt cry when she was first born. I didnt cry until she was about a week old and was out to eat with my parents. I just looked at her and started balling. I knew she was special and I knew that I loved her A LOT, but at that moment I completely realized that I had been through one of the most AMAZING and defining times of my life giving birth to her. I loved her so much that my heart actually ached because I could not possibly put it into words how much she meant to me! My parents were asking if I was ok and I couldnt even answer them. Olivia is my miracle. A true gift from God!
Sybil - posted on 04/26/2009
Wesley is my first so i had it all planned what i would say but finally after they put him on my stomach i just broke down and started crying...i was freaking out though cause he wasn't making any sound at all he just stared at me like it was almost liek he was giving this look "what the heck am i doing out here!!" then they took him away and while he was on the warmer table he finally started to to cry..sounded more like a sheep actually and that just made me cry even more
Esther - posted on 04/26/2009
It felt a little surreal to me. Here was this tiny little creature I had never seen before and I knew intellectually that he would be the most important person in my life. It took me several months before I really started to enjoy motherhood though. The first few months were more of a struggle trying to figure out this whole parenting thing, breastfeeding (which I gave up on in the sense that I started pumping and bottle feeding breastmilk), jaundice, NO SLEEP!!!, etc. By the time I had to go back to work (12 weeks) I had started to really bond with my son and I truly started like being a mom at around 6 months. Now my son consumes my every thought and I think he's the most amazing creature that ever lived.
Natalie - posted on 04/25/2009
I had a pretty okay labour, but when she was born i didn't feel the rush of love i expected, and i did feel weird about that, i had her on me for a few mins and then i had to go to theatre for a a couple of hours, i didn't manage to hold her when i got out for a long while as i had drips and various things going on, but i rememeber being on my left on my own with her in the night and she was really crying and would only stop when i picked her up, and at one point i looked into her eyes and she seemed to just look into my soul and i remember just crumbling, everything changed and i connected with her so much right then, I remember feeling so protective, and that was my first real feeling towards her !
she went from being a stranger..... to the most important thing in my life in the space of 14 hours !!!!
what about you, whats your story ?
Shona - posted on 04/25/2009
the feelin you hv evry time you look at your baby can only really be understood if you hv experianced, its not easy 2 explain to someone who is not a mum, tho its the best feelin in the world knowin you created this lil person and that they grew inside you.xx
Kelly - posted on 04/25/2009
I was prepared to have feelings of overwhelming love, but my first thought was actually, "This is weird. This is my baby and I don't recognize him." For my second baby, I didn't expect the overwhelming love instantly so my first thought with her was, "She's so skinny!" And a lot of relief because pushing was so painful. BTW, I am so in love with my kids and it took no time at all.
Tara - posted on 04/25/2009
Words definitely can't fully describe the feelings I felt! I was bonded to my little boy before he was even born and the love I felt for him was nothing I have ever experienced in my entire life. I had an amazing labour but when it came time to push his heart rate dropped and the cord was around his neck so there was urgency to get him out and within 20 minutes the doctor held him up for me to see him and I couldn't believe my eyes, I felt as though I was dreaming. I was in shock that he was finally here, that we had created such a beautiful little baby and just how amazing the whole experience was. I didn't get to hold him right away as he had to be checked to be sure all was okay. He was crying and when I held him for the first time he stopped crying and just stared at me and as did I to him. It is the most amazing feeling and I often daydream about that moment as it goes by so fast and now my little man is 6 1/2 months old!
Candice - posted on 04/25/2009
i cried the second she came out and don't think i stopped for a week. i was absolutely terrified...that she wouldn't be healthy, that i wouldn't be able to do it, that i had no idea what to do with this tiny little creature. i remember touching her face ...like poking her...with one finger...sort of confused, and scared. for the first month i felt like i was taking care of a stranger's kid. the day i felt attached to her for the first time i felt so relieved. i thought it was supposed to happen right away, but i just didn't feel it for so long. now i don't know what i'd do without her. i'm in love. she turns 1 next week and i can't believe how much she's changed since that day. the last of the true miracles.
Gemma - posted on 04/24/2009
wow its so hard to put into words .... i had such a good pregnancy untill the last hour of labor her heart rate dropped and it was such a panic to get her out i remember managing to get her out in 10 minutes of hard pushing and finally seeing her purple and white from her cord wrapped around her neck she wasnt crying and i started to panic i looked over and 15 doctors where in the room calling codes and i wasnt being told what was going on i remember feeling so hopeless and lost and just looking around at all the doctors talking to finally hearing them say dad come with us were taking her to nicu and there i was left after having my baby with me for 9 months everyday to now holding a piece of toast in my hands and my mother beside me in an empty quiet room ... weird weird feeling but seeing her after i was aloud was just undescribable i really could not believe i had made such a miracle i still look at her today and think that !!! a feeling nobody could ever forget thats for sure
Brenda - posted on 04/24/2009
After 20 long hours of labor, I wasn't thinking of much except getting it over, but they laid my little boy on my chest and I just stared. I thought, Oh my God he's purple, and he started sucking in air to let out the incredible screams that he would assail my ears for months with (thank you colic), and I looked at his fingers and toes and said "He's got dragon nails!" because they were so long. I was more in awe and shock than anything I think, my husband bawled his eyes out but I didn't cry till we brought him home. It was something indescribable, really, and I wonder if my second which I'll have in the next couple weeks will be the same or a different experience. I did go through some PPD, but my husband helped me through it. I think the only thing I can remember thinking was "I did that..." when I looked at him, because for the first time in my life, it was something entirely of my creation (and my husband's of course, but I did the hard part, ;)...)
Lisa - posted on 04/24/2009
With my first he was a few hours old before I saw him because I had a general anaesthetic with an emergency caesarian, then I found out that my mum and sister had held him before me and I was devastated. I had PND with him and it was months before I bonded with him. With my second I had another caesarian but I was awake so they brought him over to me once he was wrapped just to say hi and then he was taken to the special care nursery because he was born a month early. I didn't get too many opportunities to see him in the first 24 hours but I cuddled him every opportunity I got. He had to have phototherapy for two days for jaundice, and one night he would not settle for the nurse but as soon as I went in and put my hand on his stomach he stopped crying. That made me feel so happy, and I had no PND with him. How did you feel when you first saw your baby?
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