how do I handle separation anxiety in the middle of the night?

Angela - posted on 12/19/2012

My issue is similar, and hes so worked up and Im so sleepy I feel like I make mistakes. I try not to take him out of his crib unless hes beyond hysterical/teething. Tonight he was standing up crying saying mamamamamamam.... So I would go in.. Hug him, shhhh him him, give him his paci then ease him back to a laying position. It took.me 3 times doing that till now hes asleep. Sometimes though, hes so hysterical when he first wakes up theres no consoling.him. & thats when I fwel like I make mistakes cuz I pick him up. Ugh.. This is so hard. My son turned 9 months old today.

Angela - posted on 12/19/2012

My issue is similar, and hes so worked up and Im so sleepy I feel like I make mistakes. I try not to take him out of his crib unless hes beyond hysterical/teething. Tonight he was standing up crying saying mamamamamamam.... So I would go in.. Hug him, shhhh him him, give him his paci then ease him back to a laying position. It took.me 3 times doing that till now hes asleep. Sometimes though, hes so hysterical when he first wakes up theres no consoling.him. & thats when I feel like I make mistakes cuz I pick him up. Ugh.. This is so hard. My son turned 9 months old today.

Angela - posted on 12/19/2012

My issue is similar, and hes so worked up and Im so sleepy I feel like I make mistakes. I try not to take him out of his crib unless hes beyond hysterical/teething. Tonight he was standing up crying saying mamamamamamam.... So I would go in.. Hug him, shhhh him him, give him his paci then ease him back to a laying position. It took.me 3 times doing that till now hes asleep. Sometimes though, hes so hysterical when he first wakes up theres no consoling.him. & thats when I feel like I make mistakes cuz I pick him up. Ugh.. This is so hard. My son turned 9 months old today.

Angela - posted on 12/19/2012

My issue is similar, and hes so worked up and Im so sleepy I feel like I make mistakes. I try not to take him out of his crib unless hes beyond hysterical/teething. Tonight he was standing up crying saying mamamamamamam.... So I would go in.. Hug him, shhhh him him, give him his paci then ease him back to a laying position. It took.me 3 times doing that till now hes asleep. Sometimes though, hes so hysterical when he first wakes up theres no consoling.him. & thats when I feel like I make mistakes cuz I pick him up. Ugh.. This is so hard. My son turned 9 months old today.

Angela - posted on 12/19/2012

My issue is similar, and hes so worked up and Im so sleepy I feel like I make mistakes. I try not to take him out of his crib unless hes beyond hysterical/teething. Tonight he was standing up crying saying mamamamamamam.... So I would go in.. Hug him, shhhh him him, give him his paci then ease him back to a laying position. It took.me 3 times doing that till now hes asleep. Sometimes though, hes so hysterical when he first wakes up theres no consoling.him. & thats when I feel like I make mistakes cuz I pick him up. Ugh.. This is so hard. My son turned 9 months old today.

Carolina - posted on 07/02/2009

Thank you Beth...you're right :)

Beth - posted on 07/02/2009

Trust yourself honey. You are his mom and you know best. If picking him up soothes him then do it. He'll only be this age once and you alone are his most important source of comfort right now.

Carolina - posted on 07/02/2009

thanks moms!....I guess it could be all of the above (teething, anxiety and/or a huge milestone)! lol...should I pick him up then? because sometimes that's the only thing that helps

Elizabeth - posted on 07/01/2009

Yes, my daughter 7mths does this throughout the night also. We put her to bed around 8-9pm at which time she has her last bottle and then depending on each night she tends to wake up approx 10pm, 2am, 4am,5am then 6am. Some nights she'll only wake twice but mostly it's as per above. when she wakes up i just put her pacifier back in her mouth & she goes back to sleep. I asked my local Early Childhood Centre nurse about this as i find it exhausting getting up so often at night i wanted help or advice & she recommended i stick it out & she will outgrow it as my only other option would've been to get rid of her paci for good but it would take a form of the controlled crying method to achieve this which they no longer recommend as it's not good for them. I hope this helps :)

Ashley - posted on 07/01/2009

dont worry i do the same with m y daughter just if u have to stay in his room try some backround sound of a sort and he should be ok good luck

Rachel - posted on 07/01/2009

Its normal. I would co-sleep and my daughter would still wake up crying. Same thing, pop that paci in, rub the hair, and she snuggled back in. Now in her crib at 11 months, my daughter still does this from time to time though it was worse for us around your son's age. Now, she may wake with a short cry but settle herself back in.

What helped me get thru, was learning that the baby's nervous system isn't quite adept to regulating themselves yet. (BabyCenter?) Its normal that when they get scared they need Mom to reset the nerves for them. That's why they go right back to sleep with a little reassurance. Hope it helps!

Vicki - posted on 07/01/2009

My boy is the same age :)

Is your son teething? He might be needing additional comfort if he is in pain. That could very well continue for awhile- there was a week or so my little guy was really hurting. But don't worry, because it WILL eventually pass, even if it doesn't seem like it now.